u/baltimoregoatmann

Hey everyone.

My wife and I both bartend. I’m 28 and she’s 26. She’s been at it for 5 years and I’ve been doing it for 4 years on and off. She works at a high volume cocktail bar and a dive and I work at a chill cocktail bar and a high volume dive. We both average $100k combined each year, give or take of course. This in Baltimore.

We want to move though and while we do plan on still pursuing our respective other careers, bartending is what’s working as of now.

Right now we’re in between NY, Chicago, Philadelphia, and smaller cities in California (basically just not LA if I’m being honest.)

Anyone ever bartend in those cities and recommend/condemn it? Or anyone have something nice or bad to say about the cities they work in but aren’t mentioned in the post?

For example say on Wednesday you’re meditating on Mercury’s energy. But you have an Aries Mercury. Are you doing anything in your practices to integrate that? Or is it overcomplicating it?

For me, I have an Aquarius Jupiter in the 4th house. I have a horrible relationship with the few family members I have that are alive and never felt comfortable inside of my home. Though I’m deeply interested in genealogy and my family roots. When I concentrate on Jupiter sigils or Jupiter energy, it’s usually just a general Jupiter vibe. But lately I’ve wondered if when I integrate Jupiter into the day, I should thinking about it in an Aquarian way.

My (28m) wife (26f) and I and our dog Kiwi want to leave Baltimore for no reason highly specific to Baltimore. Just want to move somewhere that feels like home and is away from our beginnings.

We’re both bartenders making on average 100-120k combined. One car, one motorcycle. 1 bedroom that’s $1,200 in the heart of Hampden and is really cozy. We have a very comfy life all things considered. It’s not without struggle but still. She’s got not degree. However she’s also got lots of experience cooking and baking in some really fine kitchens as well as childcare experience. For me, I’ve got 10 years of construction experience (mostly carpentry and masonry), a summer of fishing, 4 years working on the line, farming, and you get the gist. The only non blue collar thing I’ve gotten paid to do is when I was modeling and acting. I have a degree in English. I want to be a writer and am considering a career change to journalism as realistically the only way up right now is to own my own bar which is a long way ahead of me. She wants to pursue her music and writing as well.

Weather wise, just avoiding humidity for her sake. Kids are a potential future but MAX 2. We really don’t want to live in a suburban or mostly rural area. For her, she grew up in Columbia MD in a trailer park, while for me I grew up in urban life and got to experience rural and I love both. BUT urban is where my heart is.

We’re incredibly social, in fact it’s the largest part of our life besides each other and our careers. So a rich social scene, a rich night life and all the other amenities like good food, cool art, nice museums, are appreciated. Maryland is peak because nature id never far away. So ideally nature would be close by.

Why the 3 in the title? NY because I basically always tear up at that skyline. One of our dreams is to travel more extensively all around the world. I love that NY has that potential of meeting people from everywhere. I love that place, though I’ve only ever visited for tops a couple weeks. She likes it but it’s fast paced for her. Chicago because it seems like that’s just a really solid spot rife with potential. Good value, pretty, good food, awesome transit, etc. I just am have never not been around ocean before lol.

California I list because we talked about how if we had to move to a smaller city or a non big city, we’d want to do California or Oregon. We both adored Oregon on our road trip up and down the coast in a camper van. California we went to as kids but not as an adult. I loved New Orleans but mostly as a place to visit. Hawaii was awesome and we want to retire there or Lisbon. But not gonna lie, we both feel ethically weird about moving to Hawaii. She’s Italian from the old country and I’m half black so we’re not the typical portrait of Hawaiian transplants but still, feels wrong slightly,

Anyway, any advice?