u/bradagon

Happy to exchange pictures almost immediately.

I'm an accountant with two cats, love going to the cinema, trying new foods, theatre shows, playing games, camping, etc, etc. I won't spoil everything!

I'm fairly laid back, and once I'm comfortable I like to think I'm fairly funny.

I like to think I'm a good egg, seeing the positives in the world and being kind, but like everyone sometimes the world can get me down 😅 basically, I'm not perfect!

I am happy to just make a friend, I find talking to women easier, and befriending men is definitely more difficult.

But I'm also happy to go further if it was a real connection.

Ideally send me your age/location in the first message :)

Hope everyone had fun! I bought some blind boxes I am already regretting lol.

I enjoyed the Clone Wars panel too! Although someone dressed as Darth Vader stood there and decided not to turn off the sound of Vader breathing lol.

Kudos for commitment to the cosplay, but my god man, mute it during a stage shows 🙏

Maintaining friends is becoming a chore and distracting me from potential shenanigans I could be getting up to.

Looks good from the demo I watched.

Now to hear actual experiences and find out the truth lol

They seem very limited to me.

#1

They can only split values evenly. In our contracts we have prices increases, meaning year 1 might be 1000, but year 2 is 1100.

#2

They pull the starting bill date from the SO date.

So if you have one line of software being billed from 1st of April, then line 2 is related to activation services being billed from March 1st, your billing schedule is only going to work for one line.

Probably not the best example, I don't work in revenue so I don't know a good example, but I ran the system by our AR guy and he flagged it as a problem.

Relationship is m29 and f28. Together for 6 years and living together.

I spoke to a friend and got confirmation from them that the things that are bothering me are valid and I realized I 100% have no plans of marrying them or having kids, so a break up must be done.

One of my issues for example is they will always choose their friends over me. Instead of doing house chores that take 15 minutes, they'll play games for 4 hours straight and leave the chores for tomorrow, or maybe days later.

But the thought of my partner breaking down into tears, their entire world coming crashing down is stopping me.

Also even though I see my future without them, I do wonder if I'm making the right choice. Something in my brain is telling me "you're not thinking clearly!" but I'm not seeing any reasoning to explain how I'm not thinking clearly. It's like I have alarm bells going off, but no one is explaining what the alarm is. What I see is freedom to explore new relationships and live a life free of my complaints about my partner.

Usually I can make a decision in an instant.

But my head just feels like a swirl. I've thought about it for a week or so. Feel like I've gone over it a million times. Throughout the years I have always put deadlines on our relationship, only in my thoughts, like "If I don't see improvement by X I'll end it", but I kept pushing it back.

They're happy right now, which makes it even worse. I don't know if they suspect me. I'm still talking to them, but even I can't control that I sound off. And when they're nice to me it makes me feel even worse.

It's my home we live in which is another problem. If it was their place, I could pack my stuff and be out of their way. But it's the other way round.

So I'm going to rip their heart out, and they'll have work to do to plan their living situation. Not that I'll kick them out, I'll help all I can.

There's no way this happens where I'm not a massive piece of shit and they don't have a diabolical few weeks.

And I just don't know if I'm throwing a good thing away, but I don't actually have any justification. Yes we get along at times and have similar hobbies, but I'll find that again some day. There's a lot more bad that is contributing to me not being in love with them.

I don't think anyone is going to have any advice beyond what I've read from other posts, but I'm just really struggling here.

It's like I'm approaching this point in time where I destroy our future and I watch someone I really care about cry their eyes out.

How do I even start the conversation?

"Hey this is really shit, but I don't want to be together anymore." Do I console them? Do I say sorry?

Tl;dr

Struggling to break up with partner because they're going to be absolutely devastated, and my brain is telling me maybe I'm missing something and being rash. My main thing is I do care about them and upsetting them is not something I'm looking forward to.