My wife wants another kid after a decade, since our last child
Chicken and broccoli with broccoli cheddar soup, my wife and I have been together now 12 years we have a 10 year old and soon to be 8 year old and I’m about 3 weeks post op from a tumor removal and my wife is Adamant we have another baby.
To note we did have our two kids out of wed lock. Since then we have moved three time for my work. She has been a stay at home mom as that was her dream of raising her kids. And I had no complaint with that as I make what I think is very stable income. My wife and I have our own hobbies as do our kids. I like to race cars and have on and off for 20 years. My wife like to craft and thrift which has gotten out of hand and she has a full two garage full of junk.
On top of this it’s been a passive aggressive 6 month talk about bringing another child into this world. I have worries as our youngest has a genetic hormone disorder and though we love our son to death we would hate to have the same hormone disorder passed to another kid.
This is a main part of why I don’t want anymore kids but she doesn’t think that’s enough reason. Her mindset is that another kids is a few extra carrots in the stew pot and we are good. We are not…. We have no baby anything so that would be a complete reset after the whole baby phase.
I also just started another car project a few months back and I feel like this is her way of saying you got a car so I get a kid??? In my head those two items don’t equate.
I’m scared she is going to try and pull an ultimatium on me of the kid or she’s out. If so I’m at the hard fork in the road on what to do.