u/Zealousideal_Turn890

I have been dating with someone (28M) for 3 months now. I knew he loved drinking and few times I saw him blackout drunk but it was with me and i didnt think much of it. I also struggle myself with alcohol and since I started dating him I went changes in my life which i am really happy about it. We didnt talk over it but I felt it would be a problem in future.
Couple weeks ago they went on a boys trip, i know the boys and they all have relationships over couple years. They have been drinking for 10 days straight, he had updated me most days. However 2-3 nights, he didnt say anything until 5 am. He said he was black out drunk. Yesterday it happened again. He said he went to a club alone and met people and had many shots and was drunk - his friends wasnt with him. I feel really confused and lost. Its not i dont trust him but i dont trust drunk people. Like blackout drunk people. When i try to explain this he says this is my life style and i like it, saying that “i am trying to put rules into his life”. I am so lost, i really love him and i want to be with him but I feel like I am being insecure or so. Considering dating 2-3 months, i feel like this is too much for me but I also feel like I am wrong. I dont want to waste my time but I dont want to be overreacting either. I dont know. Could you please give me some perspective? Thank u very much. We are also from different nationalities but its not like culturally super different. Besides then when is he is unconsciously drunk, he is really caring and the best boyfriend when sober. I also want to help him with problems but i doubt if alcoholic abuse ever gets better, talking from experience.

Hello!
I am new here and i am exploring sobriety.. any recommendations for meeting new people with no alcohol involving? Also is there any AA-like meetings that I could attend you know of? I speak very little German..

I am 26F, and been going to therapy for over 2 years. I have depression, ptsd and substance abuse history. For last 2-3 months, I was thinking I was getting no good from therapy and it was becoming a financial burden to me. My psychiatrist told I had a very high awareness of situations, so I am not as easy as other people that my therapist encounter. She even recommended some other very good therapists but it was all expensive for my budget, so i sticked with my current one.

Its somehow like my mind is against me. I understand whats wrong, what could be done and how, how can all be improved and so but I can’t happen to make it. We did EMDR, but still i had a very tough shield that I couldnt go down very deep. I wasn’t seeing if I did any process or not.

2 years ago, I recommended her the clinic I was working with, and she also went there and even with a lower price of session because she went with a student project program. I could also benefit from them, but my therapist wasnt working them and I believed she had a more experience. Yesterday I was talking to this friend, and she told me she is ready to be done with therapy because her therapist thinks they covered all, so they are checking how it is without weekly sessions. Meanwhile with me, everything is still a mess. I decided to take a break, because I can’t see if therapy is helping or i am just wasting money. I feel like i failed therapy and wasted so much money on it. My parents paid it but they are still not so much happy with me. It is just becoming more and more burden. I am not sure if I continue 6 more months, will it actually do any good or will I just spend more money… Like I feel like even my therapist is happy that she is not going to work for me, because I feel like I am really difficult..

I am 26F, and been going to therapy for over 2 years. I have depression, ptsd and substance abuse history. For last 2-3 months, I was thinking I was getting no good from therapy and it was becoming a financial burden to me. My psychiatrist told I had a very high awareness of situations, so I am not as easy as other people that my therapist encounter. She even recommended some other very good therapists but it was all expensive for my budget, so i sticked with my current one.

Its somehow like my mind is against me. I understand whats wrong, what could be done and how, how can all be improved and so but I can’t happen to make it. We did EMDR, but still i had a very tough shield that I couldnt go down very deep. I wasn’t seeing if I did any process or not.

2 years ago, I recommended her the clinic I was working with, and she also went there and even with a lower price of session because she went with a student project program. I could also benefit from them, but my therapist wasnt working them and I believed she had a more experience. Yesterday I was talking to this friend, and she told me she is ready to be done with therapy because her therapist thinks they covered all, so they are checking how it is without weekly sessions. Meanwhile with me, everything is still a mess. I decided to take a break, because I can’t see if therapy is helping or i am just wasting money. I feel like i failed therapy and wasted so much money on it. My parents paid it but they are still not so much happy with me. It is just becoming more and more burden. I am not sure if I continue 6 more months, will it actually do any good or will I just spend more money… Like I feel like even my therapist is happy that she is not going to work for me, because I feel like I am really difficult..

Hello all,
Today i went to DM to have a camera film developed, no printing just digital. I’ve did fill the information on envelope and asked the lady working but she wasnt speaking any English. I think she told me to come next week and pay then but I couldn’t fully catch.
I am a bit stressed because they didn’t get my email or phone number and I didn’t pay anything yet. Can someone explain how this works in DM?
Thank you!

TLDR; the guy i am seeing has a friend who is 23F. She spent 4 days at his place.

So basically, I just moved to a new country and I am seeing this guy for over a month. He lives alone. This weekend he had a friend visiting him and she stayed with him for four days. I was a bit uncomfortable with it but I didnt say much because we aren’t very exclusive yet and I thought he would give me more context or comfort me but he didn’t say much. I just know that they arent very close friends and she is 23. So I cant seemed to understand how their friendship is, he tells me he found it weird also her staying with him but he still went for it. I mean I had many 29-30 years old friends when I were 20-22 but thinking now there wasn’t a specific friendship besides the 30year old dudes trying to only flirt. I quite find it difficult for these ages to have something in common.
I know that she traveled 5 hours and stayed with him, they are friends for over a year, she is 6 years younger and also she had many friends in the city where she could stay with.
I don’t know if its European culture or so but I find it weird. I can’t really understand if it is my insecurities or thats actually a bit weird?

So basically, I just moved to a new country and I am seeing this guy for over a month. He lives alone. This weekend he had a friend visiting him and she stayed with him for four days. I was a bit uncomfortable with it but I didnt say much because we aren’t very exclusive yet and I thought he would give me more context or comfort me but he didn’t say much. I just know that they arent very close friends and she is 23. So I cant seemed to understand how their friendship is, he tells me he found it weird also her staying with him but he still went for it. I mean I had many 29-30 years old friends when I were 20-22 but thinking now there wasn’t a specific friendship besides the 30year old dudes trying to only flirt. I quite find it difficult for these ages to have something in common.
I know that she traveled 5 hours and stayed with him, they are friends for over a year, she is 6 years younger and also she had many friends in the city where she could stay with.
I don’t know if its European culture or so but I find it weird. I can’t really understand if it is my insecurities or thats actually a bit weird?