u/Zestyclose_Prize6032

My brother-in-law has 4 kids... from 3 different women. He has them every other weekend, which I calculated to be about 14% of a year.

It boils my blood so much when he keep pressing me and my husband to have more kids. I am an only raising an only and we are happily one and done.

I want to tell him that unlike him we would be parenting 100% of the time so it would be a lot harder on us time wise, emotionally, mentally and of course financially.

I feel he has a very skewed view of parenthood that makes it easy for him to say that to us. Him having 4 kids kids part time does not equate to having 1 kid all the time!

He doesn't have to deal with school drop offs, having to remember things for school, planning time off for school breaks, Dr's appointments, illnesses (when they are sick the stay home), the day to day tantrums, bed time routines that take month/years to nail.

So many time I've heard him say "I can't wait to drop them back" when he has them... sir, its barely been 48 hours?!

Having more kids is easy when you have 3 other women carrying the majority of the load!

I live with 2 men and they both have this habit of leaving empty bottles, egg cartons, cans or packaging ON TOP of our small recycling bin in our kitchen.

The issue is, why am I looking a rubbish when it can go IN THE BIN. 9/10 the recycling bin has space for the item they are throwing away so it annoys be that they don't just put it inside. Better yet, if the bin was getting full, they could squeeze the air out of bottles and replace the lid to make more room.

Second note, our big recycling bin is directly outside the front door. The idea is that when they leave empty bottles on top of the bin the INTENTION was to take the bottle with them on the way out... but the next day the bottle will still be there, and the next. Its like they don't see it!

I tell my partner everytime he does this. I take a picture, send it to him asking why is it not in the bin. Most common reason is "I forgot to take it out" and I repeatedly say, just put in the the bin so I don't have to look at rubbish! The stuff in the small bin will end up in the big bin eventually. As for his brother, this is just one of many issues of keeping the house tidy.

I refuse to clean up after 2 men so I sit here annoyed, eye to eye with empty bottles.

Hello boob friends!

I have narrow rooted, projected, Full on top, relaxed boobs. I breastfed for 2 years so boobs are very soft, but if I lean over, the top of my boobs from a strong curve and the underside is straight, hence the full on top.... but I don't look full on top in a bra.

I like the look when I'm wearing a lace bra, Bravissimo Millie bra is a great example (I wear a 30FF) because it adds no bulk to my frame. While in the bra, if I put my 4 fingers under my nipples and push into my ribs, I like how the boobs look. Are there any bras/styled out there that give this kind of lift?

I hate heavily padded push up bras that look like cones from the side or are just so stiff. I'd rather the lift come from the structure of the bra and maybe light padding rather than moulded cups.

I like looking shallow from the side with fullness at the top... I hope this makes sense!!

I just feel if I do, she'll find a way to turn it negative.

At the start of the year I decided to take on Tagalog lessons. I'm in my 30s and can't speak fluently so joined a beginner course. I also had a trip to the Philippines booked so it would ne a perfect tiime to learn.

I told my Mum thinking she would be happy I wanted to fully learn her language. She was happy but kept asking what time the course would happen, how long for?... how much?

I completed the 10 week course. I could speak conversational Tagalog I was so proud of myself. My friends, colleagues and teacher was proud - she praised my final speaking assesment. I go to the Philippines (without mum) and just feel so much more connected to my roots.

When I came back, my teacher asked if I'm going to continue the lessons and encourages me to do so.... so I do!

I tell my Mum this and she wrinkles her nose in disgust/confusion and says "Why? You're not going to the Philippines again, you're going to forget it"

I tell her that's why im committing to lessons, so that it sticks. I'm determined to learn the language, holiday booked or not.

She kind of huffs and said "how much are the lessons? 10 weeks again?"

I end that convo and said "Why does the cost matter? I'm not asking you for money."

At this point I'm confused as to why she's suddenly so against me learning and actually putting doubt in my head about how I won't progress.

Last night, I made pancit at home, it was my first time (when i was in the Philippines, the people travelled with (non-filipinos) seemed to like Pancit the most so I'm making an effort to learn how to make it!) I put some in a tupperware, drove to my mum to let her taste some today.

She said "its spicy" i put no chilli in it. She said "theres a taste i cant understand.... its uncooked"

Now even if all of this were true, ut is my first time but my God can you not say ANYTHING positive?! Even thanks for bringing me some to try?! My partner ate the pancit last night and said it tasted like the one he had in the Philippines and I based mine off my Mums I felt it tasted so similar... guess I was wrong.

I sighed and just asked "why are you so negative? Can't you say one nice thing?"

True Asian Parent style she starts yelling "I'm just being honest! If I don't like it im not going to lie to you!"

I also got a raise from work today but I'm going to keep it to myself because at this point, anything good I'm doing, anyway I'm trying to learn, improve myself or just add value to my life, my Mum has a way of making me feel like I don't deserve it.

Just wanted to hear "well done"