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FdP has become my ride or die perfume, the scent both makes me feel cozy and relaxed and also want to eat myself. I layer it over EOS vanilla cashmere lotion and it’s just heavenly. I even use the hair mist too!

The problem is, this only seems to work at night when I’m out of the shower and at home (which is still fine!). If I wear it out during the day though, I feel like it’s totally undetectable and I have to reapply.

Is there anything that would amplify it a little, like would the solid perfume help? Or the lotion/gel? I also know some brands make ‘perfume enhancer’ type products too, but IDK if they’re just a gimmick.

The guy that I have a big silly crush on and I have a language barrier. He doesn’t speak English well, but I speak his language to an intermediate degree (not perfectly). So we basically only use his language to communicate.

The problem is I’m always so nervous about communicating something wrong, misinterpreting or missing things… all of that manifests in anxiety around him (which I already have a lot of, because… I like him).

It also makes me question whether he’d even be interested in something longterm with me if there’s this barrier and he could just find someone else easier and more comfortable to be with than me.

I guess like… is there a way non verbal communication could bridge this gap? Or would you guys think a language barrier isn’t worth the effort? (Especially men)

I already try to appear as visually open as I can. I also consciously soften my voice just in case something comes off more harsh than intended.

Also, are there cues I could look for if he feels the same?

Thank you!

He’s doing his mandatory military service right now and time has never felt so slow. Every time I think of him, my heart flutters and my stomach flips and I just want to grab him and kiss him but I can’t. I don’t know that I’ll ever be able to and that thought is so depressing. Recently he’s even been in my dreams and I don’t usually dream? This is torture, truly. 😭

There is this guy and I’ve noticed whenever he sees me he does a very deliberately slow blink. It’s sometimes accompanied by a subtle/gentle smile but not always.

He doesn’t seem to do it towards anyone else, and I’ve even seen him do it towards me appearing in a video (I have a video of this so I know I’m not imagining it).

I know in cats it means affection lol but he is a human (though often described as very catlike). My research has also turned up that blinking can be a sign of blocking/discomfort. So I’m not really sure, would appreciate some insight!

I probably messed things up by being so shy and anxious and uncomfortable to be around. He doesn’t show the signs he used to, doesn’t look at me as much or flirt like he did before.

Now I’ve wasted 3 years pining after him and I’m 30 and too scared to go on apps so I’m just going to die alone and never experiencing love. Don’t be like me.

Last time I was at an event with the guy I like (a party) I tried using the body language signs that I’ve seen people on this sub talk about to hopefully get him to realize I like him. He’s quite shy and I think a bit insecure so I’m not sure if he’s the type that would just doubt any signs.

Things I did:

- Hovered near him

- Touched his shoulder/arm as I talked to him

- Complimented him

- Always angled my torso/legs toward him

- Laid my head on his shoulder in a group photo

As a guy would you suspect a girl liked you if she did these things?

Edit: To people saying ‘use words,’ I mentioned in a comment, but unfortunately due to a situation I can’t really talk about on here I’m unable to directly tell him right now. :( There will be a point where I can (or he can) in the future, but until then I want him to at least know I’m here and I like him! (We’re both single, it’s not that btw)