u/ausernameidk_

I didn't know where else to post this. I'm sure it'll get removed soon.

I don't belong anywhere. I'm too feminist for mainstream society, too extremist for feminism. I can't criticize anything men do because it's misandrist, and I can't criticize anything women do because it's infantilizing. Conservatives and progressives both hate me.

I feel like I'm crazy for criticizing the institution of marriage, patrilineal surnames, and centering men. Nobody wants to hear it, and nobody's on my side. The vast majority of other women and feminists disagree with me. I think maybe it's time to stop fighting, to just let it be. No more criticizing the system.

People have chosen how they want to live, and who am I to tell them to change it. I'm drained and I'm tired. I am out of fucks to give. I just don't think I can keep standing up for what I believe in when I'm the only one on earth who believes it. Maybe there's a way to keep going, but it just doesn't seem like there is.

It seems like almost every woman I know has changed her name after getting married, while I don't know a single man who has. Women, the ones who literally give birth to the children, don't get to pass down their name. Men contribute just a few cells to the development of a baby, are the ones who get to pass down their family and heritage, while women's is erased.

Every woman I know who has changed her name defends it as a personal choice. Yet statistics show that up to 90% of women change their name when getting married. That's not an independent choice, that's patriarchy. I don't understand why this aspect of the patriarchy is still defended.