I dated a guy that claimed to be celibate…
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I dated somebody that claimed to be celibate, and it ended up being the most transformative, heart-piercing love I’ve ever felt in my whole life.
We eventually ended up having s*x. I always kinda felt like I “took him off course” lol. But it was literally the best s*x of my life. The type of connection and intimacy you genuinely never forget. We probably had like three months of wild, beautiful, insanely passionate s*x.
But then one day he told me I was distracting him from his spiritual journey. And I’ve always wondered if that was a cop out or if he truly meant it.
The thing is… he told me from the very beginning that his spiritual path was his main focus. He’s genuinely such a loner. He loves meditating all day, being at home, being inward. And honestly that lifestyle didn’t totally match mine lol. I like adventure, fun, going out, experiencing life. But somehow we still fell deeply in love. Like deeply. We talked about marriage. I moved into his home for a while. Things progressed very fast and it felt so real.
After those three months, he basically told me that if we stayed together, he’d want to remain celibate within the relationship. And I just couldn’t accept that. To me, s*x felt healthy and connective and loving. I loved him so much, but I knew I couldn’t do that long term. So I left.
What hurt the most is that he didn’t really fight for me after. And to this day, it’s still the most beautiful love I’ve ever experienced. It showed me the depth of my capacity to love somebody. And honestly sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever experience something like that again.
I guess I’m asking… do you think it’s actually possible for someone to remain celibate inside of a marriage or deeply loving relationship? Or do you think eventually one person always ends up sacrificing a core need?
To this day I still think of him but I refuse to reach out bc he never looked for me after.. it took me years to get over him