u/cantstandcliff

Ugggggh fingers crossed I am paid today.

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My ex hasn’t called his son in 4 years. No call on birthdays, holidays, nothing. His father stood him up for Father’s Day in 2022, and since then not even an explanation, nothing. I stopped taking him to visits his father rarely attended. Now what he has done is continue to file enforcement proceedings, only to have them dropped because he loses momentum and lets them go nowhere. We are counting 3 dismissals for want of prosecution as of date. I filed for divorce years ago using a highly recommended and highly priced attorney, only to have the case dropped because he dodged service.

My stepson, who is an adult, and still very close with and visits often, called me crying Saturday. He proceeds to tell me that his dad is in the hospital and has just come out of a coma. I was taken back a smidge because his father always was a mess health-wise; I never expected that call. I wondered who called him, and he told me his dad. He goes on to tell me that his father has been in and out of the hospital for years with seizures. I gave my condolences, prayed over him, and then said, “I am not bringing our son up there to see his dad in that condition when he ain’t seen him in years.” Keep in mind our son has been in therapy since the Father’s Day stand-up date and doesn’t need the disturbance.

After getting off the phone with him, I immediately called our son’s therapist. She firmly said that our son not talking to his father for years and not seeing him, then to talk to him in that condition, would be traumatizing, especially because of how flaky his dad is anyway. That phone call would be for dad, not for our son. Keep in mind, as of date, his father still hasn’t called. My number has never changed, and his dad has never been blocked. The only people I feel sorry for in the situation are his kids and that chick he is nesting with, who, without a shadow of a doubt, is in a verbally, physically, and sexually abusive relationship with my ex. He was all those things with me, and all those reasons are why I have kept our son in a safe space.

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My ex hasn’t called his son in 4 years. No call on birthdays, holidays, nothing. His father stood him up for Father’s Day in 2022, and since then not even an explanation, nothing. I stopped taking him to visits his father rarely attended. Now what he has done, is continue to file enforcement proceedings, only to have them dropped because he loses momentum and lets them go nowhere. We are counting 3 dismissals for want of prosecution as of date. I filed for divorce years ago using a highly recommended and highly priced attorney, only to have the case dropped because he dodged service. We are still married and reside in Texas.

My stepson, who is an adult, and still very close with and visits often, called me crying Saturday. He proceeds to tell me that his dad is in the hospital and has just come out of a coma. I was taken back a smidge because his father always was a mess health-wise; I never expected that call. I wondered who called him, and he told me his dad. He goes on to tell me that his father has been in and out of the hospital for years with seizures. I gave my condolences, prayed over him, and then said, “I am not bringing our son up there to see his dad in that condition when he ain’t seen him in years.” Keep in mind our son has been in therapy since the Father’s Day stand-up date and doesn’t need the disturbance.

After getting off the phone with him, I immediately called our son’s therapist. She firmly said that our son not talking to his father for years and not seeing him, then to talk to him in that condition, would be traumatizing, especially because of how flaky his dad is anyway. That phone call would be for dad, not for our son. Keep in mind, as of date, his father still hasn’t called. My number has never changed, and his dad has never been blocked. The only people I feel sorry for in the situation are his kids and that chick he is nesting with, who, without a shadow of a doubt, is in a verbally, physically, and sexually abusive relationship with my ex. He was all those things with me, and all those reasons are why I have kept our son in a safe space.

Tampons didnt work. Tampon and a pad didnt work neither, still bled through pad. I had to get creative and my old sweat shirts worked! I cut them up into rags. BTW I have been bleeding so much I was admitted into the hospital last wk and had 2 blood transfusions!