u/burntsalt07

Is £100 a week enough to live okay at uni in nottingham, to not struggle but nothing extravagant either. I’ve been talking to my parents about how much money they’ll send me at uni since i’ll basically be skint after all my sfe goes towards accom and there isn’t much info about this online so I thought I’d ask. I have minimal savings too so i’ll basically be relying on them until i find a job (hopefully.)

It’s such a curse being ugly. I feel like a predatory beast doing anything, I see my siblings and cousins get complimented on for their looks and it’s just silence when it comes to me. I still remember how ignored I was as a child, how outcasted I felt because of my face, my skin colour, my crazy hair. All those comments made towards me as a kid still pierce my heart just as brutally to this day.

Not a day goes by where I don’t turn suicidal because of my looks, and the one person who cared about me and made me feel beautiful left me like it meant nothing. I’m so sick of feeling like this everyday. Just once, I want to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see. Why does beauty have to matter so much to someone who’s been given none of it?

I just got dumped recently, blindsided out of nowhere and life doesn’t feel like it’s worth living anymore. During my relationship i basically withered away from most my friendships, not because he wanted me to but I just loved talking with him and would choose to do so. After a while of dating we went on a break for academic reasons, and he was still sending signs he was interested occasionally so I thought the attraction was mutual and there, only to be dumped once both our exams were over.

It’s insane that I feel so much over this, I didn’t see it coming at all in such a harsh manner. I’ve never been the social kind, never had much friends and was suicidal throughout most my teens till I met this guy. I didn’t even believe love or relationships were for me before meeting him, I just accepted I’d be lonely till I die as a gay person coming from a conservative household. I have no one to talk to over this, no support system, just rethinking alone how everything could’ve gone wrong on and on again.

This guy made me feel more secure about myself and my looks, and understood me as a person but now he’s gone all my insecurities are peeping back in to haunt me again. I’m shunned with the reality once again that my life has amounted to nothing, and every distraction I try just ends up in me crying once the initial spark dies down. I’m so over it.

Hi, I have recently gotten an offer from a fast food restaurant and this is the first job offer i’ve gotten in a year so I’m thrilled, the pay is amazing too and the location is quite close to my house so I can get there by walking.

However, in the job interview process, since I was so desperate to be employed I lied about there being no holidays booked even though I knew we had one. Training starts in 5 days and my holiday is in a little over 2 weeks, and their policies state that any holidays should be notified with the crew in atleast 4 weeks notice.

I’m really stuck on what to do, should I go and train then work for the little time I have or just not go on holiday? When should I notify them?

19m, I hate being the ugly sibling so much it makes me want to throw up. I hate that I’m born into a society which shows favouritism towards prettier/ better looking people from such a young age and I hate how much this has corrupted my brain to a point where not a day goes by where I don’t feel disgusted by my own looks.

I’ve never been much looks wise, I wouldn’t say ugly but I’m just average, I’m a bit above average height wise and that’s it. My siblings though, my younger brother and sister are both beautiful. They both have such small noses, upturned eyes, beautiful silky hair and pretty smiles and faces that just work well together while I came out looking awkward since birth, a big nose, a weird, crooked smile even after braces, unflattering big hair and a strange face shape.

It hurts so much to see my younger brother be shedded with compliments from relatives, on his pretty hair colour or how handsome he is while I got nothing of the sort, the only time I’d get commented on my appearance as a kid in my immigrant family would be about how dark my skin was or how black and bushy my hair was. I just grew up feeling like a beast in my own body, feeling disgusting and out of place no matter what haircut I tried or what clothes I put on. I was always the ugly cousin/ sibling, I felt as if my mother had never wanted me. I wish little me could’ve gotten some compliments here and there to feel somewhat okay looks wise, but I didn’t, and I just grew up feeling ugly to the point where through the ages 12-15 i didn’t even take any photos of myself because I had just accepted that I was hideous.

It doesn’t help that my beautiful mother puts so much emphasis on beauty and basically talks about people’s looks everyday, always complimenting my brother or sister on their looks while completely ignoring me. She always makes snarky comments on skin colour too (she’s very light skinned) knowing that I’ve been insecure about my darker skin tone ever since a kid, but she just doesn’t care. I opened up to her once about my insecurities bursting in tears uncontrollably after she’d been wondering what was wrong, but then she just compared her issues to mine and said you have no reason to be depressed. I just wish I was told I was handsome by her once in my life and maybe then I’d feel comfortable in my own skin.

Now i’m 19 years old and never even have the courage to talk to someone romantically, it makes it even harder than I’m gay and beauty standards in the gay community are brutal. I never had a social life because of all my insecurities, I’ve just rotted in bed ever since I could remember and have wasted all my teen years. I’m also the eldest sibling so I feel like no one even expects me to feel this way, and just expects us to move on and deal with it like always. I wake up everyday just wishing I’d looked like a completely different person, I feel as if I can’t go on like this anymore.

Hi is there anybody subletting kcl accom for this academic year? There seems to be no decent accom left on their website