u/biracialesbian

like the title says, how to be more supportive of my straight friends. we are all mid/late twenties trying to figure out our lives. my friend c is single, she is on dating apps going on dates with guys but they all go terrible. she hates men and doesn’t have hope in them, but wants to see if she can find someone that will give her hope in men again.

she tells me all about her failed dates when we are together, but i never know how to react. I am a lesbian and demisexual, i have never gone on a dating app myself either. I get uncomfortable with too much details. she said she was a little hurt by my reactions sometimes. how she feels idc about her stories, which isn’t true. I am just not gonna ask her on my own “sooooo how is it going with this guy?” bc i am not like that 😭

i mentioned to her i have another friend f, who i have been close to since childhood. she recently went through a pretty bad situationship and told me about it in detail, but i got so uncomfortable. i was like “i don’t need to know about that you keep that to yourself” then my friend c told me that her saying “i hooked up with a guy” was barely any details.

when f asks me if i am seeing anyone, i cringe and quickly change the subject. (I am in a long distance relationship, but she doesn’t know that) I just don’t like talking about my personal life, but I am starting to think, there may be something wrong with me?

I don’t want to be unsupportive of my friends. I don’t have any lesbian friends irl only online. when i see lesbian friends post about their situationships, i am not disgusted like i am with my straight friends, but i also don’t want to know all the details. I think “good for you” and scroll further.

do i have serious issues regarding, sexual relations or is this normal? wondering if am the only one that feels this way? what can i do to be more supportive of them?

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how to be more supportive of my straight friends?