Gen Z Step Daughter Issues
It was a struggle typing the words "Step Daughter" since I didn't raise this woman, she was 21 when I met her. I can't stand this woman!
When I first met my husband's daughter, it was at the beginning of Covid when we moved in with each other. She moved in with us soon after because her school closed due to the pandemic. She was rude and cruel to me so I stopped trying to get along which oddly lead to her latching onto me for some odd reason. She went no-contact with her narcissist mom and assumes I'm supposed to take her mom's place but I didn't raise her, I met her when she was 21.
She's now a 27 year old woman but the way she behaves and how she looks at the world is that of a 14 year old. I'm not trying to be cruel when I say that. Even her father says this. He's at a loss when it comes to her problems. He's literally tapped out on advice. Life is a constant struggle for her and she calls us constantly to vent or get advice. He was a life coach and so was I. You'd think we'd know how to help her but we've tried everything. She's proof some people cannot be helped.
I don't think he knows how I feel. I'm always nice to her but whenever she calls, he puts her on speaker so she can talk to both of us (his way of avoiding being her dad maybe) then she whines in a high octave and I just want to leave the room. The sound of her voice peels my skin. I've never felt this way about anyone but her, I can't stand her voice. She uses crying to get what she wants and she does this constantly. She started crying on the phone with my husband last night and when he didn't indulge her, she abruptly stopped crying. How is this even possible?
She's asked us multiple times if she can move closer to us and if things don't woek out with where she currently lives, this might end up happening. She's in California but she'd move to South Carolina in a heartbeat and if she does, I'll go nuts. She's lived with us twice and we had to kick her out both times since financially she was capable of moving into a place of her own. She doesn't know what's actually going on in the world so to hear her complain while so many people have it so much worse than her is infuriating. Every friendship she has is short lived. One of her friends dumped her and told her he couldn't tolerate the constant complaining. Everyone tells her to stop complaining but she truly believes that complaining is a form of socializing. Have you seen Debbie Downer on SNL? That's her!
Ok, that made me feel a little bit better. Am I alone here? Any Gen Z step parents dealing with this?