u/bisasterous

As the title says. To make it more specific to me: Is the "true size" simply what my measurements would suggest (in my case 26G)? Specifically, how do I know my true size when I will likely never try on a 26 band? I tried on 28E, 28F and 28FF with 28F fitting best. Does that mean my true size is likely 26FF? What if I get a custom 26 band and it's too tight and I realize I always want to "size up"? Does that make 28F my true size??

I'm very confused about the concept of a true size, especially when it differs from the bra size you commonly buy! Please educate me! :)

For context: I am likely autistic and struggle to have a grasp on my own emotions.

I am a sex-indifferent to sex-favorable asexual (almost certainly). I used to identify as lesbian because the only person I had ever felt romantic attraction to at that point was a woman – it was unhealthy and almost obsessive in nature as our bond felt quite insecure; it was a romantic situationship of sorts. I identified the romantic attraction by the obsession I was experiencing.

Now I am in a romantic relationship with a man (have been for 2 ½ years) and just identify as queer now in place of lesbian. I love him, but couldn't tell you for sure if it was romantic or platonic. It's not obsessive. Our relationship is a lot more secure and safe. I know that I'm not sexually attracted to him, though we still have sex. Applying that to the romantic layer, I could also be in a romantic relationship with him, even though I am not romantically attracted to him. I am generally pretty happy in our relationship though I don't like how non-queer our relationship feels at times. I think it's not unrealistic I am lesbian and our relationship is akin to a QPR. It feels way more comfortable to visualize myself being with a woman rather than a man long-term in the future.

Do you have any input or thoughts? Am I lesbian (homoromantic) or bi(-romantic)? Or even aroace?

As a note: I have been open with him about not being able to say I love him romantically with certainty and that "exclusive, romantic relationships" as a label is mostly a catalogue of commonly displayed behavior in our interactions for me.

Just got my first bra that fits me almost perfectly! I used to wear 32A, got recommended 26G by the calculator and am now happy with my black non-wired Panache Rocha in 28F! It's super comfy and my tissue is actually being held in the cups (lol)! The shape is not a perfect match unfortunately, there's some minor wrinkling on the inner right cup, but it's so much better than any other bra I've ever tried!! I'll keep the 28F around and send back the 28E and 28FF as those didn't end up fitting me and might try out a wired bra next?

Hi there! I have a small follow-up question to my fit check: How can I tell if a wrong fit is due to the bra being the wrong shape or the wrong size? I don't want to waste money on buying and returning wrong sizes when the shape was never going to be right for me either way!

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Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/s/DiLTkXsYwk

Hey everyone! I just bought my first bra that should be my size (from 32A to 26G/28FF). I purchased the non-wired Panache Rocha in size UK 28FF.

Fit:

• Band: It seems good? The loosest hook seems to fit well.
• Cups: My boobs are slightly different sizes. The left one felt okay, the right one had some wrinkling at the top and on the inner side. Though even the left one feels pretty loose? If I slouch, there's a lot of gapping at the top and in the center. Before the scoop and swoop I don't come close to filling out the cups. There's no spillage.

Any recommendations? Should I send it back and try a new size? Should I try some alterations? Is this an issue of wrong shape or wrong size?

Here's my measurements:

• Loose Underbust: 69 cm / 27 in
• Snug Underbust: 66 cm / 26 in
• Tight Underbust: 63 cm / 25 in
• Standing Bust: 86 cm / 34 in
• Leaning Bust: 91 cm / 36 in
• Lying Bust: 84 cm / 33 in

And shape:

• shallow breast
• full on bottom
• center-full
• conical shape?
• broad roots
• i think they might be widely set?
• V-shaped ribcage

Meine kleine Schwester hat ziemlich sicher eine Essstörung, wahrscheinlich etwas in Richtung Orthorexie. Außerdem ist sie vegan. Habt ihr irgendwelche Tipps für den Umgang damit? Ich wohne nicht mehr zu Hause (sie schon) und mache mir häufig Sorgen um sie. Zusätzlich hat sie auch noch Depression, Angststörung und ADHS und war auch schon mehrfach in der Klinik.

Hi everyone :) I want to buy a first bra in my general size. Typically I currently wear bralettes size S or my one non-wired calvin klein bra size 32A (lol). The calculator gave me a 26G, may prefer 28FF but when I hand-calculated, I came up with 26G/GG, may prefer 28F/FF. I think going with the 28F/FF at first may be better, because I'm not really used to tight enough bands? I don't mind a bit of uniboob. Here's my measurements and shape description for reference:

Measurements:

• Loose Underbust: 69 cm / 27 in

• Snug Underbust: 66 cm / 26 in

• Tight Underbust: 63 cm / 25 in

• Standing Bust: 86 cm / 34 in

• Leaning Bust: 91 cm / 36 in

• Lying Bust: 84 cm / 33 in

Shape:

• shallow breast

• full on bottom

• center-full

• conical shape?

• broad roots

• i think they might be widely set?

• V-shaped ribcage

Currently considering the non-wired Panache Rocha – would that one be a good idea?

Möchte für meinen Geburtstag dieses Jahr nur vegan backen (bisher hatte ich immer nur vegane Optionen). Was sind eure Lieblingsrezepte für Kuchen/Muffins/Gebäck? Gerne eher einfache Rezepte, bin meist nicht so aufwändig unterwegs :)

I am aware it will probably end up being size 28FF and that's okay too. I live in the EU. Would love if the bra wasn't too feminine looking? Love the look of Lara Intimates bras but we all know how that ended..

Measurements:

• Loose Underbust: 69 cm / 27 in

• Snug Underbust: 66 cm / 26 in

• Tight Underbust: 63 cm / 25 in

• Standing Bust: 86 cm / 34 in

• Leaning Bust: 91 cm / 36 in

• Lying Bust: 84 cm / 33 in

Shape:

• shallow breast

• full on bottom

• center-full

• conical shape?

• broad roots

• i think they might be widely set?

• V-shaped ribcage

Issues with bras:

• can't find small enough band

• spillage on the side and/or in the center (wrong cup size)

• if i scoop, my nipples are out (wrong cup size)

• currently i usually wear bralettes size S (most comfy and i like the look) & i have a wireless calvin klein bra size 32A that's wearable

Wired bras have always been uncomfortable for me, though I've never worn a bra close to my size. Is it okay to stick with non-wired or will it not fit as well? Due to having a shallow breast I don't require too much support. I will most likely have to go for a 28FF bra, as a 26 band is pretty much impossible to find.

Anyone got codes for me? :)

Calculated UK size 26 G – am I doing it right? Where to go from here?

Measurements:

• Loose Underbust: 69 cm / 27 in

• Snug Underbust: 66 cm / 26 in

• Tight Underbust: 63 cm / 25 in

• Standing Bust: 86 cm / 34 in

• Leaning Bust: 91 cm / 36 in

• Lying Bust: 84 cm / 33 in

Shape:

• shallow breast

• full on bottom

• center-full

• conical shape?

• broad roots

• i think they might be widely set?

• V-shaped ribcage

Issues with bras:

• can't find small enough band

• spillage on the side and/or in the center

• if i scoop, my nipples are out

• currently i usually wear bralettes size S (most comfy and i like the look) & i have a calvin klein bra size 32A

• sensory issues with wires, hate them, don't wear them

What should I look for in ABTF? Where can I find one (I live in Germany)? Is my calculated size likely to be accurate? For reference, I am genderqueer AFAB and generally prefer a neutral look (not too feminine) in bras.