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I met someone new and I think it triggered something inside me

Please excuse my grammar, English isn't my native language.

I(m27) met someone new just a few months after a bad break-up. We only have seen each other a few times but we've been talking for almost 2 months already. Although I'm not expecting a romantic relationship with her, I can see how nice and amazing she(f28) is and I really enjoy being with her.

But during our last date (just a friendly date), she held my hand. I asked her why she did that and she just said that it's because she feels safe and comfortable being with me. At first, it was all okay with me because I feel the same way when I'm with her. But as the days went by, I became conscious of how deep our connection has become and I think it triggered something inside me. I just woke up one day feeling anxious and replying to her messages makes me panic. I feel like all the connections I had before is now gone, and it makes me wanna runaway from her but I know I shouldn't because it's unfair. My chest is always tight and I feel dizzy all the time.

I'm not actually sure what kind of attachment style I have, but this isn't the first time I've felt this way. I'm aware that if I don't manage this correctly, there's a high chance that I'll ruin everything between us. I'm tired of losing amazing people in my life just because I feel this way. Please help me.

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u/anxietychips — 2 days ago
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I met someone new and something got triggered inside me

Please excuse my grammar, English isn't my native language.

I(m27) met someone new just a few months after a bad break-up. We only have seen each other a few times but we've been talking for almost 2 months already. Although I'm not expecting a romantic relationship with her, I can see how nice and amazing she(f28) is and I really enjoy being with her.

But during our last date (just a friendly date), she held my hand. I asked her why she did that and she just said that it's because she feels safe and comfortable being with me. At first, it was all okay with me because I feel the same way when I'm with her. But as the days went by, I became conscious of how deep our connection has become and I think it triggered something inside me. I just woke up one day feeling anxious and replying to her messages makes me panic. I feel like all the connections I had before is now gone, and it makes me wanna runaway from her but I know I shouldn't because it's unfair. My chest is always tight and I feel dizzy all the time.

I'm not actually sure what kind of attachment style I have, but this isn't the first time I've felt this way. I'm aware that if I don't manage this correctly, there's a high chance that I'll ruin everything between us. I'm tired of losing amazing people in my life just because I feel this way. Please help me.

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u/anxietychips — 2 days ago
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I met someone new and something got triggered inside me

Please excuse my grammar, English isn't my native language.

I(m27) met a new friend jsut a few months after a bad break-up. We only have seen each other a few times but we've been talking for almost 2 months already. Although I'm not expecting a romantic relationship with her, I can see how nice and amazing she(f28) is and I really enjoy my time with her.

But during our last date (just a friendly date), she held my hand. I asked her why she did that and she just said that it's because she feels safe and comfortable being with me. At first, it was all okay with me because I also feel the same when I'm with her. But as the days went by, I became conscious of how deep our connection has become and I think it triggered something inside me. I just woke up one day feeling anxious and replying to her messages makes me panic. I feel like all the connections I had before are now gone, and it makes me wanna run away from her but I know I shouldn't because it's unfair. My chest is always tight and I feel dizzy all the time. I can't focus on anything and listening to romantic songs makes it worse.

I'm not actually sure what kind of attachment style I have, but this isn't the first time I've felt this way. I'm aware that if I don't manage this correctly, there's a high chance that I'll ruin everything between us. I'm tired of losing amazing people in my life just because I feel this way. Please help me.

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u/anxietychips — 2 days ago
▲ 126 r/casualbataan

An open letter sa mga epal na LGUs

Mga Ma'am/Ser,

Hindi po ito tungkol sa personal na opinyon o pulitika. Tungkol ito sa isang responsibilidad na hindi dapat ginagawang biro, lalo na kapag kaligtasan ng mga tao ang nakasalalay. Hindi rin ito tungkol sa kung sino ang mas nakakatawa, mas relatable, o mas maraming engagement sa social media. Ito ay isang paalala na sana ay seryosohin ninyo.

Kapag may bagyo. Kapag tumataas ang tubig. Kapag may posibilidad na malubog ang mga barangay. Kapag kailangang magdesisyon kung papasok ba ang mga estudyante o mananatili sa bahay. Hindi ito ang oras para magpacute.

Ang announcement ng class suspension ay hindi dapat ginagawang palabas.

Nauunawaan namin na gusto ninyong maging malapit sa inyong mga nasasakupan. Naiintindihan din namin na bahagi na ng modernong public service ang social media. Walang masama sa pagiging relatable, palaban, nakakatawa, o kahit medyo papansin paminsan-minsan. Kung gusto ninyong magpacute at magpapansin dahil hindi ninyo kayang tanggalin ang pagiging trapo, sige lang.

Pero sana, huwag sa ganitong pagkakataon.

Kapag may kalamidad, ang priority ay dapat malinaw, mabilis, at madaling maintindihang impormasyon.

Kailangan bang hulaan pa ng magulang kung suspended ba ang klase?

Kailangan pa bang basahin nang ilang beses ang announcement para maintindihan kung ano ba talaga ang desisyon?

Kailangan pa bang maghanap sa comments section ng clarification dahil mas inuna ang punchline kaysa sa impormasyon?

Sana naman hindi.

Dahil sa likod ng bawat announcement na iyan ay mga magulang na kailangang magdesisyon kung papapasukin ba nila ang kanilang mga anak. May mga estudyanteng kailangang bumiyahe. May mga guro na kailangang pumasok. May mga pamilyang nasa lugar na mabilis binabaha. At may mga taong ang tanging inaasahan sa ganitong sitwasyon ay ang kanilang lokal na pamahalaan.

Hindi nila kailangan ng pa-cute. Kailangan nila ng malinaw na sagot.

At dito rin pumapasok ang responsibilidad ng inyong mga Public Information Officers.

Mga PIO, trabaho ninyo ang maghatid ng impormasyon, hindi gumawa ng palaisipan.

Hindi kailangang maging boring ang public information. Hindi kailangang tunog memorandum palagi. Pero may malaking pagkakaiba ang pagiging engaging sa pagiging confusing. May malaking pagkakaiba ang pagiging relatable sa pagiging irresponsible sa paraan ng paghahatid ng impormasyon.

Kung class suspension ang announcement, sabihin nang diretso: SUSPENDED ANG KLASE.

Sabihin kung anong level. Sabihin kung anong petsa. Sabihin kung anong dahilan kung kinakailangan. Ilagay ang importanteng detalye sa lugar na madaling makita.

Hindi kailangang paglaruan ang wording para lang maging witty.

Dahil sa panahon ng kalamidad, ang kalituhan ay hindi creativity.

At sa mga Mayor, sana ay maalala ninyo kung ano talaga ang ibig sabihin ng pagiging public servant.

Hindi lamang kayo ang mukha sa tarpaulin.

Hindi lamang kayo ang pangalan sa Facebook post.

Hindi lamang kayo ang nasa likod ng mga campaign jingle, slogan, at photo opportunity.

Kayo ang isa sa mga taong inaasahan ng inyong mga nasasakupan kapag may panganib.

Kaya sana, kapag seryoso ang sitwasyon, seryoso rin kayo.

Hindi namin hinihingi na tanggalin ninyo ang inyong personalidad. Hindi namin hinihingi na maging robot ang inyong mga announcement. Ang hinihingi lang namin ay respeto sa sitwasyon at respeto sa mga taong umaasa sa impormasyon ninyo.

Kung gusto ninyong magpatawa, magpacute, magpapansin, o magpakitang-tao, maraming pagkakataon para gawin iyon.

Pero kapag baha na ang kalsada, malakas ang ulan, may bagyo, at nakasalalay sa isang announcement ang desisyon ng isang magulang kung ligtas bang papasukin ang anak niya, huwag ninyo nang gawing content ang kalamidad.

Dahil ang pagiging trapo ay maaaring maging biro sa ibang pagkakataon.

Pero kapag buhay, kaligtasan, at kapakanan ng mga tao ang nakataya, hindi na ito biro.

Sana bago ninyo pindutin ang “Post,” tanungin muna ninyo ang inyong sarili:

Kung anak ko ang kailangang bumiyahe bukas, maiintindihan ko ba agad ang announcement na ito?

Kung ang sagot ay hindi, ayusin ninyo.

Simple lang naman.

Public information should inform the public.

Hindi ito contest kung sino ang pinaka-cute na Mayor.

Magserbisyo naman tayo nang seryoso, para naman seryosohin rin ng mga tao ang gobyerno.

u/anxietychips — 2 days ago
▲ 0 r/casualbataan

Operating po ba Lazada deliveries ngayon sa areas nyo?

May inaabangan lang kasi akong parcel since need ko na rin. Two days na rin kasing nasa delivery hub. Thanks!

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u/anxietychips — 9 days ago