Hey! I wanted to ask how long it usually takes to be assigned to a ship with Royal Caribbean. I’ve already completed the entire process, my visa has been approved, and I’ve submitted it to them. They told me I just need to wait for my embarkation assignment, so I was wondering how long it typically takes from that point until you actually get on board. Thankss
To give you some context, I met a guy in the United States; we worked together. We started dating, and he was sweet, intelligent, caring, and thoughtful. Spoiler alert: he was love bombing.
We returned to our home countries, on different continents. We couldn't break contact, so we continued our long-distance relationship. I won't go into too much detail and will get straight to the point. At a certain point, we decided that the best thing was for me to go to his country to see him (one year since we met). The first week was perfect, but then all hell broke loose.
He would get angry about everything, treat me badly, ignore me, gaslight me, if I wanted to talk he would shut down and blame me (basically a lot of emotional abuse), And then the physical abuse began. He cornered me against the walls, insulted me, threw me to the floor, stepped on me, choked me, etc.
Besides, he smoked weed almost every day (he was addicted and I didn't know, he confessed when it was already obvious and I was in his country and his house living with him)
I gave him a thousand chances because he always manipulated me and used emotional blackmail to get me to forgive him, saying he was going to change. After 3 months, I went back to my country and ended the relationship.
The thing is, he made sure to tell everyone around him that I used him for money and talk shit about me (he doesn't even have any money). I found out because we have a mutual friend. I had never told anyone because I was so scared and ashamed of what happened. I blamed myself in some point for not leaving sooner.
I'm fine now, I'm in therapy, I no longer have feelings towards him, just disgust.
But I'm left wondering what happens to people like him. Will he continue to abuse women? Will his friends and family continue to think he's a good person, when the truth is he's violent?
I think he's ruining his own life, ignoring his problems, smoking more weed or maybe other drugs, falling into bad habits as usual . The only thing that hurts me is the other girls he's going to abuse.
P.S.: I have evidence (photos, videos, audio, chats) of the abuse, but sometimes I'm afraid it won't be enough or that he'll retaliate. Would you file a police report? It's something that scares me.