u/Worried-Swan9572

First of all, I know that moving abroad without an established career was the wrong choice. Before you come here to roast me, just know that I'm already roasting myself every single day for every bad choice that I've made in the past few years, so there's that.

I had roughly 2 years of experience as a software developer at the time I moved from an EU country to a different EU country (that was back in 2024). I was working remotely for a company based in the UK. Anyway, long story short, I lost that job shortly after moving (6 months in). I have been unemployed ever since, and I do not qualify for welfare since I don't meet the minimum work requirement in my new country of residence.

Honestly, I don't know what went through my head when I made the decision to move here, but what's done is done (I could elaborate but I feel like that would not be relevant to this subreddit). Here's my current situation:

• living with my boyfriend (he still has a job so he supports us both financially)
• can't get benefits because I don't meet the minimum work history requirement here
• can't get a job because I don't speak the local language (I've been learning it but it's difficult af and the progress is extremely slow)
• can't get another job as a software developer because that train has departed...companies no longer hire mid and junior developers at all, and it's only getting worse (been applying for both contract jobs on Upwork and actual jobs on LinkedIn but I just can't land anything)
• requalifying takes years, and I don't know if I can stay sane for that long without a job and an income

Is anyone else here (or has been) in my situation? What's your plan B? And if this was in the past, what did you choose to do after losing your job: did you move back to your home country or did you find another job in your new country of residence?

I've tried everything, online resources, books, AI, but nothing is helping so I'm turning back to the good old 'ask somebody' method.

I find the 'syllable' explanation very confusing. It's a bit embarrassing, but I could never really understand how syllables work either. If I try to split words into syllables, I always get them wrong. That's one reason why I don't understand how consonant gradation works...because the explanations usually involve syllables, and it confuses me even more because I'm a dumb shithead who cannot split words into syllables.

Can anyone here actually simplify KPT without involving syllables into the explanation? I understand that 'nt' becomes 'nn' and 'kk' becomes 'k' and all that stuff (just an example), but I never know when to apply it. I'm trying to practice noun inflection and I can never get it right because I never know when to apply KPT. For instance, how come that 'etu' turns to 'edusta' (KPT applies here, because the T turns into D) but 'kunnia' turns into 'kunnian' not 'kunian' (the 'nn' remains unchanged, it doesn't turn into one 'n')? Why does this happen only to some words and not others?

I have been trying to memorize vocabulary using flashcards but it's not working. Nothing is sticking. I can review the same flashcard 50 times a day and still not memorize it.

Does anyone know any other ways of memorizing new words? They just won't stick :(

 

EDIT: Thank you all for the useful advice! I will try to switch to writing my own flashcards, since many of the comments have mentioned it and its benefits for learning new vocabulary.

Salut. O să fiu foarte directă. Am 29 de ani și am ajuns la capăt de linie în ceea ce privește cariera mea. Nu am un plan B, și sunt șomeră de 10 luni deja și simt că încep să o iau razna. Momentan nu locuiesc în România, dar plănuiesc să mă întorc în câteva săptămâni în țară și să încerc să îmi găsesc un drum în viață.

Am terminat o facultate cu profil uman, dar fiindcă nu am găsit nimic de muncă în aria studiilor, m-am reprofilat pe partea de tech. Am învățat singură programare și am lucrat 3 ani ca frontend developer. Au fost 3 ani grei, foarte grei, pentru că nu mi-a plăcut ce am făcut, nu am fost bună la ce am făcut și nu în ultimul rând, nu m-am regăsit în domeniu. Acum doresc să schimb direcția, dar simt că nu prea am opțiuni, pentru că webdev-ul nu prea are paralele cu alte domenii, iar momentan din motive personale nu mai pot să mă întorc la facultate. Cam astea ar fi criteriile mele:

- barieră de intrare low (cu posibilitatea de a găsi un job entry level care să nu ceară ani de experiență);

- să nu fiu nevoită să scriu cod (foarte important);

- să nu fie tech support sau customer support;

Nu mă deranjează dacă nu-mi găsesc de muncă remote, dacă salariul de început nu e unul mare, sau dacă trebuie să mai fac o certificare în plus (atâta vreme cât certificarea respectivă ar dura mai puțin de 6 luni).

Aveți ceva sugestii pentru mine? Mulțumesc anticipat!

I have been learning Finnish for the past few weeks and I've honestly managed to learn more than I though I would. I am starting to understand conversations when I hear them, I am developing my vocabulary, and I learn something new every day. There is, however, one thing that won't stick: the cases.

I know what each case means when I see it in a sentence. When I see -ssa/-ssä I know that means "in". When I see -sta/stä I know that means "out of something". When I see "-lle" I know that means "to". I won't continue, you get the idea. However, the problem arises when I try to make my own sentences, because I never know which case I need to use. I am doing some practice on Taivuta but I cannot make sense of how to use the cases when building my own sentences. I always seem to pick the wrong case and when I click on the explanation, I almost never understand the explanation either.

I am bad with grammar jargon so it's hard to understand why each rule happens. Can anyone suggest some easy to digest resource for learning the Finnish case system?

Does anyone here have positive stories regarding finding work in Finland as an immigrant in the past 2 years or so? I'm in a bit of a pickle career wise and would like to change my career. I am also learning Finnish on the side. However, learning Finnish and changing my career is, realistically speaking, a 3 year commitment. I would like to know if it's worth risking a 3 year gap on my resume to learn Finnish and go back to school (it is not possible for me to work in my previous career field) or if I should take the safer option and return to my home country.

Since the trend on this subreddit has been doom and gloom lately, I'd like to know whether that's a realistic representation of life in Finland or if the reality is a bit better than the constant negativity that I see on here. Has any of you been able to find a job in Finland in the past few years? How long did it take you and what skills did you need besides the language? Thank you.

So I'm trying to find out if this is a common thing for other people with ADHD. I've currently restarted my programming journey after an extended break. I gave myself this break to figure out if the mental fog would clear up, but now that I'm back I'm just experiencing the same issue that made me quit the first time around.

Now on to the issue...My brain gets 'lost' when the app I'm working on gets too complicated. Let's take a concrete example...Let's say I have a function that checks some conditions upon clicking a button. If my function contains 2-3 conditions, I'll be able to read and understand the code perfectly. Now, if that function gets more complicated, let's say I add 4 more conditions and some more logic...My brain will literally zone out and not understand the whole function anymore. Do you know the concept of semantic satiation? Basically when you repeat a word so many times that it's starting to lose its meaning...if you try to say 'aluminium' 30 times, by the time you've reached the 25th time it will no longer feel like a real, actual world. Soon it will sound really alien and unreal and it will no longer make any sense. Now take that and apply it to programming, that's exactly how I feel. My brain just zones out and I can't bring myself to continue writing code anymore. And before you ask, yes, I generally enjoy programming and find it interesting, it's just that my brain feels incapable of it when things get complex.

Is anyone else experiencing this? Is this the ADHD or is my brain just not wired for programming? Or both?

I know that nobody can predict the future, but I'm still curious to hear some opinions on this. The global job market is the worst it's ever been (in recent history). And it's only getting worse. Back in 2008 we had a clear reason for the financial crisis: too many people took out loans that they couldn't pay back. I know it's an oversimplification, but it's the most straightforward explanation of the 2007/2008 financial crisis. In 2026, we don't have a clear cause. It's an amalgam of factors...AI, outsourcing, wars, high interest rates, late stage capitalism and corporate greed, etc. So if we don't have one clear factor to address, how is the job market ever going to recover? Especially when companies have so much power that humans have become disposable trash to them, and they're only growing stronger. The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer.

Americans would blame Trump for this. But what about the rest of the world? I'm from Europe and it's just as bad here, if not worse. My country has a 10.4% unemployment rate. Yes, you read that right. 10.4%. And I know for a fact that other countries in Europe are going through the same thing, because I have friends and family spread across Europe who have confirmed this to me. Nobody, NOBODY can find a job right now, regardless of level of experience or studies. Where are we headed and what's the end game here? What do you think will happen in the next few years and do you think the job market will ever bounce back?