u/Y1rda

I am curious how people are able to dig in and figure out what their core values were. Asking myself what matters to me seems to open a blank page. Every time I look at a test I get different results. I just don't seem to get it. Moreover, it seems like some are obviously right answers vs wrong answers. I know I am not supposed to view it that way, but when one is financial wealth and another is friends and family, I know which one I am supposed to pick.

Please explain like someone has no sense of self. I feel as though I do, but when people ask me to pay attention to my inner voice or child or whatever I am lost. The only voice going on in here is the one asking the question. Personally, that type of answer always makes me feel like there is just some part of me that is missing and everyone else got instructions. I know that sounds a bit hostile, but I have read I don't know how many articles at this points and I am.pretty sure I need it dumbed down.

I am curious how people were able to dig in and figure out what their core values were. Asking myself what matters to me seems to open a blank page. Every time I look at a test I get different results. I just don't seem to get it. Moreover, it seems like some are obviously right answers vs wrong answers. I know I am not supposed to view it that way, but when one is financial wealth and another is friends and family, I know which one I am supposed to pick.

What resources do you guys use for healing? Almost everything seems geared at anxious attachers, and the resources I do find are usually based in the anxious/avoidant relationship. But I would love to find a podcast or book that leaned into how avoidant attachers can heal their underlying trauma. Preferably by someone within the avoidant space who has done the work.

I am actually looking for something that is more everydaywear, but it is specialized enough I imagine it falls under costume most of the time. I am looking for a greatcoat style coat but with as many pockets of varying sizes as possible inside. I get the impression I need to make something custom, but am not sure how to find the types of people who do that. I would try myself but the last time I used a sewing machine was 21 years ago in a home economics class.
Does anyone have an idea of where I should look?

I remember it had a small, maybe 15 card, deck and gaining lands was a in game activity where you bonded with a location. You had to pick your color identity. I know it came out post Ravnica and I believe I saw it first when in college which would put it before 2013.