u/ashysodapuppy

i feel bad, but lately i am so burnt out. this morning i called off because i slept an hour past my alarm and just feel there’s no point of going due to how late id be. i keep calling off for similar reasons, and i want to be honest with my admin but im scared. i’ve honestly been depressed and struggle alot outside of work. i just have been battling a guilt related to the burnout and i dont have any support or solutions. just feel stuck. but today, missing my alarm is truly a final straw because ive never ever done this EVER. i can’t believe i slept so long

guys for a while i have been wanting to make my alter devoted to my mother. in all honesty i neglect it because i don’t much about her. there’s not anyone i can ask about her because i don’t speak to my moms side of family. i do have candles and have lit the white one and prayed at the alter. but i want to give her offerings, i just don’t know what to put because i don’t know anything about her. but the connection is so strong being she’s my mother that i want to give her offerings. any one else ever run into this issue? how did u go about giving offerings?

guys for a while i have been wanting to make my alter devoted to my mother. in all honesty i neglect it because i don’t know much about her. she passed when i was five, there’s not anyone i can ask about her because i don’t speak to my moms side of family. i do have candles and have lit the white one and prayed at the alter. but i want to give her offerings, i just don’t know what to put because i don’t know anything about her. but the connection is so strong being she’s my mother that i want to give her offerings. any one else ever run into this issue? how did u go about giving offerings?

i do know she was lively, bold, and had to have loved grey goose cause i saw a pic of her holding a huge bottle of it before lol.

anyway pls help

hey guys i have metro pcs and want to switch to take advantage of the free mobile line for a year. i wanted to lease the iphone 17 pro max, and wanna know if prices have changed for u guys, and leasing phone is beneficial?
-have the prices randomly changed overtime?
-mistakenly charged for the free plan?
-will leasing a phone give me a headache.
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no one talks about the fact that wendy loves ddg, an exposed woman abuser. even her haters shooort ddg which i find weird. i knew she was weird when she kept being around him during the proof being posted of him abusing halle bailey. she’s so male centered it’s sad

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pls don’t steal my boost!!!! someone in here has before.

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they returned my paycheck but there’s nothing different about my info. i’ve gotten multiple paychecks to this account no issue. i spoke to member services and they told me to review my transactions history, and to make sure my info is accurate. however, my direct deposit is directly connected to chime through the app of my payroll provider, on my chime settings. everything is cross matched. so what’s going on? should i ask my employer to write me a paper check instead???? this is insane!!!

i’m sorry, but this is a job where u will get feedback often. u have to be able to listen to feedback and implement it the next occurrence. as therapists (in a clinic at least) we work with the same kids, and we know their programming by heart, when someone is telling u something it is NOT to step on ur toes. and u do NOT know everything!!!! i notice alot of therapists literally take it personal, or act as if the correction shouldn’t come from u since ur an rbt too. but its so unrealistic to me because we spend the most time together, and bcba’s aren’t around to catch all of our errors to then correct them. it seems like they’re waiting for me to stop talking when trying to give feedback, as if it’s not imperative for the kids’ care to take this information seriously. it’s extra annoying because we rotate kids, so watching clients programming be done wrong during my other sessions (in passing) is very hard to watch! i’ve started to tell bcba’s when i notice errors, but yea. i notice therapists truly want to do things their way, and will act as if BCBA’s are babying the kids, rather than asking WHY they choose to do certain things with the programming, it actualy makes sense when broken down.

u have to understand that these BCBAS have an education on ABA u do not have and that is okay. there are so many times i was so sure of certain changes needing to be made, and i was so utterly wrong, and lacking education on clinical aspects that actually push for progress. it’s very agitating, i feel alot of rbt’s think they have a point to prove with the kids. and will often say stuff like, “they know what they’re doing”, “u gotta talk a certain way for them to listen sometimes”, like no. they’ll refuse to STOP using language involving,

“no thank u”
“no”
“stop”
“we don’t __ we____”
“that’s nasty”
“unun”
i find therapists who get angry when BCBAS say not to use the words “no” to be egotistical, and need to work in a daycare if they need to tell a kid no sooooo badly.

how hard is it to instead say “later” instead of no. or find a compromise, to state what u WANT to see not what u DONT. it’s difficult at first, but it is automatic when u practice. but some therapists refuse, they think we are allowing the kids to “get away with things”. these kids have communicative delays, and we know this when signing up for the job. maybe eventually they can tolerate a blatant no, but there’s a baseline for everything, some kids can tolerate no some CANNOT. most CANNOT. and that is okay! ur asking someone who can’t even communicate what they want fully, to hear “no” and be okay with it. people underestimate how frustrating life can be when u have limited communication, communication is such a key component to human existence, i can only imagine how they feel inside their own bodies. we are here to help them….. not challenge them unnecessarily.

if u use the language properly ur sessions should not be running this way, but because u want to power struggle with a literal child ur job is harder, and ur looking for solutions that u don’t even need! does anyone else experience this frustration as an RBT???

i feel like bcba’s give team lead positions to people because they’re interning, and it feels right.?? idk bcba’s logic tbh, but i feel they should be separate. i’ve experienced at two different schools, and clinic, where an intern was appointed as team lead and legit does nothing to support the team, nor do they possess leadership qualities, which is fine. not everyone can be a leader, nor is it neccesary. but it causes disparities among RBTS when support is needed for things, or when therapists need constructive criticism…. it isn’t given. i’ve seen programs be run so incorrectly, and things be done so wrong, behavior received negative attention, just so many pointers…….and i never want to correct because im not a team lead, and don’t want to step on anyone’s toes (sometimes therapists take critiques personal).

i did have an intern team lead who was amazing, and always gave us feedback that was helpful, and digestible. but even then; with her interning responsibilities she couldn’t even be around most of the time to support (classroom environment), and i honestly started to feel bad asking for help with stuff because of how swamped she was with school work + fieldwork. i don’t think it’s fair to anyone, and i think bcba’s just hand the team lead responsibility to interns as an inherent thing, and its lowkey dysfunctional lol.

just my opinion.

as a black woman in the field, it honestly hurts how many times i’ve been made to feel dehumanized in the ABA field. i often experience this in particular, and it grinds my gears. i’m an amazing rbt, im passionate and i love the kids. i work very hard for my kids, and i am pretty good at maintaining positive rapport while making progress toward goals. i know this for a fact.

because of this, i often find myself being put with kids who i have never worked with, and have no instructional control with. apart of me feels it’s because i am good at the job, making admin feel i can handle being flexible in these near impossible ways; but on the other hand, i often feel like it’s because of my race. i’ve experienced watching my non black peers go through minimal strain while coming to work, and scheduling etc. but for some reason i often feel like i am being made the sacrifice. there’s often a stereotype black women experience related to our ability to endure strain, and that we are “strong”. i belive this translates into my work and i truly hate it.

today i became very deregulated, because i was put with two kids for group session. one whom id never paired with, observed, or anything). and the other id had negative experiences with due to her being slow to pair, she ran away from me at start of numerous session; its okay with me but i understand its a relationship that will take careful consideration. so i didnt appreciate being place with her impromptu. im also new at this job so it upset me even more.

does anyone else experience this? i often feel really alone.

no judgment, i legit don’t care who anyone dates. i also don’t think it says anything about u as a black woman if u choose to date a white woman, specifically being a lesbian. its a genuine question, and i really would like to understand the inside of u guys’ minds/experiences. i notice that black lesbians often date white women, and as a black queer it always made me wonder why, and what kind of feelings the black community, specifically black women… make u feel to lean toward white women. once again, i do not judge, idc. i also love masc lesbians, but often i notice u guys have non black exes, or u have never dated a black girl even though u are black. and it makes me ponder quite a bit, i often worry im not u guys type, or that u may feel intimated/nervous to speak to me maybe because of prior homophobia u have experienced in the community. i also know and empathize with the homophobia we experience as gays in our community, so i am really just trying to gain perspective. this is truly a safe space.

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