u/best_bi_

So I recently adopted a kitten (8 weeks old). However, I also have a long distance boyfriend who will be coming over this weekend, and I do want to have sex with him. I live in a weird apartment setup so the kitten is mostly in my room and I don’t feel comfortable letting him out in the kitchen/living room by himself while my boyfriend and I are intimate as my roommate has a cat that hasn’t been introduced to my cat yet. How weird would it be to have sex with the cat in the same room? I always thought it was weird personally but I feel like I have no other choice other than just not do anything this weekend. Which is fine but I won’t see my boyfriend for two months after this so it’s not ideal. What does everyone else do?

I’m graduating with my bachelors in CDS next June and I was hoping to move to California to be closer to my boyfriend. However, I was looking into grad school cost and decided it would be easier to take a year off, get in state tuition and then apply to grad schools in a year and work as an SLPA in the meantime until I saw the requirements to be an SLPA in California. I don’t feel like taking extra classes just to be an SLPA for a few years before grad school. What are some other options I have before grad school that is similar?

I’ve been on the ring since May 7th of this year. I kept the ring in for 4 weeks instead of 3 and just replaced it immediately. However I’ve had some weird discharge/clotting the past few days. It only happens when I wipe and it’s this weird brown color that I’ve never had before on my period. It’s not fully discharge, more like small clots that I usually get towards the end of my period, but dark brown and not red. Is this normal? I bought a pregnancy test just in case but I’m not sure whether to take it or not. We always use a condom

My boyfriend and I have been long distance for a few days now, dating for 4 months irl before then. I’m not sure if it’s just the new change or what but I’ve been super anxious and overthinking until we call/text. Obviously I can’t be on call 24/7 with him and I know I need to work on being independent. But it’s weird because I was independent and was perfectly fine going out without him and him going out without me until we went long distance. And now the past few days, I’ve been waiting until he calls or texts me back. And in between texts and calls, I’m constantly overthinking. I never used to be like this and I’m not sure if I need to bring it up to him or just let it be until I adjust to the distance.

I’ve been on the ring since May 7th and for the first two weeks, I had minimal side effects. However, for the past month I’ve had horrible anxiety, lowkey depressive thoughts (nothing too serious), and my mental health just dropped. I want to stop taking it but I’m not sure how long it will take for me to adjust and get my mental health back to what it was before the ring. Does anyone have any experience? Is it going to be easier since I haven’t been on it too long? I have an appointment with a doctor but the earliest I could make the appointment was for a week and a half from now, and I am taking the ring out next Thursday for my off week.

So I’ve always been kind of into manifesting/law of assumption but stopped after I manifested a boyfriend. Recently I’ve been anxiety and I’m afraid it’ll manifest. I’ve been trying to use the law by reassuring myself that everything will work out with my boyfriend but there are always thoughts in the back of my mind. How can I get rid of them?

I’m starting my 4th year as a CDS major in the fall so I’ve been looking into grad schools and as I’m mostly thinking about applying for public universities and I’m out of state for all of them, it seems like it’ll be too expensive for me. I’m mostly interested in SJSU as I used to live nearby but moved away a few years ago. However, I’m also interested in other schools in the Bay Area and UO. The cost doesn’t seem to be worth going straight to grad school after finishing my bachelors, but I’m not sure if it’ll be harder to find a job as an SLPA than an SLP, especially in the Bay Area. Is taking a gap year to establish residency worth it? It seems like it’ll bring the cost down a bit, I’ll get experience working, and I’ll see if being an SLP is something that I could handle. However, I also feel like it may be harder to apply for grad school in the future, especially with getting letters of recommendation. I’m just worried about cost as I know that there’s basically no way to work in grad school and tuition is expensive.

My boyfriend is graduating and leaving to go back home and work in a few days before starting grad school in the fall. I have one more year before I graduate so hopefully it won’t be too long but I’m scared that I’m not cut out for a ldr. We’re both going to be busy next year and won’t get to see each other often especially since I hate driving long distances and our school schedules won’t line up with breaks and stuff. So while we could visit each other during breaks, one of us will be busy with school/job stuff and the other one would be free. On top of that, I’m also getting a kitten in a few weeks so I won’t be able to visit as much as I would without the kitten. Does anyone have any advice on how to make long distance work? Neither of us have dated anyone before so we’re still new to dating in general and adding long distance isn’t helping.

Does anyone take pregnancy tests just in case? I’m wondering if I should just because I do have some anxiety about getting pregnant right now since my boyfriend and I are both not ready for a baby. For context, I started bc (Nuvaring) for the first time a month ago and also had sex for the first that same day. We’ve always used a condom but it did break once after the first week. I know it’ll probably be negative but I’m a little anxious since I don’t have a period. I was just wondering if other people take pregnancy tests while on bc and how often if you do!

I’ve only been on the ring for 3 weeks so maybe it’ll change but I feel like I’m constantly in the luteal phase now and I hate it. I have PMDD and horrible periods so I decided to try the Nuvaring to see if it helps and it genuinely is making me crash out sometimes because of the mood swings I’m getting now. I decided to skip my period this month and I’m honestly regretting it because I wonder if taking a break for a week would have helped me? But I was supposed to take it out on Thursday afternoon and it’s currently Saturday evening so I missed my chance to take it out this time. I’ll probably avoid skipping my period next month. But anyway, I genuinely feel like I usually do the week before my period and I’m not sure if it’ll happen all the time from now on or just until my body gets used to the hormones. Because I’d rather get a copper iud and deal with the pmdd and periods just so I don’t feel like this all the time. I feel bloated and just bleh and my anxiety has been through the roof tonight. Does it ever get better?

For context, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now, having sex for 2 weeks, and we were both each others firsts so I don’t have much experience. I also got on the nuva ring about 2 weeks ago.
For the first two weeks that we started sleeping together, he would make me finish at least once, sometimes twice or even three times. We also usually skipped foreplay because I wasn’t always the biggest fan of it and wanted to skip it. But a few days ago, I initiated but realized a few minutes in that I wasn’t going to cum because I just didn’t feel anything. To be more specific, I would feel really good and like I was going to cum and then nothing happens and I feel numb. I thought it was just because I was tipsy so we stopped and tried again last night and the same thing happens. The issue is that I do feel horny and I’m wet, probably the wettest I’ve ever been, so it’s not due to low sex drive. But I just get turned off when I realize I won’t cum/don’t feel anything. Has anyone else had this issue or a similar issue? I can’t tell if it’s due to my cycle or my birth control or an entirely different issue.