u/almost_cool3579

Just found this sub (Peri & ADHD in particular) and man, it’s hitting home.

I have questioned whether I have ADHD since middle school. I’ve just never sought out a diagnosis. The last year or so, I’ve been not only noticing peri symptoms, but an increase in ADHD things. My brain often feels like mush. Last weekend was something else though.

My husband was gone in the morning when he came home around lunchtime, I was curled up on the couch in pajamas looking stressed out. He asked what was wrong. Out came a nearly incoherent ramble.

“This morning I woke up early and decided I really wanted to do a project. Something to update or brighten something, or just change something, but I don’t want to spend a lot of money. I thought maybe I’d paint our bathroom. But if I’m going to paint, I should take down the towels bars I hate. I’ll need to fill and the holes and patch the walls before I paint. If I’m going to change those things, I should do the light fixture too. That’s going to need patching. If I change the color of the light fixture, the sink faucet won’t match anymore. The faucet style I prefer won’t fit this sink, but I can’t find a new sink that will fit the current countertop. I could just buy a whole new vanity, but I don’t want to spend that much, and the current one is much better quality. So I’d probably have to get a new counter top and sink. That means a new backsplash too. If I replace all the other hardware the shower/tub hardware won’t match either. Now that project feels way too big I don’t want to do it anymore. Then I thought maybe I could finally pick some curtains for our bedroom windows (they have blinds, but I want curtains over them). But I don’t know what length to get. I still don’t know if I want to put a bench or a makeup space under the dormer window. I need to pick that before I know what curtains to get. I really do want the bathroom painted though. Maybe I should just do that and not do all the side quests. But if I don’t do all the extra things, I’m just leaving more work for myself for another day. Let’s be realistic though, if I don’t do all of it now, I probably won’t ever do the rest of it. It’ll just be another unfinished project, so maybe I shouldn’t start the project at all. That was literally my whole morning. Just thinking about projects, pricing things out, talking myself out of ideas, and now I’m sitting here all sad because I wasted the whole morning, never started a project, but also didn’t do anything I should have, so I’ve accomplished nothing.”

And then I started crying. I’m grateful to know I’m not alone.

My husband and I will be in the area of The Landing this weekend and want to work in a little dinner date while we’re out. We’re middle aged and don’t drink, so not into the bar/grill vibe. We’re more casual than fancy and will be coming directly from another location, so no interest in getting dressed up or anything.

Some of our favorite cuisines are Korean, Italian, and Mexican, but open to others. Budget is not a huge factor, but lower priced is never a bad thing. We’re more into quality than quantity when it comes to food.

An ideal option would include entrees under $30, food made as close to from scratch as possible, and be a comfortable place where we can hang out and chat a while.

Any suggestions?

I grew up with a beautiful Sunbonnet Sue quilt. I remember running my fingers along the appliqué stitches at night. At this point, I’m convinced my love for quilts can be tied back to this one treasured piece. It going ruined in storage many years ago. (Thanks, Mom! Just kidding, mostly.)

I’ve been working on building out my own sewing room on a budget and have been trying to decide what to put up over the fireplace as a decorative focal point, and it finally clicked. I need to make a Sunbonnet Sue wall hanging.

Has anyone here done this? I would absolutely love to see some inspiration. If not specifically Sue, any quilted wall hangings would be appreciated.

What are your favorite patterns for jelly rolls?

I’m a newish hobby quilter who primarily enjoys classic looking quilt patterns. I love some HSTs, Log Cabins, Rail Fences, etc. I tend to lean towards patterns that go together somewhat quickly as opposed to super detailed patterns with tiny parts.

Going through fabrics recently, I’ve discovered that I have a lot more long, narrow pieces in my stash than I realized. I’m thinking of working on cutting those down to 2.5” strips like jelly rolls. Then as I have scraps, I can keep adding until I have enough for a scrap quilt. I could also use them for binding, smaller parts of other quilts, etc.

Anywho, I’d love to see what some of your favorite jelly roll quilts are.

My son has been playing select ball for two years with the same team (12u this year). While we’ve had some frustrations with the coach, we’ve always made a point to only discuss those things directly with him, not the rest of the team. And I’m talking maybe 5 or 6 conversations over two years, not running to him with complaints every week or anything.

Several weeks ago, my son had an injury to his throwing hand. Nothing catastrophic, but enough to keep him out of the game for a few weeks. Last weekend, the coach and I chatted and I updated him that my son would be good to play first base this weekend (his primary position), but not his secondary positions of pitcher or catcher. This was the last tournament of the season, and my son really wanted to play something, anything, even if just an inning or two.

We are “you show up for your team to every game and practice, even if you’re injured” kind of people. He never missed anything. He kept the dugout cheering and supported his team constantly. He’s the kid who offers to carry gear for the coach. He received the ball during fungo warmups every single game.

Coach didn’t put him in at all the first three games of the tournament. Given that I had told the coach that even just a couple of innings would be appreciated, I figured he’d at least have a chance in the last game. Before that game began, my son advocated for himself again saying he wanted to play. The last game was a shitshow clearly on its way to a mercy rule. In the last inning, both of the other regular first basemen were otherwise occupied. Instead of letting my son in, he put a kid on first who never plays it. My son being the person he is, loaned his first base glove to his teammate and watched the season end from the dugout.

We’re leaving the team after this season, and the coach knows. Partly due to the challenges we’ve been having with the coach and organization, and partly due to my son wanting to play at a more competitive level. Even with an injury, he got an offer for one of the top teams in the region. I think the coach was holding that against my son.

I’m pissed. There’s really not anything to do about it at this point, and maybe I’m overreacting, but this feels like a serious low blow. Part of me wants to text him and ensure he knows how shitty that was, and part of me can’t be bothered enough to talk to him. Am I overreacting? Is this as shitty as it feels?

Edit: thank you all for your input. Genuinely. I wrote this primarily out of frustration. Knowing myself, as much as I wanted to confront the coach in that moment, I know I wouldn’t have. Writing this here was more of a rant or vent than anything else. Now that the dust has settled, I’m still frustrated, but the whole situation solidified our decision that moving elsewhere is the right choice.

I just recently took ownership of a Singer 66 Treadle that belonged to my great grandmother. She’s been gone over 20 years. Anyone who could potentially have firsthand information is gone too, so this is all just hypothesizing. I’m trying to parse together possible ways this machine may have come into her possession. She was born in 1915, and the machine’s serial number indicates it was made in 1926 when my great grandmother would have only been 11. There is a photo taken in her living room in the mid 1950s, and the machine is there, so at minimum, she had it at least that long.

We can assume she didn’t buy it brand new based on her age and her family’s struggling financial situation. I’m entertaining myself thinking of various, hypothetical, unprovable stories about how it might have come to her possession. Have you got any ideas?

Second, based on looking up the serial number, I saw that it fits into a series of numbers allotted in April of 1926 and that another set of serial numbers for this model was allotted in July of that year. Does that then mean that this machine was likely produced between April and July? I’m just curious. It’s been fun to try to figure out the machine’s history and where it’s been.

AAA 12u tournament. No runners on. Ball is pitched, batter swings. Batter does not make contact, ball bounces off catcher’s glove towards batter’s team’s dugout. Umpire calls foul (even though batter did not contact the ball). Player on batter’s team in doorway of dugout grabs the ball right in the doorway. Catcher was not making an attempt for the ball.

This is my son’s second season playing select. He’s on a 12u team. Prior to that, he played two years of LL (both fall and spring). Last year, we knew nothing about select ball and picked the team that I felt best about the coach of the three teams who offered him spots.

That team played AA and mopped the floor with their competition most of the season. The first half of the season, the coach was rotating in players more, and several players were struggling to keep up. They started winning when he switched to keeping the most consistent players in their spots the bulk of the time. Those consistent players all stayed. About 1/3 of the team is new this year, and those kids are definitely stronger than the ones who left.

They started this season at AAA which seemed logical, except they can’t seem to get it together. Half the kids seem like they don’t want to be there, and it shows. I think they’re tired of losing, and I can’t blame them. It’s getting hard to watch. They’re not losing close games most of the time; they’re falling apart on the field. The coach is struggling to keep morale up.

I know this is going to come across as “my sweet angel baby is perfect and can do no wrong”. I swear to you, I am not trying to be that person. When he’s playing first, there’s errors at catcher. When he’s catching, there’s errors at first. Yet he hasn’t had a single error. He has the highest strike percentage of the pitchers, second best ERA, and has caught the most steals. Second highest QAB and third highest OPS. He just barely missed making All Stars for LL this year too in a very large, incredibly competitive league. Is he the world’s greatest 12u player? No, of course not.

He likes his teammates. His coach is a great person. We feel like the size of the organization is a good fit. But I’m questioning whether we should be looking for somewhere more able to challenge him. He absolutely loves the sport and wants to play in high school and hopefully college (Juco is totally ok with him). He has gained a ton of skill since starting select, and I know this coach has had a lot to do with it, but at what point is it time to move on?

Just a vent. No need for input really. Just feeling sad for my kid.

My son started playing baseball in a fall LL season when he was 8. He just turned 12, so he’s just under 4 years of playing. He had buddies playing select ball before he even tried LL. He has worked his butt off and gotten pretty good. He’s got an aptitude for the sport, but has to work harder for it than some of his friends do.

We live in an area where probably 75% of LL players also play select. He is on his second year playing select and LL. Last fall, for middle school, his buddies all made JV, and he made C team. He took it well and continued to work hard. This spring, there was a marked difference. His work was clearly paying off. He started getting some attention from other coaches. This was the first year that it was clear coaches knew who he was. He even got his first intentional walk which cracked him up.

We’re part of a very large and highly competitive LL, in an area where our local 4A high school goes to the state baseball tournament almost every year. Baseball is BIG here. A friend of mine is on the board for our league and he let me know that my son’s name came up in conversation at the all star meeting. And while the votes and tallies are secret, he said there was a solid chance my son made it.

We just found out today that he didn’t. I never told him what I’d heard. He only ever asked about all stars a couple of times, and I always just said “we’ll have to wait and see.” His baseball buddies all made it. They’re a group of 5, and he’s the only one who didn’t get the nod. He’s devastated. It’s breaking my heart.

A dear friend is caring for her elderly father with cancer. He’s lost a good bit of weight, and doesn’t have much appetite, so she’s trying to find calorie dense foods for him. He is not on a liquid only diet, but foods do need to be soft, fairly smooth, and easy to swallow.

Some of the current items on the list:

Boost/Ensure shakes

Cream based soups (he’s been eating a lot of these and is sick of them)

Instant oatmeal made with half and half and a scoop of peanut butter

Cottage cheese (full fat)

Chia pudding

Super pudding (instant pudding mix with Boost/Ensure)

Grits

Polenta

Cream of Wheat with peanut butter

Soft scrambled eggs

Ice cream

Smoothies (he’s also had a ton of these and is also over it)

Mashed potatoes with butter and cream

No food allergies. He does need to keep acidity fairly low. Not a big fan of yogurt or avocado, but not opposed to having them in things if they’re at least somewhat masked by other flavors. They’re trying to find more foods than just drinks. The poor guy might lose it if he’s presented with another shake or smoothie. The primary concern is keeping his calories up, not as concerned about overall nutritional content at this point.

I know that I used to have a recipe for a pudding that used chocolate instant pudding and avocado, but I can’t find it now. Anyone familiar with what I’m talking about. I feel like there was more to it than the pudding, milk, and avocado, but it’s possible that’s all it was.

Any other ideas? He’s a steak and potatoes guy, and this soft food stuff is driving him crazy. Thanks!