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▲ 10 r/nycpublicservants

Agencies that limit when you can take vacation?

Is this normal/allowed?

There are two month long periods in the summer where we are "highly discourage" (not exactly sure what this means) to take vacation and if we must its limited to five days. Is this allowed?

I have a family vacation that I need 6 days off during this time period and Im wondering what my recourse is if they deny me.

For context this isnt like, a life or death kind or job. It is mildly more busy but not so much that someone else cant fill in for me. I also know no one else has requested off during that time period so theyd only be down one person.

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u/buonatalie — 6 days ago
▲ 347 r/PetPeeves

People who dont understand the purpose of this sub

The point is OP complaining about things that mildly annoy them. Why is the comment section filled with "who cares"

The person posting cares! Thats the point of this sub!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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u/buonatalie — 1 month ago
▲ 0 r/sexualassault

Man who assaulted me contacted me on hinge

I wrote about it a couple months here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/s/CGY5SBVGmV

We exchanged messages after and it was clear I was upset and didnt want to talk to him. I deleted my hinge, deleted his number and deleted the messages.

I redownloaded hinge recently and he sent me a message saying "lol hi \[my name\]". it immediately made me angry. i felt antagonized. i wish he would have just left me alone. i was willing to drop it before but this agitated me so much i reported him to hinge.

i woke up this morning to a message from him asking me if i got him banned from hinge. i was very uncomfortable. i feel like hes going to retaliate against me somehow. i also feel guilty for some reason. he obviously knows i think he did something to me based on the way he immediately knew it was me who reported him but i guess he doesnt fully realize what he did to me. i feel sick with myself and him. maybe i should have just left it alone

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u/buonatalie — 2 months ago
▲ 146 r/GirlDinnerDiaries

ghosting after the deed is mean :(

ugh. i dont mind casual sex or one night stands if i am fully aware that thats what its going to be. but going on hinge (the NOT hookup app as i have never used it that way) and finding a girl to sleep with and ghost is mean :(

i would have been fine if he had been open about it but i feel duped and embarrassed and used. it made me want to report him (he did something kind of gross without asking me and i didnt really like it) but thats vindictive and not what the report button is meant for

shwhatevaaaa ill be fine in a couple hours 😎

u/buonatalie — 2 months ago
▲ 221 r/GirlDinnerDiaries

rigatoni w vodka sauce and chicken cutlets

TW: i will be talking about rape

men infiltrate every woman centered space like roaches. talking about men who pretend to be nice and get upset when you reject them? actually you were a bitch and deserved it. talking about a women only section in a hostel? youre a misandrist i should be allowed anywhere. talking about a man ghosting you after sex? thats why you dont have sex on the first date slut. hatred against women for what? the crime of having a vagina? the crime of saying no? the crime of saying yes??

i was really upset yesterday on a sub that is allegedly meant for women. it was a post about a man who set his ex up to be raped by EIGHTEEN willing men on tinder, who broke down her door and tried to rape her because the ex catfished as her and told them she had a rape fantasy. Cue all the men tripping over themselves to justify this fantasy. I said its troubling that there are this many men who fantasy about raping women. Men replied "woman fantasize about being raped". Men replied "i know this is hard for you but we have to be clear this is bdsm and not rape"

i actually do not care!! if you are a man who gets off on the idea of a woman being raped i think youre disgusting, regardless of if you had consent or not. your sexual pleasure is predicated on emulating the real life suffering of women. if a man and a woman roleplayed with the woman dressed up like a little girl we would all (rightfully) call it disgusting. But because sexual violence against women is so normalized were all just expected to accept this as ok. i will never find ok! you will never ever ever convince me this is fine.

again, i dont care if youre into. you are not changing my mind, i am venting. scroll past. please do not comment in anyway trying to justify this, i am going to immediately block you.

u/buonatalie — 2 months ago