u/bdehehehjfje

I had a friend two and a half year ago who I lost whilst being dropped by a group; I wasn't the best, and I self sabotaged til I became a bad friend. I struggled to move on as the situation felt unfair at that time, I dragged it for months, and through our mutual they communicated not believing we could be friends again.

Fast forward to now, I've moved on from that past; yet I'm not over them specifically. I am over them in the sense I no longer unhealthily miss or need them; but I recognize they were a good person, we had a good bond, and their words as we fell out were a wake up call that helped me genuinely change my life for the better. I want this person to play a role in my life, I reckon the good individual they were and desire a person like that in my company. But I doubt they would've changed their mind, they probably forgot how the friendship was, is there anything that can be said or done ?

We have a mutual who I also recently rekindled with ( we fell out a lil after I did with this person.) but I'm afraid of disappointing them if I bring this up and they'll think I'm still the person of the past who's very unstable and couldn't let anything go.

I had a friend two and a half year ago who I lost whilst being dropped by a group; I wasn't the best, and I self sabotaged til I became a bad friend. I struggled to move on as the situation felt unfair at that time, I dragged it for months, and through our mutual they communicated not believing we could be friends again.

Fast forward to now, I've moved on from that past; yet I'm not over them specifically. I am over them in the sense I no longer unhealthily miss or need them; but I recognize they were a good person, we had a good bond, and their words as we fell out were a wake up call that helped me genuinely change my life for the better. I want this person to play a role in my life, I reckon the good individual they were and desire a person like that in my company. But I doubt they would've changed their mind, they probably forgot how the friendship was, is there anything that can be said or done ?

We have a mutual who I also recently rekindled with ( we fell out a lil after I did with this person.) but I'm afraid of disappointing them if I bring this up and they'll think I'm still the person of the past who's very unstable and couldn't let anything go.

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I had a friend two years ago, we were almost friends for a year and we were close, or I felt like we were - I always had an odd emotional pattern, I get over some people rather quickly, but others reside in my mind even if I'm over them. When we broke off I wasn't a good friend, I unintentionally self sabotaged and acted weirdly, I made the situation worse by refusing to move on for months. They made it clear throughout that period they don't want to be friends again. I moved on. I'm over it. While I wish I did better and didn't fumble such bond, I realized it was a wake up call and helped me. But still, I want to satisfy that itch of being their friend again. How do I become friends again with someone who probably fully moved on from me in these two years because they don't have my strong memory and selective " hold " for things, and has made it clear before they don't want to be my friend at all again ? I'm afraid If I approached our mutual about it, they'll be disappointed and think I'm the same period from back then who's unstable and can't move on. It's rlly not like that, I just hold the realization/sentiment that said person was a good company and played a role in me fixing my mentality, therefore I'd enjoy them having a role in my life. Is there anything that can be done or said ?