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My grandmother is about to start treatment next week. I need positive stories to share with her. She is usually such a positive person but I can tell when we talk how heavily this is weighing on her heart.

She was offered a clinical trial but that would put her treatment out two weeks and it been 9 weeks since we found out because of a weird ct scan following a lingering cough. So we are encouraging her to move forward with standard care treatment next week.

She has no biomarkers and the cancer has spread to her bones.

Thank you!

My son is 21 months old. Good sleeper. Wondering when you put your toddler in a bed and when they started using a pillow and blanket. We aren’t doing a toddler bed. We’re going to do a regular twin with rails . Thank you!

Also any tips welcomed

We’re here for just one day!

How are you doing and what was your treatment. Especially interested in hearing from people who had no biomarkers?

Only metastasized to the bones and a plural effusion.

Thank you sorry for posting twice today.

Adenocarcinoma non small cell is what my grandmas been diagnosed with. She’s a non smoker healthy lady.

We have been waiting weeks for genetic markers and there are none.

She’s in the process of getting a second opinion but doctors suggested chemo and immunotherapy.

She had read a lot of positive stories about people with genetic markers.

What does the road ahead look like for us? I’m in shock still. How’s she going to feel?

How do I support her ? I’m going to visit her this next month and the following.

Thank you

Hi my grandmother who is a non smoker was just diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer non small cell , adenocarsinoma subtype

Can you tell me outcomes or advice and expectations

They are doing a biopsy in a few days to look for genetic mutation marker which we’re hoping for bc her prognosis will be better and she’ll start immunotherapy

Thank you so much

Edit: I wanted to add she had a plural effusion

Is it just me or does it feel like no one cooks meals? I see all these from scratch recipes on instagram but I can only think of two moms who do that.

I feel like the minority bc I cook 4-5 dinners a week.

I host and invite friends over a couple times a month and serve dinner. I love it and I find it’s way better than ordering out. I just feel too guilty about the plastic waste and it feels healthier and cozy. People really appreciate it too.

Yet my family never cooks and hosts. My older brother will for holidays. We’re going on a family vacation for a week and no one’s planned any food. They plan on eating out every meal.

Also we are never invited over for a meal. The only time we’re invited to friends for a meal is their child’s birthday. I just find it sad and I long for this way of connecting.

I also see moms who do cookbook night and I wish I had friends who wanted to do that.

Does this bother anyone else?

Sons in a crib. Thinking of painting his room and adding some things that reflect him🩵 thinking this might be a good time to transition him into a big boy bed. He is starting to climb out of the tub and toddler tower. The crib are is right at his nipple.

What was it like transitioning your baby to a twin bed? This crib converts to a bed but I think I might just purchase a twin.

Did you used a rail? Do you like floor beds?

My sons a great sleeper and goes down great for bed time and sleeps until 7. I’m nervous to disrupt it.

My MIL is Jewish and my husband is half. They did not go to temple but celebrated holidays. My MIL didn’t grow up even celebrating the high holidays but chose to implement it in her family.

I was very open to the Jewish faith and grew up catholic. I liked that my husband was Jewish even though he said he didn’t feel connected to it.

Fast forward 4 years into our relationship and I have been so turned off by Judaism. My MIL made comments about our son not being circumcised right after he was born. She brought it up months later about “decisions that had already been made.”

My husbands family has not been supportive about the type of wedding I wanted which would include both faiths so I opted for a courthouse ceremony to avoid the drama. To be honest I’m resentful.

My MIL sends junk gifts every Jewish holiday and usually plans her visits around a holiday to make sure we are celebrating. (That’s what it feels like because there’s no discuss about us celebrating beforehand she makes it seem like a coincidence she is visiting during a Jewish holiday.)

My husband does not take the lead in celebrating Jewish holidays and I sometimes do to honor my husbands traditions. I want our child to grow up with tradition.

Anyway my husband was FaceTiming my MIL and mentioned our sons new friend is Jewish and maybe he’ll marry a Jewish girl. My MIL responded that wouldn’t it be easier if everyone in our family was Jewish.

My MIL is very conservative politically. We are not. I am very open to other beliefs religiously and politically bc we don’t have to agree on everything but I’m finding myself so turned off lately. Mostly because I resent my overbearing mother in law.

We had my son a year and a half ago. I had hypertension at 37 weeks just two days shy of 38. Was sent to triage. Was induced and didn’t need BP meds bc the epidural brought it down to 130/90. BP was perfect after delivery though I did have severe hemorrhaging probably related to a placenta issue related to preclampsia. They did blood work and I had no protein and liver enzymes normal.

Fast forward 3 days home from the hospital and I’m feeling awful. I thought it was due to my severe anemia but went to triage to receive a blood infusion recommended by my midwife and BP was 170/110. was admitted for postpartum preeclampsia. My midwife said I had a mild case.. my liver enzymes weren’t crazy and neither was my protein.

It did take 2 meds to stabilize me and I was on meds for 9 months.

My husband and I tried to conceive last night and now I’m like oh no… what did I do?!

Please share your experiences with having a second

I think this would be perfect for me. I’m interested in postpartum and end of life care. I found an end of life program that starts in October. I really want to find a postpartum program as I think I’ll likely have more clients with that practice.

It’s quite expensive so I would like to make sure it’s worth it.

My why:
- I love to cook
- I had a difficult postpartum experience with preclampsia and severe postpartum depression
-flexibility
-love to make cozy environments and experiences for people I love
-I think postpartum is such a tender transition and we often don’t have family support like we used to
-i have a nurturing personality and I want to be useful in this lifetime 💗

My 18 month old seems bored. My usual tricks don’t work anymore. I just made sensory bins and he liked them once and when I have offered them he doesn’t care for them. He used to love the splash pad but doesn’t like it anymore. I need help entertaining him.

I make one plan a day for us with friends or family and we have swim but that’s still not enough. I would love to encourage independent play at home.

What are toys and activities you love?

I don’t purchase new toys but wondering if he needs some new things .

Thank you !

This was the case with my husband and his mother.

I now see friends of mine with workaholic husbands who are enmeshing with their sons. They don’t see how damaging their intense bond with their son is because it’s love right?

I see it as dependency and getting emotional fulfillment from their child… and I see what the long game looks like for that.

Maybe it won’t be the case. Maybe I’m just super sensitive to this subject.

This work calls me. I had planned for a birth center birth but was transferred at 38 weeks for high blood pressure.. ended up with postpartum preclampsia. Had a very difficult time postpartum I won’t go too much into detail and most of you know how it goes 💗 I would love to support moms during this time.

What are some programs/certifications you recommend?

The Innate program was highly recommended to me but it was almost $3,500 and I don’t love online classes but seems flexible.

What was your approach? I’m pretty relaxed about sugar. I let my 1.5 year old have some of my icecream or an occasional half of a homemade cookie. He does not have soda or candy ever. My mom gave him a lollipop the other day and I he sucked on it a little and I took it away when he seemed to lose interest.

I have friends who have been very strict with sugar and their kids seem to binge on sweets when they are at other peoples houses. What are your thoughts?