u/analyticsguy23

Either my coworker is the single worst scheduler alive, or hes doing this on purpose. Because the only open slot on his calendar is somehow always my lunch hour.

It's the fifth time this month. The meeting drops dead on 12 to 1, i push back but it's the same line every time - "sorry man, only slot i could find." And yeah fine, calendars get packed, sometimes there really isnt another gap, i know. But its every single time. And its always MY lunch that eats it, never his 9am, never his 4pm, never his lunch. Wild how the one free hour on the whole calendar is always the exact one im supposed to be eating in.

So now if i decline im the difficult one right. On paper he tried, lunch was all that was left, im the guy throwing a fit over a sandwich. But i didnt take this job to skip lunch every week so his afternoon lines up clean.

Maybe im being soft and blocking your own lunch on the calendar is just basic adult stuff i shouldve been doing this whole time. Or maybe "it was the only slot" is the exact thing a guy says when he knows full well what hes doing and is betting youll be too polite to call it.

Is this clueless or calculated?

someone i work with just calls. the phone rings, no slack, no "hey you free", nothing, and now im on a call apparently. today it was nine minutes about a thing that was genuinely two lines of text and i spent the first minute just sitting there going wait what is this even about.

maybe im insane but a text first is the bare minimum??

you knock before you walk into someones house. you dont get to just decide the next ten minutes are mine to give you.
and somehow im the difficult one for it. couple people on my team act like wanting a heads up is precious, a phones for phoning, why am i being weird about it. so either everybody just forgot manners are a thing or im the one losing it over a phone doing phone stuff. genuinely cannot tell which

surprise call - is it rude, or am i being ridiculous?