u/Wonderful-Manner7552

Hello,
My fiancé is a business development manager at a law firm in NYC and his work life balance doesn't really exist anymore. Is it like this at every major law firm in NYC? Is this just the industry norm working with big law? Does no one sleep? He doesn't even have the time to research whether or not it would be worth it to try to find a different BDM role at another law firm or if he will just run into the same work culture (expected to work as many hours as necessary to finish the daily workload, typically until 10pm-1am I'm not kidding) no matter the firm. Is it realistically possible to find a BDM role at a law firm in NYC that only expects him to work 9-6:30pm? I'm trying to help him figure out this piece of information first so he can decide if he needs to pivot to another role/industry because this isn't working for either of us.

My engagement party is this Sunday and I still haven’t found a stand for our welcome sign. It’s 18x24 poster board that we got custom made but all the easels and poster stands on Amazon are marked as “frequently returned item.” What the hell Amazon?? I thought I could put this off to the week before and get something delivered before Sunday.

For those who used a similar stand for your wedding events, please share the brand or store or link if by the grace of God you have it. TIA

My vision for my wedding is almost like a rock opera, a music video of sorts. Guests arrive to a pre-ceremony cocktail where the servers are acapella (sp?) singers/performers wearing microphone headset while gliding around the room serving champagne from silver platters. Once the day-of coordinator gives the green light that all guests have arrived, the servers/performers would then usher the guests through a walkway that has violinists and other musicians stationed along the way playing one song that the servers are also singing the lyrics to, as they usher the guests to the room where the ceremony will take place.

Fast forward to the reception, and there will be a set list of music playing for each segment of the reception that I’ve already started building. I need a live band and a DJ and I need to be able to work with both the band and the DJ on the setlists and song order over the next year before the wedding day. This would basically be like a monthly rehearsal and probably biweekly meetings with the DJ who would ideally be in the same company as the band/performers. There are certain songs that need to be mixed a certain way so this will take a lot of collaboration and planning to make it all come together.

ANYWAY, does anyone have any recommendations for the vendor(s) offering such services?
-Performers who can also serve drinks as part of the performance
-A choir
-A band that can perform a wide range of music (Rap, Disco, Rock, Punk, Folk, Psychedelic) and ideally can provide some band members to act as soloists for the pre-reception walk through to the ceremony room
-DJ who is open to custom set lists and mixing
-An MC (not really hard to find, just being comprehensive)
-anything else I’m missing or another vendor that I’m not aware of

I know this is exorbitant and I do not care. Thank you!

There is a self-help workbook I want to buy but I’m debating if I should buy the paper copy and fill it out by hand, or get the digital copy and read it / fill it out via my iPad.

Does anyone have any recommendations for an app or tips for easily being able to write on the page itself with the iPad? The closest thing I could find was being able to add a note on a page through Amazon kindle or on PDF expert - but I’d like to write in my responses in the blank spaces on the actual page using my apple pen (where the pen turns my hand writing into typed text). Any suggestions would be helpful for how to be able to do this on my iPad so I can keep re-using the workbook with fresh entries if I wanted to do it again in the future (can’t do that with a paper copy)

Thanks!

For my productive people with ADHD: How are we working on tasks in a linear way instead of bouncing around from task to task or project to project at work? I’m having a tough time with completing anything at work because I work on one thing then think about the other project I’m working on and how the thing I’m working on is relevant to that other project and I’ll copy/paste some stuff into the other project so I don’t have to go looking for it again when I need it the next time I’m working on that other task 🥸 I know…. I’m now aware this creates more work for me in the present and slows my production way down. I’m not completing anything and my plate is getting more full by the week and I’m burned out at work.

Any tips would be much appreciated. Looking for tips on:
-How to complete multi step projects in a linear (task 1, then task 2, then task 3) way
-Methods for planning out the steps of an ambiguous project that don’t take me longer than a few hours
-How to stay focused on one task when I see an overlap with other project tasks im also working on
-freestyle tips if it roughly applies and doesn’t fit in to any of the above questions

Thanks!

So I am managing the launch of a program and I have to categorize tasks that must get done before the program can launch by the department in which they fall (Ops and Admin, Finance, Legal, Technology, etc) and then send the category of tasks to each director of that department so Tech would get tech tasks, and so on. These task charts are all in the launch timeline section of the program launch plan which has everything about the program and should have all the necessary info every department needs to do what they need to do before launch.

The first task for all departments (Ops and Admin, Finance, etc) is to Review the launch plan and confirm their readiness checklist is accurate; Subtasks for the first task for everyone is to review the tasks I put into their readiness checklist chart to ensure it's comprehensive and accurate and to edit accordingly if needed; Fill in the chart with additional tasks and confirm with me when it's complete; Flag me if there is missing info from the program launch plan that they need to complete pre-launch tasks related to their department (Ops and Admin, Finance, etc); Establish work timelines in the readiness checklist chart; Contact me to coordinate next steps and/or meet with me for support, questions, and next steps.

Does it makes sense and will people understand what they're supposed to do in a straightforward way?

I recently got hired at a start up company for a role that wasn’t developed when I started interviewing with the owners of the company (there was a mutual connection with an employee who recommended that the owners meet me). My interviews with the owners led to the development of the role I’m now in, which is at an executive director level. I started the job in April.

When I first joined, I did onboarding meetings with each department director and lower level managers plus some staff to “understand what everyone’s role is and what they do.” Those meetings were hard for me because in almost every one of them, the person was confused about what MY role was and why I was hired. I also had a hard time answering that at the time because it seemed like for every answer I gave about my role (assisting with process improvement, streamlining and standardizing policies and procedures, and business development) there was someone in a director position with a team responsible for those things and I was perceived to be “stepping on other people’s toes.”

I also had only a vague idea of how anything worked because the business is confusing and the owners explain it by drawing a picture on a piece of paper and showing it to the camera (virtual meetings) so I wasn’t sure what I’d be specifically doing. It feels so embarrassing to even admit this on this post because who accepts a job they don’t understand!! I just thought I would figure it out and work with people to execute projects and build programs. But like, everyone feels so far away and most tasks have like 5 walls I can’t seem to break through to complete anything.

I have so much imposter syndrome and the company I work for is a start up, which means decisions frequently change and projects change directions FAST - and everyone seems to understand how things work except for me. When I ask questions, I get a feeling like I’m being judged and that people are annoyed with me. I feel like a burden and it’s impacted my emotions to the point where I’m so anxious that it’s hard to get myself to start working on things that involve communicating with other people. I’m also afraid I’ll deliver the wrong information and get in trouble for confusing everyone and making a simple thing more difficult than it should be.

Every week I meet with my boss who is a c-suite executive and Ive shared these concerns and my worries that I’m not meeting expectations. My boss has given me more support but it’s still high level and vague and my boss seems to be annoyed I don’t already know these things and have more questions than answers.

I also meet with the owners of the company and my boss every week and those meetings are SO tense. One day the CEO just started showing up to that meeting and he was really nice in my interview but he mostly ignores me or gets visibly annoyed and/or bored when I speak. These meetings are where big ideas come out and if I wasn’t recording every meeting and transcribing it afterwards, then obviously deleting the recording and keeping the relevant notes, I’d have no idea what to do.

I’m so sorry this is so long. I’m anxious and procrastinating starting my work. I just feel so stupid whenever I open my mouth. I don’t know what to do but I don’t know what to ask either. As an executive director, I feel like I shouldn’t have questions based on how my questions are received by others (cold, withholding, unhelpful).

Please help me. I have left work twice in tears since starting 3 months ago. I know i can do this work. On paper, it’s not hard. But the people make things so fucked up and turned around. What do i do to get myself back on track and start directing others to do what they’re supposed to do when we all have a project we’re involved in?

Hey everyone,
One of my best friends is staying with me this week because our other friend’s engagement party. HOWEVER, she is here several days before that event and I, unfortunately, have to work and can’t spend the next two days with her.

MY QUESTION:
Where can she go to watch the World Cup game tomorrow? Preferably in Herald square area, as she is meeting a friend who is coming from NJ via the PATH.

Thank you!!! I want her to have a blast while she’s here, even if I’m not able to be there :)

I know there have been threads about other subscription based beauty services, but I can’t find anything on here about Glow Girl NYC.

Pretty much the same premise as the rest of them, like License to Glow. But I’m taking the lack of information about it as a good sign (instead of horrible reviews)

Anyone heard of Glow Girl?