u/Yesiree12

That’s all I have to say. I miss you. I feel like the world without an ocean.

Tbh I'm not the type of person to join this club or that class or go to this place specifically to find women or anything, and my interests typically don't align with that general area. I do want a relationship for sure, but to go out of my way and do something that doesn't match my personality whatsoever seems so fake to me. I typically don't approach women in bars / clubs / etc because I'm not the type of person that would cold approach literally anyone. It feels so fake whenever I do any of that because it's not actually me, it's just a facade.

Does anybody else feel this way?

For context, I’ve been using dating apps for a couple of years now and have a decent amount of likes and matches. The main problem comes when a girl seems good to go out with, I go out with them, and all they mention is that they love k-pop / k-drama stuff. And then they would want to have sex on the first date or anything like that or they would realize that their perception of my personality isn’t reality of my personality. I feel as if I’m being extremely fetishized and I’m starting to get sick and tired of it. (Also I sort of have that Korean-esc look, despite not being Korean)

Not really looking for advice but mostly asking, have other Asian men experienced this?

Like the title says, I’ve only talked to this girl for a week but we’ve talked for like 6 hours a day for that entire week, usually at night. I just went out on a date with her and everything went fine. For context, the longest relationship she’s ever had was a month.

The issue lies in that she gets nauseous / stressed or anxious whenever even getting physically close to someone or even thinking about actually dating someone. It’s the reason why she sort of wants to break things off but shes still looking for a relationship with me in the future possibly. She doesn’t know yet. For other context, we’ve never kissed or anything, only held hands at one point.

This is definitely honeymoon phase talk, but I find her amazing to talk to and I want to continue to be with her. Again, only talked for a week, I understand how this sounds.

Recently, we’ve come to the conclusion that we should take things slower and just hang out before actually dating to see where things end up.

The advice I need is, is this something I should pursue? I really like her and want to see where this goes. I was thinking somewhere along the lines that she just needs to get adjusted as she doesn’t really date and over time things will change. And for other other context, she’s not aromantic / asexual