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My dad has undiagnosed ADHD. My family was finally able to get him to consider taking some of the online tests, and if multiple of them say he is likely ADHD he will get tested.

I have been diagnosed, and I noticed so many of my symptoms in my father, we are not trying to get him diagnosed for the wrong reasons we truly believe he would greatly benefit from it.

And during our conversation today he started to notice it to, “You mean when like your mom is talking to me and I am actively trying to listen to her but can’t it might just be adhd and not like- my flaw? Like it’s not something inherently wrong with me?”

My dad has always struggled with executive dysfunction, time blindness, procrastination and much more. If I can find accurate tests to help encourage him to see a neurologist I really believe learning more about it for himself and learning coping strategies and techniques would not just benefit him but also my parents relationships.

My mom admitted to him during our conversation today a lot of their fights are because of struggles he faces with remembering things. She said, “Most guys choose to not do things, the only reason I try to be patient with you is because I believe you truly just forget to do them.” And you could hear in my dad’s voice how concerned he was that it wasn’t just a “guy” thing to be forgetful.

So what I am asking is if any of you know accurate, good representation online tests for my dad to take. I’ve been trying to find some but anything helps.

Thank you so much in advance 🙏

My dad has undiagnosed ADHD. My family was finally able to get him to consider taking some of the online tests, and if multiple of them say he is likely ADHD he will get tested.

I have been diagnosed, and I noticed so many of my symptoms in my father, we are not trying to get him diagnosed for the wrong reasons we truly believe he would greatly benefit from it.

And during our conversation today he started to notice it to, “You mean when like your mom is talking to me and I am actively trying to listen to her but can’t it might just be adhd and not like- my flaw? Like it’s not something inherently wrong with me?”

My dad has always struggled with executive dysfunction, time blindness, procrastination and much more. If I can find accurate tests to help encourage him to see a neurologist I really believe learning more about it for himself and learning coping strategies and techniques would not just benefit him but also my parents relationships.

My mom admitted to him during our conversation today a lot of their fights are because of struggles he faces with remembering things. She said, “Most guys choose to not do things, the only reason I try to be patient with you is because I believe you truly just forget to do them.” And you could hear in my dad’s voice how concerned he was that it wasn’t just a “guy” thing to be forgetful.

So what I am asking is if any of you know accurate, good representation online tests for my dad to take. I’ve been trying to find some but anything helps.

Thank you so much in advance 🙏

All I know is I want it to be frog themed as I plan to have all frog residents and a swamp/marshy theme to it. Here’s some ones I’m debating but I’m open to suggestions.

Edit: I have chosen to go with Frog Falls. Honestly it was the one I was leaning towards, but I guess I needed to hear others opinions first. My native fruit is pears 🍐 and my starting villagers are Reneigh and Peck, which I think are both pretty solid. They won’t be staying forever as I will be replacing them with frogs but that won’t be for awhile. Thanks again everyone!

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I’ve been debating back and forth for like a month now.

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Long story short I had low oxygen, found the source of a bacterial bloom consuming the oxygen. I removed the source and have been increasing oxygen through water changes and added an air bubbler.

I got his oxygen back to 90%.

This morning his oxygen was low again- around 50% I’m still not sure but I left an air bubbler in the tank while I was at work.

I came back to high oxygen but a spike in pH. He went from 7.0 this morning to 7.8. He is in shock. (Lethargy + rapid darting, clamped fins, gasping.)

Other than removing the bubbler and darkening his tank, is there anything else I can do to help him?

I’m truly scared he might not make it and my heart can’t take that. I love him so much. Please give any advice you have. Thank you. 🙏

My betta, Alpine, has been struggling a lot and I’ve been struggling a lot to try and fix everything.

I just purchased a ZT-CH dissolved oxygen probe and it calculated my DO to be 4.3mg/L and 53.8% DO saturation. I’ve adjusted my filter to start breaking the water surface and added an air bubbler and will be starting with a 25% water change but what else can I do?

I have no idea what happened to cause this and could also use advice on how to prevent this in the future- and anything on long term management. I know the air bubbler and filter disrupting surface water cannot be daily things as they cause lots of stress

I’m also doing a 25% water change, adding API Stress Coat, API Quick Start, and API pH Down. (Tank pH is currently 7.8)

I will answer the mod questions in the comment below

Hello,

My betta is currently in a 5 gallon tank but I think he would greatly benefit from a 10 gallon tank. I know I should aim for long broad leaf plants with soft edges but what kind exactly? How many should I expect to buy to properly fill up the space? I’m working on saving up / setting aside the money to make this change.

Thank you in advance 🙏

Long story short my tap water at home has suddenly increased from 7.0 pH to 8.8+ pH. No idea why. Would I be able to use store bought water (ex: ice mountain, Aquafina) for a source of neutral pH? My tank water is up to 7.8 currently.

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Here’s a form with the results button- so sorry about the first one, it was my first time making a post like this.

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Hi guys! My male antuta is about 3.5" and my female is 2.75". They have spawned. The male has a mouthful of eggs. Currently they are housed together, trouble free, as they have always been trouble free. Never any aggression. The male has been holding for about 3 days now.

Do I remove the female? Should I put her in her own cycled tank or should she go in a community tank with just bushynose plecos and guppies? Or should I remove the male? Any tips of any kind on antutas and breeding them would be appreciated.

What do I feed the fry? I've never hatched brine shrimp I've always fed livebearer and cichlid fry Hikari first bites or similar powdered fry food. Is that ok for baby antutas?

Please help :)

I got my betta on a light cycle and I don’t want to disrupt his sleep. However I cannot sleep so I wanna get up and play some games, but I don’t want to wake him. Are bettas heavy sleepers or should I stay doom scrolling on my phone?

Honestly it’s such a long story…

But very long story short: I got a job in November as a lab animal husbandry technician. Meaning I worked with research animals- but not the research aspect. My job was caring for the animals, making sure they had food, water, clean bedding, health checks, etc.

Another long story short: Some mice I thought I was going to be able to adopt and take home I couldn’t. I put in my two week notice at the job just hoping to God the 4 of them would be okay for two more weeks… 2 of them have since been euthanized. Not for health purposes, not for research purposes… because the lab researcher has a full room, and instead of spending more money to get a larger room they just occasionally send someone in to pick random cages to euthanize.

The other 2 will be dead by the end of the month if not sooner. The study ends 5/30/26… once it ends there’s no need for the mice and they’re all euthanized.

I am so grief stricken.

I’m angry.

I’m helpless.

There is absolutely nothing I could have done to prevent the two deaths and there is nothing I can do to stop the other two.

Tomorrow is my last day. I plan to at least say goodbye to the two mice I thought I could adopt. But I’m not good with grief.

Any and all advice is welcome.

Thank you.