u/WhiteWindmills

Hi everyone. I was recently playing a GWM/Polearm/Master/Sentinel Warlock13/Fighter1 in an Eve of Ruin campaign. I built her to be great in combat with the Polearm build and also specialize in INT checks for Arcana/History/Religion and all that.

Was having a great time playing her, but a couple players at our table just switched characters last session. One is now an Artificer with maxed out INT checks, the other is a Paladin that came with a +3 halberd and a belt of storm giant strength. Paladin also has maxed out CHA and CON and also uses the GWM/Polearm Master/Sentinel feats. So between those 2 characters my Warlock is completely redundant. They both do what she did, just way better.

Trying to figure out what I can play next. We roll stats at this table. There's five players in all. We've got a World Tree Barbarian and a Sorlock in addition to the two characters I mentioned earlier.

I'm pretty much out of ideas. My Warlock was my second character in this campaign. I was previously playing a Bladesinger Wizard but the DM kind of turned that character into a joke so I switched away from her a few sessions ago.

I want to play something that will be impactful and contribute to the party in and out of combat. Any advice or ideas would be very much appreciated!

Thank you for reading!

Hi everyone. I was recently playing a GWM/Polearm/Master/Sentinel Warlock13/Fighter1 in an Eve of Ruin campaign. I built her to be great in combat with the Polearm build and also specialize in INT checks for Arcana/History/Religion and all that.

Was having a great time playing her, but a couple players at our table just switched characters last session. One is now an Artificer with maxed out INT checks, the other is a Paladin that came with a +3 halberd and a belt of storm giant strength. Paladin also has maxed out CHA and CON and also uses the GWM/Polearm Master/Sentinel feats. So between those 2 characters my Warlock is completely redundant. They both do what she did, just way better.

Trying to figure out what I can play next. We roll stats at this table. There's five players in all. We've got a World Tree Barbarian and a Sorlock in addition to the two characters I mentioned earlier.

I'm pretty much out of ideas. My Warlock was my second character in this campaign. I was previously playing a Bladesinger Wizard but the DM kind of turned that character into a joke so I switched away from her a few sessions ago.

I want to play something that will be impactful and contribute to the party in and out of combat. Any advice or ideas would be very much appreciated!

Thank you for reading!

Hello everyone. I (30F) have been with my partner (30NB) for 5 years and some change now, and I am struggling in this relationship.

We've lived together for nearly 5 years. When we moved in together, things were okay but have since degraded quite a bit. We no longer are intimate in the bedroom and haven't been for a long time and have a lot of issues. I don't know how to proceed with making things better.

My partner is on disability due to ASD and does not work. They cover half of rent and utilities. I work 40 hours a week at a full time job. The household chores are split, if I'm being generous, 60% to 40%. I am the 60%. We split kitchen duties 50-50. I am the only one that cleans the bathroom, which I do weekly. I wash the sheets and fold/put away the laundry. They tend to start the clothing laundry more often than I do. When my partner does the dishes, they do not scrub or rinse the dishes at all, so they come out dirty sometimes. They also leave food residue/bits in the sink afterwards. They do all the cooking. I cook occasionally and feed myself about half the time.

I take care of everything else. Neither of us drive. I can drive but not confidently and am inexperienced and don't have my license. I was practicing for my license test, but the person who was helping me moved away. I schedule all their appointments, whether it be doctor, dentist, or anything else. I also go with them to all their appointments at their request because they "don't know how" to fill out paperwork/check in, etc. I also manage their disability and insurance coverage. I was even paying for the insurance for them for a while, until I switched it over to a new plan with a lower premium for them.

They have said before that they are depressed and that they have anxiety. They never seek out treatment or try to change anything. They've had one session with a therapist, but I had to find the therapist and schedule the appointment for them.

I manage rent, utilities, internet, accounts like Amazon and Instacart. We moved last year, and I arranged everything and paid for the move. I pay for the Internet and the Amazon and Instacart subscription, as well as our joint Spotify account. I pay for half of groceries. My partner eats 2/3 to 3/4 of the food week to week, depending on what we bought.

I have depression and anxiety as well. I went to therapy for a long time and am on medication. Recently I had to discontinue therapy because it wasn't helping and I couldn't afford it. I self medicated with alcohol for a long time, and had some blackouts where I said mean things to my partner. I have stopped drinking completely. Things have gotten so bad lately, I was planning to kill myself in March.

I try to ask my partner how they feel and address problems and imbalances that I've noticed, but they never engage. When I ask how they feel, they just say okay or that they're tired, even when that's clearly not true. I tell them every day that I love them, that I think they're smart, that I think they're cute and good looking. I encourage them to do things that make them happy, spend time with friends, talk to their family, pursue their hobbies, etc. They do not tell me those things, or anything like it. They never say anything good about me unless I bring it up.

I cannot tell my partner how I feel. They get angry at me if I tell them I'm suicidal. They shut down if I say I'm stressed or depressed or upset. I asked for ways that would help them communicate how they feel, and they suggested a whiteboard where they could write how they're feeling. I bought the whiteboard, but they've never used it. They also say they don't remember having that conversation.

There are other things too. I don't know what to do to improve things. Couple's therapy maybe? How can I improve the health of our relationship?

TL;DR: I 30f am struggling in my 5 year relationship with my partner NB 30. I work full time and they are on disability. I do most of the cleaning and manage everything from rent and groceries to their disability and appointments. We have trouble communicating and have not been able to resolve it. They have not made efforts to improve. How can I help to make things better?

Hello! I recently received a new magic item in a campaign I'm playing in and wanted to get some thoughts on it.

For context, us players are level 13 and currently doing some questing in a small homebrew setting the DM plugged into a pre-written module. We recently were given the opportunity to gather some materials and request a specialized blacksmith to make some bespoke magic items for the party, if we pay a large sum of gold for each item.

My character is an Eladrin Bladesinger Wizard, and I'm very much leaning into the "Blade" aspect of that particular subclass, so I requested a rapier.

The weapon I got was really cool. It deals an extra 1d8 of lightning damage and grants lightning resistance. It came with a special bonus action: When my character moves 20 feet in a straight line, I can use a bonus action to teleport 20 feet in that same direction, and make an attack roll against any creature my character passes through. On a hit, the creature takes 4d8 lightning damage.

This is where I'm looking for some feedback here, as I might be crazy. My DM asked me what I thought of the weapon, and I answered honestly. I thanked them for making it and I said I thought it was a really cool idea, but I also said I don't think my character would use it very often.

My character has Illusionists Bracers and uses Fey/Misty Step to move around the battlefield. Both of these use my bonus action, in addition to mandatory bonus action required to use Bladesong in combat. So my initial impression was that the rapier's feature wouldn't be used much because of the 20-foot movement activation condition and the better options for movement and damage I already have tied to my bonus action.

Requiring my character move 20 feet before using the feature is a bit unwieldy. I'd have to move 20 feet first, so I couldn't really use it unless I was approaching a target. The damage is also fairly weak. 4d8 at level 13 just isn't much, and it's a fairly commonly resisted damage type.

The DM said that they wanted me to enjoy using the item, and made some amendments to it to try and make it a bit more viable for my character. Now it has 5 charges getting a d4 back every day. While it has charges it gets the d8 extra damage and resistance to lightning. The teleport-attack now uses a charge and was changed to no longer require my character to move first, and the distance was increased to 30 feet.

The rapier was made in collaboration between my DM and another DM friend of ours. The friend DM actually thought the first iteration of the item was too strong, so I'm torn. Was the first version actually just busted good like she thought or was I correct in pointing out that it might have been a little under-tuned for a level 13 Bladesinger?

TL;DR got a weapon that a couple DMs made for my level 13 Bladesinger. It deals an extra 1d8 lightning and grants lightning resistance. After my character moves 20 feet in a straight line she can use a bonus action to teleport 20 more feet in that direction and attack anything she went through, dealing 4d8 lightning. I said it was a bit underwhelming so it got changed to need 1/5 charges, doesn't need my character to move first, distance is now 30 feet. Everything else is the same. Was I dumb and the teleport was actually really strong to start with?

Thank you for reading! I hope you're having a wonderful day!