u/addictedtosoonjung

I’m new to reformer Pilates, and I’m struggling with something during feet-in-straps exercises. When I’m lying on my back with my feet in the straps (usually with three red springs as this is what the instructor always says to do), I eventually reach a point where my legs are so fatigued that I genuinely need to stop and rest, but I can’t figure out where I’m supposed to put them.

If I bring my legs up toward my head, the straps provide some support, but I still have to actively use my muscles to keep my legs suspended. I can’t just relax and let the straps hold their weight. If I try lowering my legs toward the footbar so I can rest my feet on something, I can’t actually reach it, and my legs end up getting dangerously close to the springs and spring box.

I’m essentially stuck in this weird middle ground where my legs are too exhausted to keep holding up, but there’s nowhere I can put them down to take the weight off. I start moving them around trying to find a position where I can completely relax my muscles, but nothing works, and the more tired I get, the harder it becomes to control them. I actually start to panic a little because it feels like my legs are trapped in the straps, and even taking the straps off requires more strength and coordination than I feel like I have left.

Is there a specific position you’re supposed to move your legs into when you need a break during feet-in-straps, where the springs actually support their weight? Or are you supposed to take your feet completely out of the straps every time you need to rest? Is it an issue of not having enough resistance on? For what it is worth I am very bottom heavy as an ex soccer player so my legs do weigh a lot.

Basically, am I missing something really basic about how you’re supposed to safely stop in the middle of these exercises? Thank you!

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I ordered from ELOQUII for the first time for spring. Since I had no idea what my size would be, I ordered multiples of a few things and the total came to around $700. I fully expected I’d be returning at least some of it.

Order arrives. One item is completely wrong—not what I ordered. Okay, annoying, but mistakes happen. Unfortunately, nothing fit anyway, so the whole order had to go back.

I go online to make a return label and realize the returns aren’t handled through their regular website. I had to find a separate portal through the parent company to process it.

Then I realize there’s no QR code option. You have to print both the shipping label and a specific return slip they require you to physically put inside the package. So I head to Staples to print everything.

Finally get the package ready and go to Canada Post thinking I’m just dropping off a normal return.

Then I find out the return shipping isn’t prepaid and that I have to cover the shipping cost myself. Fair enough, I am sure that was somewhere in the return policy and I just didn’t realize.

Then Canada Post tells me there’s now this Zonos customs process you have to go through to send things back to the U.S., apparently because of newer American customs requirements.

So now I’m standing in Canada Post downloading an app and manually entering every clothing item, the approximate value, where it was made, etc., including uploading photos. (For that part I uploaded a screenshot of the receipt that had mini photos of the items).

After marking it as a company return from an American company, the app said I owed $60 in duties/fees, on top of the $40 Canada Post shipping charge.

Maybe this is standard now and I’m just out of the loop because I rarely ship things to the U.S., but the whole process ended up being way more tedious and expensive than I expected. For me personally, I won’t be ordering from them again. Having ADHD already makes returns so hard (IYKYK). This was sooo not worth it.

I ordered from ELOQUII for the first time for spring. Since I had no idea what my size would be, I ordered multiples of a few things and the total came to around $700. I fully expected I’d be returning at least some of it.

Order arrives. One item is completely wrong—not what I ordered. Okay, annoying, but mistakes happen. Unfortunately, nothing fit anyway, so the whole order had to go back.

I go online to make a return label and realize the returns aren’t handled through their regular website. I had to find a separate portal through the parent company to process it.

Then I realize there’s no QR code option. You have to print both the shipping label and a specific return slip they require you to physically put inside the package. So I head to Staples to print everything.

Finally get the package ready and go to Canada Post thinking I’m just dropping off a normal return.

Then I find out the return shipping isn’t prepaid and that I have to cover the shipping cost myself. Fair enough, I am sure that was somewhere in the return policy and I just didn’t realize.

Then Canada Post tells me there’s now this Zonos customs process you have to go through to send things back to the U.S., apparently because of newer American customs requirements.

So now I’m standing in Canada Post downloading an app and manually entering every clothing item, the approximate value, where it was made, etc., including uploading photos. (For that part I uploaded a screenshot of the receipt that had mini photos of the items).

After marking it as a company return from an American company, the app said I owed $60 in duties/fees, on top of the $40 Canada Post shipping charge.

Maybe this is standard now and I’m just out of the loop because I rarely ship things to the U.S., but the whole process ended up being way more tedious and expensive than I expected. For me personally, I won’t be ordering from them again. Having ADHD already makes returns so hard (IYKYK). This was sooo not worth it.