u/catscanmeow002

One of my favorite frugal trends that's become popular again where I live in Germany is people putting boxes of unwanted items outside their homes with a sign saying "Zu verschenken" ("free to take").
People clean out their basements, closets etc., put everything in a box, and leave it outside their homes on nice days for anyone who wants it. My mum remembers this being really common in the 80s, and it's made a comeback as of recently. My family was actually one of the first in our neighborhood to start doing it again, and we pretty much keep a free box outside year round.

What I actually love most is that there's no stigma around taking things. I've seen even teenagers post about getting excited when they spot a "Zu verschenken" box because you never know what treasure you might find. I think it's such a simple but great way to save money and reduce waste. Instead of throwing perfectly good things away, they get a second life with someone who actually needs them. It's also perfect if you don't have the time or energy to sell everything online. Whatever it is, someone will almost always be happy to take it.

Does anyone have something similar where they live? I'd love to see this become more common elsewhere.

As the title says, I often feel like everyone's soul is connected in one way or another. This might be because I have a vivid imagination. When I go on a walk I like to close my eyes for a bit and I can see myself in the body of a different person, in a whole other continent taking a walk too.

It makes me feel like we are all fragments of one singular soul.

Call me crazy, I probably am, but the thought kind of makes me feel free.

I often feel like I've dreamed a dream that was meant for someone else. The best example for what I am trying to say is a dream I had the other day in which I wasn't me but a random asian guy I have never seen in my life (mind you I am a european woman) and 'I' was sitting at a big lake that was located in a city/country I have never been in. I felt so much emotional pain and I was crying at the lake. Then another guy approached him whom I have never seen either and they were talking about how painful everything is and how much memories this lake holds to them. It felt really intimate and emotionally draining to the point that when I woke up in the morning, the first thing I did was taking out a sketchbook and drawing the memories I had of their faces because I wanted to reach out to both of them in order to help them out 😥 And this is just one example out of many. Whenever I have dreams like this I end up thinking about these strangers for months (even years), hoping that they are alright and wondering if that was just a fraction of me or if this was a dream meant for someone else?.. idk

I really don't know if it's because I am pregnant that I am so emotional right now (probably it is) but I really need to write this off my chest rn or else I think my heart will burst.

Okay so for context: I am 22 and husband is 23. We are expecting twin boys. Both of us are half German and half kosovo albanian. I think when we first met each other through friends we connected so easily because we both somehow understood each other so well based on our background and the mix of these cultures.

We married 2 years ago and he had always been attentive, affectionate, thankful etc. But I feel like ever since my pregnancy started he just doubled down on all of this and it just makes me so emotional to see my husband becoming a dad idk how else to explain.

I think part of why it makes me so emotional is because so many doubted us for our age. I heard it all when we got married and repated once again when I announced my pregnancy. "You are too young." "Men in their early 20s are childish and don't know what they want" "Just wait he'll make you a single mother." "Are you sure you want to be with an electrician?"

When I think of all the things people told me in the name of 'worry' it still hurts me because my partner has always been nothing but amazing to me. And during this entire pregnancy he is just proving everyone wrong who had something snarky to say about him.

During my first trimester I was constantly nauseous. Without me even asking, he started waking up earlier every morning before work to make me 'the right' kind of breakfast because he read that nausea gets worse on an empty stomach and certain foods can help against it. Now, he keeps snack everywhere (in the car, at the night desk etc.) just in case.

This is kind of embarrassing to admit but one night I was crying because I was graving for a specific kind of cereal but the store close by was sold out and this man drove to multiple stores after work just to get that specific cereal for me. He came home with the cereal, flowers and said something along the lines of "you sounded so heartbroken and my heart hurts when you are sad." (This man always makes me cry even more I kid you not). The thing is, he never acts like any of what he is doing is a huge favour. Whenever I thank him, he looks at me confused. He just thinks it's normal.

Like last weekend I thanked him for randomly reorganizing half of the apartment so that I (in his words) "wouldn't need to bend down so much" and when I thanked him he looked at me and was like "Why wouldn't I help? You are carrying our sons. It's my duty." This man makes me scream I just want to squish his cheeks to death (he doesn't know).

He's also so excited for our boys already eventhough he had been mourning for a little while (he was wishing for a girl). Almost every night he takes the time to speak to my belly im both german and albanian because he had apparently read something about babies being able to recognize voices before birth and he wants them to be raised bilingual.

One of the things I currently admire most about him is how responsible and realistic he is about preparing for the twins. We are still young and obviously not rich and instead of trying to impress his friends and others by buying everything brand new, he has carefully been planning everything. Like, he'd just come home from the gym and suddenly write an entire list of what we still need and what we already have and where some older guy at the gym told him he could get certain things secondhand safely.

He's the kind of person to be really proud on doing this ourselves. He hates the idea of asking his or my parents for help. So lately one of our most favourite activities has been to go to the local flea markets and slowly collecting everything. His biggest obsession currently are plushies and I really have to hold him back all the time otherwise we'd have like 400 of them already. He keeps trying to gaslight me into getting them too trying to make me imagine how cute it would look if they cuddled with them and what not. But I am staying strong! (And holding him back).

Oh yeah, also don't make me forget to tell you about how how much more protective and attentive he has become. He has always had these traits but I never knew they could be amplified.

This man noticed when I am uncomfortable before I even say anything. He (for example) fixes the pillows behind me automatically. He obviously also carries everything, refills my water and tea constantly, rubs my belly with lotion every night. The list goes on and on and on.

Like yesterday he go mildly offended before we went out because I told him I could style my hair myself before going out. He said that he was worried about me standing for so long. How cute !!!!! Like??????

I had one break down because of my weight gain and I felt so huge and ugly. And he was so offended. He kept telling me that I was the most beauitful and he spend the night kissing me the entire time while saying that. I felt kind of embarrassed tbh but it almost makes me cry just thinking about it.

Also, we are muslim and we pray together alot. After praying he has this habit of making duaa and recently he's been often loudly saying "Thank you God for giving me the most amazing wife." Like what is his deal? Can't he give me a break? I mean I am already emotional enough I think I'll soon won't be able to handle anymore I swear.

Idk I've just been feeling really grateful and emotional about all of this lately and I've already written him a letter about this the other day because it's difficult to put into words for me but I am just so happy and overwhelmed.

Sorry for rambeling and yapping for so long I just wanted to let it off my chest.

Also, since he's never been on reddit anyway and I also don't care if someome who knows me will read this, let me say one last thing;

Thank you for everything Luan <3 You are the world's best husband<3

Hello everyone. My husband and I are expecting twin boys 💕🐹Each of us have been collecting a list of names we personally really liked and knew that they wouldn't be difficult to pronounce for german speakers. Both my husband and me are half german and half kosovo-albanian. It's tradition in both of our families to give albanian names, so both of these lists are all albanian names (some of arabic decent).

My husband told me since I am birthing the children I should have the final say and pick the names. Both of us are still pretty young (I am 22 and he is 23) so I am worried I might make a 'childish' choice. This is why I wanted to ask for your opinion. Currently I am really liking Nidal&Endrit. I am 100% sure on Nidal. I really love that name I am just not 100% sure about Endrit.

Can you help me with my choice?

My husband's list:
1.Nidal (pronounced nee-dahl)
2.Ensar (pronounced en-sahr)
3.Arijanet (pronounced ah-ree-yah-net)
4.Egzon (pronounced egg-zon)
5.Halim (pronounced hah-leem)

My List:
1.Endrit (prounced en-dreet)
2.Dardan (pronounced dar-dahn)
3.Naim (pronounced nah-eem)
4.Kastriot (pronounced kas-tree-oht)
5. Yll (prounced ewll)

I am turning 24 this year and my problem is that I only ever get hit on by 'older' guys (30s -60s). It's not because I look older. People always guess me to be around 16-18 and my style is also more 'cutsey' (with lots of hairclips). The fact that I don't wear makeup doesn't help either.

I thought maybe it's because I don't ever go clubbing / have never been to a club. Maybe guys my age only hit on women at clubs.

I have a few guy friends in my age and when I meet other guys my age at social events we always connect very well (in a friendly/fun way) but the only guys who ever show interest in me are older guys (especially business men for some odd reason). They often approach me in my day to day life. Does it have to do something with my personality, looks or style? It's just annoying when I always get hit on by business men or even older men who say stuff like "If I were young again I would snatch you away" "If only I were younger I could have a chance with you." but the guys in my age , the guys I have interest in don't care about me :(

Why is it this way and what can I do to change this? It's not like men don't show interest in me it's more the age group that is a problem-.