u/asianbufffet

I seriously feel like napping has been ruining my life, but I genuinely don’t know how to stop. This has been an on and off issue for almost two years now. I am a student and I typically get enough sleep (7-8) hours, and especially more now since I’m on summer break. However I don’t think the amount of sleep I’m getting is the issue.

Here is my daily routine these past few weeks:

Wake up at 10AM, scroll on phone until 11AM, get out of bed. Make brunch, eat brunch. Feel sleepy after eating, take nap at 2PM. Nap until 4-5PM, half of the day is gone. Feel guilty about napping. Be productive for a few hours. Do something for entertainment until 12AM. Get into bed and sleep at 1-2AM.

I waste so much time by napping 2-3 hours in the middle of the day. I think it’s also been leading to weight gain since I nap after eating. It also messes with my sleep schedule if I start the nap at 4-5PM and wake up at 7-8PM.

I feel like it may also be a form of procrastination for me. When I have a lot on my plate J always tell myself the excuse “i’ll do it after a quick power nap” and then end up napping for three hours. Even though I get stuff done, I wish I could do it all before 5PM.

I know this is so unhealthy but I physically don’t know how to stop. If i start feeling tired it’s like I’m magnetized to my bed.

I’ve committed to daniel’s for architecture so it might be different compared to most arts and science students, but I’m wondering when is the general time period to select courses for first year?

All of my other friends going to other schools have finished building their schedules already so i’m a little nervous I’ve missed the deadline or something … however i haven’t received any emails or anything from uoft after accepting my offer so….

OK this is gonna be a long one, but hopefully you can read through and give me some advice or thoughts.

Also, yes, this is WLW (we are both girls).

So me and this girl have known each other for a few years, but we only became “closer friends” this year. Ok, imagine her: masc, beautiful features, 5’8, mid length hair, nice hands.

To say that I like her is honestly an understatement. She’s been creeping into my mind every single day for two months now, and I don’t remember exactly when I started feeling this way towards her. I’ve always thought she was good looking, but I don’t know how my feelings have developed to this….

I wouldn’t be so confused and not be able to get her out of my mind if she didn’t stop giving me hints and suggestions that she might like me. I’m confused because she also always openly expresses how much she likes this other girl. I feel like she’s just playing with me and honestly she’s got me wrapped around her finger. To make matters worse, we’re apart of the same friend group so there’s no way for me avoid her because we see each other basically everyday.

So, in terms of me, there’s been countless instances where she’s given me mixed signals. For example, she always touches me (like touching my waist, hair, etc) when we’re with our friends and when we’re alone, and she doesn’t do this with any of our other friends. Another weird thing is how she’s asked me “would you date me” over three different times…. honestly it’s not completely serious nor in a joking tone either… i GENUINELY CANNOT TELLLL

Another specific scenario I remember is this. A few weeks ago, we were sitting in my car at night after a group hangout (alone), and just talking about random stuff. Randomly, she throws me the “would you date me” question again. I answered cryptically because J didn’t wanna just say yes. A few minutes later, out of nowhere she just say “what would you do if I made out with you right now” LIKEEE WHATT, i was so shocked by that. I didn’t know how to respond and I honestly don’t remember exactly what I said. Before she left my car, she said “are you not gonna kiss me goodbye” I said, “you kiss me goodbye since I drove you”, so she actually KISSED me on the cheek.

There’s been a lot of other moments where I just feel the tensions between us but I don’t know if it’s all in my head.

OK, now this is why I’m very confused. In terms of how she always talks about another girl, she always talks about how she thinks this other girl is (a girl from our university that’s not in our friend group) so “hot” and how much she likes her (the girl). This takes me aback because from what she’s saying, she really likes this other girl.

I don’t know what to do because I genuinely think i really like her, but I feel like she’s just playing with me.

Oh also, we are moving away from each other in september so I know this won’t last, but I just wish we could just have a MOMENT or something .

If you have any other questions feel free to ask!!

OK this is gonna be a long one, but hopefully you can read through and give me some advice or thoughts.

Also yes, this is WLW (we are both girls).

So me and this girl have known each other for a few years, but we only became “closer friends” this year. Ok, imagine her: masc, beautiful features, 5’8, mid length hair, nice hands.

To say that I like her is honestly an understatement. She’s been creeping into my mind every single day for two months now, and I don’t remember exactly when I started feeling this way towards her. I’ve always thought she was good looking, but I don’t know how my feelings have developed to this….

I wouldn’t be so confused and not be able to get her out of my mind if she didn’t stop giving me hints and suggestions that she might like me. I’m confused because she also always openly expresses how much she likes this other girl. I feel like she’s just playing with me and honestly she’s got me wrapped around her finger. To make matters worse, we’re apart of the same friend group so there’s no way for me avoid her because we see each other basically everyday.

So, in terms of me, there’s been countless instances where she’s given me mixed signals. For example, she always touches me (like touching my waist, hair, etc) when we’re with our friends and when we’re alone, and she doesn’t do this with any of our other friends. Another weird thing is how she’s asked me “would you date me” over three different times…. honestly it’s not completely serious nor in a joking tone either… i GENUINELY CANNOT TELLLL

Another specific scenario I remember is this. A few weeks ago, we were sitting in my car at night after a group hangout (alone), and just talking about random stuff. Randomly, she throws me the “would you date me” question again. I answered cryptically because J didn’t wanna just say yes. A few minutes later, out of nowhere she just say “what would you do if I made out with you right now” LIKEEE WHATT, i was so shocked by that. I didn’t know how to respond and I honestly don’t remember exactly what I said. Before she left my car, she said “are you not gonna kiss me goodbye” I said, “you kiss me goodbye since I drove you”, so she actually KISSED me on the cheek.

There’s been a lot of other moments where I just feel the tensions between us but I don’t know if it’s all in my head.

OK, now this is why I’m very confused. In terms of how she always talks about another girl, she always talks about how she thinks this other girl is (a girl from our university that’s not in our friend group) so “hot” and how much she likes her (the girl). This takes me aback because from what she’s saying, she really likes this other girl.

I don’t know what to do because I genuinely think i really like her, but I feel like she’s just playing with me.

Oh also, we are moving away from each other in september so I know this won’t last, but I just wish we could just have a MOMENT or something .

If you have any other questions feel free to ask!!

I recently got accepted into one of the best architecture programs (undergrad BA) in my country, and I’m struggling to choose between arch and social science (law if i choose social science).

I’ve always been passionate about architecture but i’m realistically worrying about my future job market due to the rise of AI.

In addition, of course, salary as well. I don’t come from a wealthy background so I don’t want to disappoint my parents without being able to support them in the future.

Any and all advice would be appreciated! Thank you !!!