My uncle is 70 and wants to move to Shediac from Halifax. He is a veteran and self sufficient. He is finding a lot of AirBnB and luxury apartment rentals, but not much else. He is looking for a 2 bedroom with parking. Are there any locals here who can provide recommendations?
My dad moved in with his girlfriend a few years ago. He moved 4 hours away from all of us to be with her. Which is fine; all of his kids are adults.
She was very ill for a few years and she recently passed away, and he has to move out of her house by the end of August, because it is willed to her kids. Which is fine.
But dad spends all his time now crying and texting us. He is lonely. Me and my siblings are sympathetic- but none of us can afford to take time away from our jobs to spend time with him. When she died, we rotated our bereavement leaves so we could be there with him for a few weeks. But now that we’re all back to our lives, he wants us to come back.
It’s a little overwhelming. Every night I expect a video chat where he breaks down crying because he is too lonely.
He refuses to get a counsellor; refuses to find a grief support group; refuses to join social programs at the seniors centre; refuses to consider volunteering; there is always a reason why he can’t do things that would be GOOD for him.
He says, “well, I’ll talk to my doctor about that.” Meanwhile, he actually doesn’t talk to his doctor at all, and just sits at the house doomscrolling and wondering why no one is visiting him.
I drew the line tonight and told him that I have to be done making suggestions for now. He chose to move away, and he now needs to make a choice of what to do now. But I told him I can’t have the same conversation every night. I have sent him resources, called and interviewed very capable counsellors on his behalf, and I won’t do anymore until he shows some accountability and follows through with something.
I’m soooo frustrated. I know he needs help. My other siblings are stepping it up to try to encourage him, but I thought I would reach out to you fine folks to see what advice you may be able to offer.