u/artsybx26

Can someone help me do DevOps projects that'll simulate real world workflows and the issues they'll resolve while working in production. I'm trying to pivot to the DevOps Engineer role from a cloud background. I have done some projects like 2 tier 3 tier scalable applications with AWS cloud, using tools like terraform, docker, jenkins. I'll be thankful if anyone can provide much more advanced projects that'll help me land a decent devops engineer role .

There's a huge gap in makeup for brown and deep skintones with different undertones. Why is no one interested in filling it out. Whatever is available by Indian brands has little to no shades catered to deep shades or they're ridiculously expensive. Would it be a scalable market?

Suggest me books that have a very unlikable female protagonist, make questionable choices but seem realistic to the situation they were in. Going through an existential crisis, grieving their lost ones (any other recos that deals with loss of a parent), managing depression, managing career and bit funny, sadness , lingintsarcastic possibly would be at their lowest at the starting but might have a positive ending, like some light at the end of the tunnel. Positive ending isn't mandatory tho. I want the narrative to be handled with nuance and not just throwing in few mentally unstable characters or giving them attribute like depression with adding little to no value to the plot.

I was recommended with my year of rest and relaxation, a certain hunger , elena ferrante works but somehow i couldn't get myself to read it or interested .

Ps: can't handle crude violence, suicidal thoughts, being in extremely annoying or outright toxic relationships, use of drugs or any addictions.

How to pretend or act like an agreeable person with relatives, i don't necessarily hold any strong hatred towards these people but i just can't get myself to be calm, composed and friendly person with them in recent times. Any actionable tips ? My sister is going to get married , so I'm expected to host and greet everybody like a normal calm person. I get annoyed or irritated for no reason in recent times.

Been craving mango pickle for sometime and ig reels and reddit only making it worse. So does anyone around here knows a good, homemade, spicy(spice tolerance is really high) Mango pickle sellers on ig ? Definitely homemade.

For context, i have 3 (age; 24, 23, 21) cousin brothers we're really close and almost like actual siblings. But among themselves the brothers were never particularly close.

My first brother survived a fatal accident 3-4 years back, he underwent multiple surgeries including brain surgery. His speech is bit impaired because of it and his overall functioning and reacting is also slow, which was warned by the doctors during the surgery. He was in coma for 2-3 months. Although he's doing good, he's not fully recovered from it and has some issues. But my other brother 2 brothers are kinda getting at him for every little thing. Today one of the brothers said " vadi avatharam andaru chudala?" That sentence might've been used in the flow of the moment but their reasoning today stunned me, they weren't really tight growing up and that's continuing into their adulthood as well , i was asking them to be little empathetic towards him and try to be friendly and not belittle him with words like that and make efforts to bond with him and within these 2 too.

They said that they have done all that and there's no change in his behaviour and he throws tantrums like a kid if he's not allowed to drive, and we're done trying to motivate him and helping him, his mindset and everything is annyoing and all that.

Due to majorr surgeries to brain and few other places he can't talk properly and his entire functioning is really slow and sometimes he puts his hands like nassar from bahubali and they all try to correct him about the form and he gets irritated and lashes out at them. I said it's a small thing that he unknowingly does, it's not a big deal don't nit pick on things like this and my 2 brothers replied atleast he should look pleasant right, he looks like a faulty person and i want people around me to look good, that stunned me . It's not like he puts hand like that 24/7 sometimes rarely without his notice it might go like that. I'm assuming it'd be because of the surgery.

But they're hell bent on arguing with me and mocks that I'm supporting him and that i should be stupid to do so.

I don't know if they're just dysfunctional or just outright a##holes in this scenario.

One of the memorable ones was (for context) I matched with a guy on a dating app 6,7 years ago. He's from Hyderabad but lives in Sweden, he was using the app while in hyd but we matched just when he flew back to sweden , so we never got the chance to meet irl, but we talked for a few months and had great conversations. We were slightly attracted to each other but i thought it'd be best to not pursue this romantically any further because of LDR and a few other reasons. So we stopped talking but after that he reached out to me after a year or so when he landed his dream job since we used to talk a lot about it back when we were talking and we kept in touch loosely from there on, he'd reach out to me once a year and would update on what's going in each other lives. We'd plan to meet when he visits hyd but something or other happens and we wouldn't meet . 2 years ago when he was planning to visit he asked me out with something like " Let me take you on a date, i want to know you and understand why you'd react to things the way you do". It wasn't a flashy or romantic line to get impressed to immediately but it felt intentional and personal .

Recently I've been receiving a few invites and messages for no good reason from people of this sub, usually when i make a post on other subs people reach out with something to say that might not be well communicated in the comments but in here people message for no joy. I don't find people messaging me creepy but it's the lack of reason that creeps me out. I think this is encountered by most but i just want to share my opinion , if you do want to reach out to someone for god knows what reason do establish a context and something to actually talk about rather simply dropping a hi ,how are you, had lunch chatter.

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What do people generally think about Telugu communities strongly preserving or spreading aspects of Telugu culture in other places like caste dynamics, fan culture, or celebrating festivals on a very grand scale? I understand wanting to stay connected to one’s roots through these things, but sometimes it can feel excessive, almost like they’re trying too hard to recreate the same social environment everywhere they go. At times, it can even feel less like integration and more like trying to make the place culturally dominate instead of adapting to and engaging with the culture already there. Maybe social media & influencers amplifies this perception, but it can also come across as reluctance to genuinely respect or participate in the cultures they’re living alongside.

Do these communities also meaningfully integrate into the cultures of the places they live in? American culture may feel easier to integrate into because of its global influence, but would people be equally willing to integrate into cultures like Finnish, Irish, or German culture if they lived there?”

Recently my friend and I had a conversation with regards to our career, we both are unemployed atp and have our own personal struggles going on. She lives in the USA and I am in india, she texted me a month back worrying how she's wasting interviews with big tech companies and is worried about it , which is of course valid, this same situation repeats every time she gives an interview she just texts to vent about her experience, which is okay, she has 3 yoe and been trying for companies like microsoft, google, facebook etc with fake experience of 8 years on resume on multiple different technologies she isn't an actual expert in and had been getting calls for a first round she complained that most of them were getting disinterred within few minutes into the interview to which i had given a honest opinion saying she's biting more than she can chew and suggested she stick to her actual working experience or domain.

I don't know how things work in the USA if this actually works to land a job but i had given my opinion, since she only mentioned that she can't even code a complicated app developing programs and there were obvious visa reasons for her to choose this whole thing. But ever since then she stopped texting me , we usually text almost daily or 3,4 times a week but there's no text from her for the past 3 weeks, she didn't even wish me on my b'day. Which felt a bit strange i don't understand if my words offended her.

I don't know how to address this with her or if I'm just reading into it too much. The reason I didn't text her after that is we weren't actively updating each other that week or for the past one month and it's just me who intiates calls mostly and she suddenly sent a text saying I'm only texting you to vent about this experience which felt a bit off putting as she wasn't even returning calls before that. I'm afraid we have become therapists for each other. We don't like to take advice from each other, always trying to prove that one's opinions are better than others, or something else. I think we aren't helping each other grow and this ship has sailed long back . So I'm wondering when or how would people know that it's high time they let go of their friends for both the parties betterment? Thanks for any advice.

25F needs advice on how to date and build companionship. I met my ex boyfriend on a dating app in 2022 24M , dated for about a year and i called it quits because i understood it might not turn into marriage. For context i come from a conservative indian background, dating around concept isn't that common in my family. Anyways, so i ended the relationship in 2023 we dated for an year or so. It was okayish now if i look back it feels like i rushed into it because i didn't want to be single at that time. The reason I broke up with him is that i often felt extremely lonely emotionally even while he was physically present with me, we did had a good banter but after a point it literally felt we like married who doesn't express emotions but just exist in relationship, even physical intimacy felt like that, within few months into the relationship i felt and i imagined how worse it could get after couple of years. It almost felt like he was with me just for s#x, he wouldn't initiate conversations that deeply outside of pleasure and of his performance. When i conveyed his behaviour is making me feel this way he got super offended. After all this when I broke up with him he became abusive with his language when and didn't want to let go of me but later apologized and said he was drunk . So after all that we weren't super in touch or no contact we'd meet when i visited his city and recently a few days back i visited his city and he texted a few days before to it so i thought we'd meet for lunch and he got me flowers and we ended up having s#x , we of course aren't dating anyone at present infact we both didn't dated anyone after that. I tho went on a couple of dates and got into a situationship with a pot head which was as effed up as it could get but never really dated anyone seriously. And now i have no interest in dating anymore, it doesn't excite me not just dating even the idea of partnership feels cumbersome to me . Idk if it's just a phase. Is it common to feel this way?