Of course, in the situation that u dont have anyone interested enough to talk about it. Don't feel like this atm, but just curious about what u guys do
Ok, so originally this character came from a modern day story, and her name was supposed to be Hera. I've had this character for a long time with no use for her, and realized that she fits perfectly into this other fantasy story I've been writing. I think a Greek goddess' name would be kind of weird in a fantasy setting that has no inspiration or relation to Greek mythology, don't you? So I thought I should probably change it. My current options are:
Halo, Harp, Hartlyn (meh), or Honey
I want to stick close to her original name because she's had it for about four years now, and it would pain me to change it to something entirely different.
Character description: A fairy in a medieval fantasy setting with a very bold personality. She is assertive, intimidating, and easily angered/short-tempered. She is also childish at times, and a bit selfish, as well as struggling to stay serious or professional. In the story, she helps to teach a human how messed up the ways of their society has gotten.
Suggestions are welcomed with open arms. Her name also does not have to be anything meaningful, I don't bother to go that in depth, just something with a similar sharp vibe, but I don't want to give her too common of a name. Thank you so much!!
Sorry title don't make much sense, it's something I can't really explain in one sentence. Also not sure if this is the right flair/categorization. apologies---this does get a bit tmi
This one's probably for the girlies to answer
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Im 15f(?) and don't recall a time being comfortable talking to my mom about personal feminine stuff, whether it be care, hygiene, undergarments, stuff like that. When I first got my period, I didn't even tell her and have just been taking my sisters pads since (6th grade). That's lowkey a problem too because my sister uses tampons most of the time and I feel SO uncomfortable using those wth man absorbing stick from hell shoved up there nuh-uh. But also because she's a pretty different size from me.
Other than that, I've never brought up shaving, even though I hate having as much leg hair as I naturally do (chicana girlies wya), and I just borrow my sisters razor as well (is that unhygienic?). I've never gotten a real bra, just those bralettes for like little girls from target/walmart, and even then those are from when she would buy them specifically for me. I hate them now, especially because of how childish they are, but I just can't bring myself to talk to her about that. I try to keep it all to myself.
Even when she and my sister are talking about being on periods and shit, I just hate it. She tells me I should track it if she can ever get me to say a word referring to it, and I really don't want to do that. I hate associating with it, I hate having it, I just hate stuff like that. And I see other girls and hear other girls talking about it, meanwhile I'm here just as uncomfortable as a teenage boy would be talking about it.
I don't know what to do, I don't have a card or license or anything to get these things myself. The only way I get pads is if I take them from my school, which gives them out for free (thank god). I haven't gotten a new bralette since seventh grade, and I'm happy I at least don't grow much there yk but they kinda crusty man. And I need underwear because all of them have been ruined by the times I didn't have access to pads, but if I were to ask about that she'd take me to pink and I really don't like it there—i'd really prefer to wear boxers or smth, not the "provocative" (barely, they just make me uncomfortable) styles that they sell there. Even though I'm the most feminine girl I know, I hate stuff like this, and I don't know why. Honestly I learned everything from reddit and those "internet moms" which I deeply appreciate. I don't ever want to have to talk abt this with anyone, especially not my mom.
I also hate talking to her about my sexuality (I've yet to come out as a lesbian) and crushes and whatever, even though my sister does all of these things and she's fine. But that might be a separate problem? Idk.
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I want to start biking to my local Walgreens for pads and razors (not even a mile away), and I want to try to get to walmart to get my own undergarments, but it's 4 miles there and 4 back, which would probably be the farthest I've ever biked (I ain't no professional ok i also ain't the fittest). I'm sure it'll be fine though, it isn't that bad. I just wish I had other options in terms of places, but that's the closest store that would sell stuff like that.
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Anyways, any advice helps, I just want to know why I'm feeling this way, what I can do to figure out getting this stuff on my own, or if there's a way to work past this shame(?)/embarrassment. Thank u!!
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TL;DR: Im uncomfortable talking to my mom about getting pads, bras, or underwear, why? What do I do?
I have a pair of Moxi skates that I got like two/three years ago. I've gone to a rink only three or four times, and I skated in an empty tennis court once (not a good idea, I've learned, in 95 degree heat). I think I did best in the tennis court, but every time I just feel so bad at it. I've always struggled with coordination and movement, and the fact that all my friends and the beginners I've seen pick it up pretty quickly makes it even worse. But I genuinely do think rollerskating could be my thing, even though I suck right now, because once i (sort of) get going, it feels so nice. I get easily overwhelmed, so I've decided I don't like the rink, especially because the closest one is kinda far and I don't got my license yet.
I would skate in my neighborhood, but I know I'll embarrass myself in front of my neighbors, and there are too many hills where I live. I want to go to a park, and I was thinking about going with my friend, but I'm not sure she can tell me much because she does inline rather than quads.
Anyways, yeah, I was wondering if there were any tips regarding coordination, or maybe getting over embarrassment? Where you started if you struggled as a beginner? How to start? When will hills be okay? How long does it take to be comfortable in doing it? Honestly tell me anything man 😭 Thank you so much, yall are so cool <3
btw i do have outdoor skates dont worry man
sorry if this is the wrong subreddit, btw---i realize this may be partially about sexuality
I'm only 15, but I feel like still, I should have liked someone at this point. Since I was twelve-ish, I've considered myself a lesbian, because that was around the time where I figured out that was even an option. I've never liked a guy, at least I don't think so, but I don't think I've ever liked a girl either. I think girls are beautiful and all, and I sometimes feel ashamed for thinking about their bodies in an objectifying(?) way, but other than that, I haven't felt any more sort of attraction. I thought I liked a girl once, my best friend, because I was basically obsessed with her, but I don't even know that it was like that.
I don't know. I know some people are late bloomers or whatever, but I want it so badly, and I don't want to be aromantic. I thought coming to a new school would change things, but now that the school year's over, there's nothing. I mean, there are no other lesbians to begin with, but I at least want to have that traumatizing experience of liking a straight girl that i hear of. When my friends and I talk about stuff like that, I blank. I've never had a fictional crush. I can't think of a type. I just feel left out.
I think this is a bit of a separate issue, but I know part of it comes from the fact that I want to be someone's favorite. Every time i want to be friends/close with someone, they never seem to want it as badly. I want someone to want to talk to me or be excited when they see me at school. It doesn't bother me too much, at least not all the time, but I always think that a girlfriend might comfort me when it comes to that.
Is having a crush even that great anyways? I just really want to know how it feels. I love the idea of being another one of those hopeless romantic, lovesick teenagers, even if it would hurt me. I love the idea of having a first kiss, or going on dates with a girl, I just feel like I can't imagine the girl it would be.
For the past two/three years, I've been friends with this kid who's younger than me. I just finished freshman year, while they just finished the seventh grade. Recently, they've made a new friend. Then, she goes and introduces her ex boyfriend to them, and my friend thinks he's so cool and whatever. Ex boyfie plays a bunch of guitars, and he's older than them, and whateverwhateverright. But soon later, they tell me ex boyfie drinks a lot, and goes to all these parties, and sleeps with a bunch of girls smoking weed in his dad's basement. (this is how they described him, not me, so I don't know if this exaggerated or what)
Like, I know stuff like that can be normalized for some teens, but my dude is only 14, and I just really don't know about him. I know that this is part of why YoungerFriend thinks hes so cool, and i don't get the good vibes from him. Of course, I know for a fact I'm privileged, and I'm not exposed to people like this, + i don't mean to be all goodie-two-shoes about everything, but drugs and alcohol is where i draw the line for the people I'm friends with. I know I'm not technically friends with him, but I just feel kinda uncomfortable about the whole thing.
Every time they bring exboyfie up, I say (in a playful but truthful way) "oh i don't like that guy" or whatever. They're always all "yeah, he's a bad influence" and kinda just regurgitate DARE lessons at me, but I know they still talk. Just the other day, i called them, and they were in his basement with the exes. They were whispering and all, and ExBoyfie lowkey sounded like a douchebag from the way he spoke to me. And they all got all scared when his dad came down--- like why would you be scared what are you doing? For the past month or two, YoungerFriend has been going out and hanging out with everyone, sleepovers every other night, without really telling their mom where they're going. I don't even know that she knows about ex boyfie, but i wouldn't be surprised if she didn't.
I don't know. they're really gullible, and have the survival instincts of a rock, and I'm just kind of scared of what might happen and where this would lead. They're thirteen. My concern also comes from my values, and my boundary with friends about not being stupid about things that could be detrimental to your health, mental health, or future. I know i sound really sheltered, so that's why I'm just not sure if I should do something at all, or what I would do if I did something.
Is this normal? Am i just really out of touch? what if they get like an STD or something idk who is buying this kid his protection 😭 i'm sorry if I sound like a total idiot.
TL;DR: 13yr old friend is hanging around 14yrold whos always smoking, drinking, and sleeping with girls?
what do i do, if anything?
I've known this one girl for like 8 years or something, right, and back in middle school she said she liked me (side note, she's bi). I never gave a real response, but she knew I wasn't willing to date in middle school bc uhh no. But now, we're both fifteen, and we go to different high schools, and I only ever want to spend time with her. Like, if something bad happens, or a friend upsets me, I want to talk to her. When I hang out with people outside of school (like once a month) it's usually her. And then, when we're hanging out, we always get really close—im always holding her hand or have my hands on her somehow, and I'm never too far away. I always wonder if people think we're girlfriends, but I never say anything about it.
She puts so much effort into our relationship too, makes things for me, gets me a shit ton of stuff for my birthday, consumes content related to the shows I like just so she knows what I'm talking about when/if I infodump. She hates the people who did me wrong, and she says I'm her closest friend even though we don't talk very often (every 2 weeks ish? Ik it sounds bad but she's not a texter yk). I always wonder if she still likes me, or if she ever really did. Not sure if it even matters anyways, because she recently told me about how she kinda likes this guy we went to school with. I don't know, I was okay with it, but maybe that's because I knew he wouldnt get as close, or whatever. I'm not sure if it would upset me if she had a partner. Chat am I fucked do I like her I'm so confused