u/babygoddess96

I don’t even know where to start. My boyfriend (M30) and I (F29) have been dating for almost 2 years. The past two weeks we have hung out a total of 2 times both for an hour. One trip was to the market and another out to eat. Yesterday, he went to a cookout at his friend’s house and he was there for maybe 6 hours. I’m not sure why that hurt me. Maybe because the last two weekends we didn’t hang out at all and I typically spend the night at his house. I just feel so disconnected from him. He never invites me to these hangouts with his friends. We got in a big argument a couple months ago when he didn’t tell me about his friend’s engagement party (apparently I was invited). Long story short, I was out of town and the day of he tells me about this engagement party and I’m like wtf. I see a video of him and this girl being overly friendly with one another. This girl knows he’s my boyfriend. Apparently I was invited, but he didn’t want me to change my travel plans. The same friends who got engaged were the ones who had this cookout. During this argument he confided in his mom and sister, they said I was showing signs of being controlling and manipulative. I just don’t know what to do. The relationship isn’t growing. I’m frustrated. I love him so much that I’m willing to make it work, but it’s so hard when I feel like he doesn’t understand why these things upset me.

It’s been 2 years since I joined the organization and I think I’m ready to go. My boss isn’t the best leader and I’m just ready for change. I don’t see how I can grow in this position. I would NEVER want anyone’s job who is in a leadership role. I’ve been putting my resume out there and interviewing. I had a phone screen and will be doing an in person interview soon. I want this job, but I feel guilty leaving when things aren’t going very well at the org. Recently 3 people have decided to leave and 1 person has been fired. I will really miss the students I built a strong professional relationship with.