My boyfriend who I’ve known for 2 years and been together a year and 5 months is usually a very calm down to earth unproblematic person who is a heavy drinker but is never violent or aggressive. Usually he just drinks until he passes out. I definitely tried to get him to understand that this amount of daily drinking is not okay despite him saying “he’s in control” “not doing anything wrong” and “ I have a job the bills are paid”. Well, about two weeks ago he he and I were both drinking but I was taking it slow and he drank fast, one beer after another, until he passed out but this time he ended up urinating on himself and when he woke up from his drunk stupor while urinating he got super aggressive, long story short somehow we ended up fighting physically but he bit me on the shoulder to the point I bled and he pushed me and I cracked my head on a dresser corner that ended up not needing stitches. I didn’t press charges and he wasn’t taken that night as I had already kicked him out of the house by the time the police arrived, they did however document my injuries and arrested him yesterday…10 days after the incident which occurred at the end of march. He had been sober for the 10 days showing guilt shame and remorse. He’s been in jail now for almost a day and a half as of the moment I write this with a 75k dollar bail and a DV felony, we can’t afford that bail and I don’t know how to feel as I feel that this was a one off event…but also I feel like he needed this to maybe get him to see that no matter how “in control” and calm and non aggressive he was his heavy drinking was eventually going to lead him to this. I am not sure how to feel, I want to cry but haven’t, I also feel guilt, and I just want to trust that everything will work out for him.