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I need recs for period underwear that suits super heavy flow!! Like super heavy. First 2,5 days for me is a nightmare and I bleed through the thickest night pads there are. Would love period underwear recs from girls who have the same!

If you could recommend just ONE informative YouTube video to a friend or family member to help them truly understand what ME is, how severe it can become, and why it has been so misunderstood, which video would you choose?

It could be by a doctor, researcher, patient, journalist, or organization. I’m looking for the most clear and informative video that your average person could watch and understand, and take it very seriously.

Ideally only 10–20 minutes and suitable for someone who knows little (or nothing) about ME.

Thank you!💙

This is a bit of a rant I just wanted to share!

So, I don’t like the rider waite deck because I have a severe chronic illness and it’s very hard for me to remember the meaning of the cards. There’s also cards in the deck that naturally is scary when you live a dangerous life like this, health wise. So that deck is just not my cup of tea however I do respect how versatile it is.

I’m also a romantic at heart and I love movies, soulmates, romanticism, character types etc. So I made my own home made tarot deck literally by cutting out paper and writing the title and meaning on the cards. This made it quite simple for me to interpret what the cards mean. What’s frustrating about rider Waite is that each card seems to have so many different meanings that it’s just very hard for a brain with low cognitive capacity to interpret as well as frustrating. There’s also cards in the deck that I genuinely dislike because as someone with a trauma background, anything hidden, mysterious, confusing, conflicting triggers me a lot. I need certainty or some type of structure. So the cards like the high priestess and the moon etc is just very frustrating for me to see and makes me feel really bad. Then there’s cards with imagery that’s also really triggering and to me I just see abandonment and disinterest, such as two of swords, four of cups, four of pentacles, six of swords, four of swords, eight of cups. They might not have that meaning for others without trauma or other type of trauma, but they do to me and I get really triggered and feel left behind, abandoned and not considered and ignored when I see this imagery.

So for all of these reasons and many more, I made my own. Because I’m also a romantic and all this stuff, I made my own perfect pairing archetype cards. Some of them represent emotional unavailability and restraint, some of them represent tenderness, vulnerability, sincerity, love, and some of them represent strong, mature, radiant archetypes.

Non-triggering card meanings: For example I have a card that says transformation on it with a butterfly, which feels positive or neutral whereas the death card feels scary. If you understand.

However, the cards are not an equivalent to the rider Waite deck at all. I just wrote down direction/changes/energies as well as some emotional states and archetypes for love or what states people can operate from (restraint, freedom, fear and guardedness etc). It’s great. And it’s fun to make my own character cards inspired by movies or symbolism etc.

Another thing I’m unhappy with a lot of tarot cards is that personally I don’t think I can easily see what kind of emotion or state each card represents. I would love a divination deck where you look at the picture and you’re like ah, totally get it. Like if you did a reading for a friend and they looked at the images they’d also understand it instantly. So I wish I could make images for my deck but sadly I don’t know how haha I can’t sit here and paint like 100 cards.

Anyway that leads me to wonder if there’s tarot decks that are re-imagined and not based on rider Waite at all? One of my favorite movies is pirates of the Caribbean and I love the fantasy of mermaids, pirates, pearls, the ocean, compass, a heart in a chest, treasure, captain and that type of symbolism. I would absolutely adore a deck like that but not based on rider Waite but a unique new system. Are there new thinking tarot decks that aren’t based on rider Waite? Would absolutely love that! I’ve looked into oracle cards but many of them are so confusing because they can say three words like “luxury, effort, peace” and I’m like huh. That’s very mixed and I don’t understand what it’s trying to say. I like it when things are clear.

Anyway just wanted to share my thoughts around tarot :)

Update: thank you for all the comments I’m going through them bit by bit as I can 💕 esp thanks to those who were supportive. Also want to remind anyone that might feel inclined to give unsolicited advice about strangers mental health and trauma on the internet, to not do so unless you were asked:) especially snarky or passive aggressive comments aren’t nice to receive no matter what :)

So this is my previous post and after feedback and looking closer at the colors I decided for the red. They’re not available in Europe so I was going to order all the way from the US. But I saw that my size, 40.5, is sold out 💔 I don’t really want to size up because the 40.5 truly is a perfect fit, and the 41’s would be a bit loose. Maybe if I get sole inserts, though. I’ve never tried that with heels before but it would probably make them a lot more comfortable. Thoughts? Btw does anyone know if louboutin will restock sizes or if this is it? I really really want the red ones they are amazing!

I find all these completely pristine unused Louboutins on Vestiaire., like sellers having multiple ones in completely different sizes. The sellers have sold many items before. Is this legit or why are they selling completely new products like that on Vestiaire? Like surely they would just lose money off of buying in new products and selling on Vestiaire?

I don’t want the raider whaite tarot deck because the scary cards scare me and I find it triggering. What decks do you recommend instead? I’m new with it and I like reading for relationships or work situations my sisters ask about and whatever questions family or friends are curious about.

I don’t want any decks with cards that feel ominous, spiritual or intense. By spiritual I mean things about the cosmic or fate or karma. And by intense I mean message oracle decks that are like “you’re the love of my life and I cannot stop thinking about you, my soul is with you all day and we are fated” and things like that. Nor do I want any decks that include cards that fuel anxiety for me or people I read for like cheating and sneaky stuff and third party stuff.

I’m basically looking for grounded decks, that can be used for love, work, insight and other fun things. I like when they are pretty! But mustn’t be. And I love using message cards, and would love recommendations for those as well but non-intense or spiritual.

I ordered the Cassia black legwarmer ballerina and they are incredible. In shoes, I’m normally EU 40-40.5. I’ve never owned or tried on a pair of Loubs before but I heard they run small. The only pair left on the Nordstrom site was EU41 so I ordered them but they are really big. I can fit a whole finger between my heel and the back of the shoe when I stand up.

Should I size down a whole size to EU40 or half a size to EU 40.5? What do you guys recommend? I do want to be able to fit a shoe gummy because they are sooo uncomfortable but yeah sizing advice really needed here!!

I’ve been seeing the Rene caovilla heels a lot on TikTok and it’s tempting to get a pair of spiral heels. I love the black glitter spiral heels with a platform and the champagne chandelier heels. But honestly… I think they look kind of cheap, at least in comparison to the price. Just looking at them in photos, I don’t know if I want to pay more than €250 and they’re like €1500. I’ve also now seen multiple videos of the heels breaking after only a few wears. That made me consider to get a pair of dupes instead. At least to see how much I like the design and if I end up reaching for the heels. I’d love some feedback on the Rene caovilla heels! As well as if anyone has recommendations for a dupe I could check out ☺️