I just received two items I just brought from one seller. Both items came with chipped paint, in the photos it was perfect conditions and I politely asked seller about it. They said that it was supposed to be in perfect condition. So I’m guessing this is a shipping issue, how do I go about this? Do I just return it?
Hi everyone! (Love the podcast, I listen periodically whenever I’m commuting to school ❤️)
I, F20, have been disagreeing my parents on a many number of things. Recently it has been my older cousin's wedding. It. Is. Driving. Me. Nuts.
To give a tiny bit of context, my guy cousin is the first "child" on that side of my family to get married, he is nearly a decade older than me and just recently got engaged to his fiancée after years of dating.
During a car ride I was in the car with my dad, guy cousin, guy cousin's fiancée and aunt (guy cousin's mother). I was talking to his fiancée about trinkets and shopping when suddenly things got very intense. Suddenly in the middle of our conversation my aunt brought up wedding preparations. I was a bit annoyed but let it go as his fiancée didn't seem to mind much (bless her heart). When my aunt started talking about the "traditional" wedding ceremony stuff my guy cousin quickly interjected. They started quickly arguing in our native language so fast I could barely understand what was going on. My father even interjected basically saying "That's your mother" and "That's just how we were supposed to do things". My cousin's fiancée and I looked at each other like "What the fuck."
The whole time my guy cousin was visibly tense and I felt terrible. In all of my extended family all of us (the younger folks) seem to have a complicated relationship with our parents. I believe that they (my guy cousin and his mother) argued a lot about the wedding before and after this conversation was even brought up. We had a family gathering not too long ago and he didn't attend. I feel like shit because this matter escalated so badly that some of my other family members are backing out of his wedding just because it isn't "traditional".
It is also somehow affecting my life now. During lunchtime I sat down with my parents to eat. In the middle of it they brought up guy cousin's wedding and told me that they are planning on not attending. I replied "Well, I am" plainly, not even looking at them and continuing to munch down quickly to get out of the hellish situation I was about to walk into. They started telling me that guy cousin was disrespectful for not carrying tradition and not hearing his mother out. Inside my head I was like "For fucksakes, just one meal where I am at peace" and I told them basically "He was born and raised in America, he wants to have an American wedding. Why is that so bad?" They started blabbering about how he isn't American and that he has to follow our wedding culture tradition. Then I told them, "Isn't it his choice? It is his wedding after all." and they told me "No, it is also about family. Aunt does so much for him and raised him. He is so disrespectful and selfish. He should do two weddings." I pointed out the flaws in there argument saying that wanting a wedding that was just for them isn't selfish since they are going to be the ones looking back on it. I also told them that respect goes both ways from child to parent and that two wedding would cost time which guy cousin doesn't have because he has a brand new career that is starting to take shape. But they did not listen saying that aunt paid for and raised guy cousin to the man he is supposed to be so he should be able to do this "one thing" for her.
At this point I was getting angry and thought "If you wanted a traditional wedding then why didn't you just raise us in the 1800s or something." Of course as the respectful daughter I was I just started ignoring them but then to keep the conversation going they told me, "You are also expected to carry the traditions when you get married" and I saw red. I feel like whatever we do nothing is good enough for them and after that argument I went in my room to cry. I keep thinking about my future and that if I have to end up having this much tension and drama I don't think I'd even want to get married, I barely even believe in love anymore and this just makes it worse. I know it seems stupid to cry about this but I felt like this type of treatment has happened so many times it is just exhausting.
Thank for reading my ted talk btw, any advice is appreciated. :)
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This is the last long that keeps popping up (please help me I am desperate):
I constantly feel like I’m falling behind in every aspect of my life right now. My college experience has been 80% work, stress and pain, 10% has been me trying to deal with the pain and the other 10% is me trying to hanging out with my friends.
My academics have tanked the past three years, I had a 3.4 GPA when I left and now I’m probably around a 2.6. I feel like I suck especially after the fact I am probably going to lose my scholarship after this semester due to my GPA. People have so many expectations of me and I feel like I’m constantly underperforming. I’m trying to get good grades to get into Pharmacy school but it isn’t working out for me at all. But I don’t even know if I want to go into Pharmacy school because I don’t even understand if that’s what I want to do in the future. I don’t know what I’m doing.
I’ve been trying so hard to pick up the pieces, I started going to consoling appointments at my school since my parents refuse to put me in therapy.
My social life has been on the decline. I barely get to see any of my friends anymore (maybe every few months). I commute to university everyday and I miss out all the time on events, hangouts, etc. I know I have friends but I feel like i don’t. I am always the one who tried to reach out and make plans 90% of the time. I feel like I’m drifting away from most of my friends and I feel like I’m always falling behind. I join clubs but for some reason none of the ones I’m interested in are very active. I’ve honestly given up. I just want friends who I could hangout with regularly, who I don’t have to feel like I’m working all the time to try to connect with them. Is that so hard to ask for?
They increased the shipping again. Thanks a lot government for being useless and making life worse everyday.