u/amysantiago809

Do you guys think it’s okay to be friends with your ex after a year or so?

Like, not immediately after the breakup, but after you’ve had enough time apart, both moved on, and you’re both single again.

Has anyone here actually been in this situation? If so, how did it turn out for you?

So this happened on my evening walk and I can't stop thinking about it.

Lil context: my evening walk group has 3 ammamma aged women and daantlo okari husband.

So this one ammamma, she is like so curious about things, constantly asking about sth or the other, great with numbers, like crazy genius. So one evening, she told me that, thanu 7th daaka chaduvkundi anta but since school 4kms dooram ayyesariki valla parents inka aapesar anta pampidam school ki, but she always wanted to go to school and study but she couldn't.

She said if she'd studied valla family inkoncham better position lo undedhemo or she could've helped her husband ani.

I was like damn intha jarigina she still thought about her family rather than herself. It got me thinking how women were literally robbed of their potential. And hearing her story made me realise how privileged I am.

And another scene:

So this wife and husband pair, I was walking with the wife, we were a bit ahead than the rest of us. And this husband was chatting with the rest of the others. Suddenly he ditched the conversation, cut across and came infront of us. Then this wife asked enti ala ochesav vallu unnar kadha ani.

And he said "mee aadavallu na kanna mundhu nadisthe na paruv em avvali evranna chusthe."

I was like wtf.

How fragile can a man's ego be that a woman walking two steps ahead of him in public becomes a threat to his "paruvu"?

So the problem is , em cheyatledhu, em cheyatledhe ani edupu, sare edaina chesthanaa ante ledhu.

Mrng antha edola time waste chesi, night avvagaane guilt crawls in, I promise myself repu elagaina edoti chadavaali, productive ga undali ani but i dont.

This cycle repeats and i cant really get out of it

For context Im a recent graduate with no interest to join corporate sector and preparing for govt exams

And i know that govt exams ki ee level lo unte eppatki i cant reach there ani.

But i dont know i cant really convince myself , i feel im stuck in a loop

Did anyone of you face this and how did you get out of it?