u/cheated_on101

So last time l was here l asked to make male friends.
Then l realized that l had enough tbh.
All l was lacking was a specific type of friends.
Small background.
Tech nerd .
I code a lot.
Love tech with all my heart.
Gym rat.
80kg bench.
Not like that would help.
Jacked .
Just one twist.
I lack party friends.
Going to this concert on 29th and if you have no one to go with hmu.
Would prefer a couple since l have my girl.
We can go to a club pregame .
Then dip to the venue….
I really have no issue with my current friends.
It’s just that all of them are serious nerds.
Tried talking them into this but they just weren’t having it l guess.
So if you fit the category you can hmu.

Yesterday l was talking to my dad and he questioned me on my internship.
He said he has a few connections to a few banks.
What projects can l build to tailor my portfolio so as to fit one of a banking dev.
Also what else should l know before joining the sector?

Long story but l’m going to shorten it.
So it was October 26th 2023.
Form 3.
Just finished my end of year exams and l was definitely top 20 out of 120 students.
I was in a private school in highschool.
So we go back to the dorm.
Some guy lets call him M.
M is a footballer,alpha male luo guy with a say of some sort.
While l J are a class clown who is just funny and bit of smart.
M is smarter though.
So this day M says that we should switch beds cause the opposite cubes switched beds.
I opposed the nigga.
Man beat me up so bad l went to the toilet to cry.
No one came to comfort me .
Except one guy.
Ryan Njenga.
I used to have my small car in HS.Still have it today.
Used to carry my mates to the turf and was surprised nobody came to my defense.
Built up a lot of resentment towards M.
So the next year we are going out and he enters my whip.
No reaction.
He apologized for what happened but damn that shit hurt me so bad.
So l joined the gym straight out of highschool.
Jacked asf now.
Just to protect 2023 J.
I still can’t fight but you really wouldn’t think of trying to beat me now.
I just did chest and triceps today and it was amazing.
Always going to thank the gym for being there for me when nobody was.

On the M guy thing.
He always had something against me.
Never wronged the guy.
Just an asshole l guess.

20m
I still live with my parents.
So l have a brother 14m.
Yesterday l went shopping and got snacks.
A lot of snacks worth around 3k.
I don’t have an issue sharing with the guy.
His friends come over today.
This guy gives out everything.
I am so pissed .
I confront him and he tells me “iza walai”.
I just let it slide but he pissed me off so bad.
Why would you give away my money like that.
Heri hata ningenunua mzinga .
Now l have to go cook dinner when l didn’t plan to .

20(m).
So basically l don’t have too many male friends.
About 2 of them.
I want to build long lasting friendships with people.
I love going to the gym.
Into tech.
Partying.
Basically me.
I have my own money.(not too much but enough)
So if you’re a guy who is also looking for male friends dm me.

So l have been having some issues with my girl.
We talked things through yesterday and we were fine.
Even got spicy on phone.
So yesterday night l raise a concern over a remark l made which l wasn’t comfy with.
Then she defends herself.
Akaanza story za l don’t show her affection like before.
In relation to me writing down her reposts and acting on them.
I still do act on them.
I just don’t write them down.
All in all she said she doesn’t feel loved.
So she was supposed to come today.
After much convincing she came.
Yesterday we talked about how spicy things would get today.
Kufika l try seducing her .
Got s few kisses here and there.
Even got my pants down just to say she isn’t feeling it.
We apparently solve all our conflicts through sex.
Which is a bad thing according to her.
“If we have sex l will forget everything “.
So l was pants down and pulled them up .
We went to town to get her gifts for girlfriends day.
The only thing from her list l didn’t get her was a leather jacket.
Bro l love spending on my girl so much cause it makes her happy.
Lakini today l just wasn’t feeling it.
Mbona you hype me up alafu uninyime though.
Na itself not the first time.
When we went to buy jeans the same thing happened.
Nilinyimwa na excuse ya l want you to feel how others feel wakinyimwa.
I can’t complain about our sex life except these two times.
My self esteem took a huge hit tbh.
I feel so unattractive.
Yaani nilitoa hadi nguo na ikabidi nimezivaa tena.
Sucha demeaning feeling tbh.
Na l don’t think l’m that ugly cause nilikatiwa once gym
Last week church pia.
Anyway…
For my fellow gents how do you handle rejection from your partners.?
I don’t want to be toxic cause yeyewe sometimes she’s not in the mood.
Lakini the last time we had any sexual interaction was last week Tuesday na vile najua mtu wangu we can go daily.
End of rant.

At the youth service today.
When l stand up to leave this babe comes next to me smiling.
She asks me for my number smiling.
I look at her and laugh.
I thought she would leave.
She says she hasn’t seen me in church for a long time.
I don’t respond.
She still keeps smiling.
At this point nimesimama tu.
She left .
Shit was so awkward.
Ladies please don’t approach men.
I felt so weird tbh.
Ama ni cause l am seeing someone but it just wasn’t it for me.

So today my girlfriend’s sister was going to watch the world cup.
She asked my girl to tag along.
I ask my girl and she tells me no.
Kidogo l ask her if she is sure hataki kuenda anasema no again.
Then after a few anaanza kusema she really wants to go .
Nikasema fine by me.
Then she asks if l can come
(Left highschool together and we have been dating for 1 year six months so we have never been out without each other).
Nasema you can go.
Sina pesa and l told her that from the word go.
She says she still doesn’t want to go.
Anaenda greenspan to get alcohol for her sister.
Her mum sends her money to go na she sent the money to her sister cause she didn’t have enough to go .
Coming back home l call her to discuss the matter cause tensions were high since l told her l felt like a burden and she kept on insisting she wants to go which l told her “sijakushikilia “ and she could have gone.
On call she tells me to “work harder” cause l didn’t have money this one time.
Guys l swear we have always gone out .
Clubs .
Dates.
I pay for it all.
So this one time she tells me this.
She knows how hard l work.
I felt disrespected by her words.
Communicated and she told me l can’t lead.
Proceeds to tell me she built me and l am pathetic.
I did call her a bad partner since she kept on insisting on going na l told her told her to go alone since sina pesa.
Kinda made me feel guilty.
She wanted to go alone na she is possessive.
If l did the same thing ningekuwa blocked .
Sasa naahangaa what wrong l did.
Still blocked over nothing.
Nikaitwa a petty asf nigga

Gen Z here and a really big supporter of Babu and what he does.
The thing is l have watched a podcast on iko Nini including Ben Sirkal and he says babu is a goon.
Same thing with gaucho and Mosiria.
Mosiria quite frankly specifies how many lives he has ruined while at it in UON.
Before l vote him in as my governor is there something l should be knowing on his past in UON.
It seems like a lot is being hidden.

So rn natuma text ya “l miss our sex”.
Reply was
“Lol”
“The way you disappointed me the last time we cracked”.

Yes l did disappoint.

Nutted twice in under 5 minutes.

Let me explain myself.

I ‘m usually not a one minute man and this has happened just once in our one year long sex life.

Keep in mind when she was on birth control she couldn’t get wet.

I bought lube which she refused to use.

Didn’t cheat on her the whole time.

Our sex life wasn’t the best at that time and l held her down.

Always reassured her when she thought she was the problem.

Then now l get hit by this.

Alafu when l confront her anasema ni joke.

Wtf is wrong with women.

So today l’m hitting chest.
70kg barbell on my chest.
Breathing heavy.
I stop.
Go get a water break.
This mama comes to me and tells me l’m cute.
I look at her and tell her l’m seeing someone.
As l was leaving she leaves in a premio.
Never thought a mumama would actually hit on me.
19 btw she seemes around 26.
Just wondered frrrr.

Another story….
My boy lets call him(k) was smashing this 26 year old congolese babe he met at our gym.
She hit on him.
After about two weeks she calls him over and fucks him.
Since then they used to come to the gym and get so cosy.
Doesn’t make sense tbh .
Anyway younger J(me) would wonder tbh.
Growing up as a fat kid always messed up my self esteem.
Getting some muscle actually boosts your confidence.
Go to the gym guys

So we started dating around last year May.
I cheated on August cause l wasn’t getting sex which was stupid of me considering we were extremely young.
So a female friend of mine encouraged me to cheat and l did at her place with someone else.
For my girl to forgive me l had to cut her off which l did.
On Saturday l was hosting a birthday party and finances weren’t going so well.
My girl asked me if she could go get her armpits waxed and l was vexed.
Cause l was the one paying and she saw l was in a situation.
So for the first time in practically a year l contacted my female friend to vent cause things weren’t going well financially.
Which l agree was wrong and childish of me.
Now my girl is doing whatever she wants in the relationship.
Hours without communication and itself bugging me.
I have apologized countless of times but l know that won’t change much.
I promise to be a man of action.
How can l handle the situation better gents and ladies?
She told me she wants a proper apology.
We also have to go to a certain concert so l am debating on buying our tickets or gifts for her apology.
(We are both 19)

19(m).
Turning 20 in a day.
Looking for a club to celebrate in.
Budget is around 20-25k.
Please drop your suggestions 😛✌🏽

So my friend (M) has an old iphone 7.
It doesn’t work at all.
I got a new phone 3 weeks ago.
So l ask my girl kama l can give my friend my old phone so she can use it.
Being called too friendly and apparently l save everyone from their bad situations.
Sasa nimekaa chini na l am wondering should l let my friend suffer just because my girl said l am being too friendly towards her.
My friend is 3 years older btw.

Sasa my friend will have to suffer

So since today is fathers day.
Yesterday l went to scents Kenya.
Got my dad a very small package.
A perfume and a spray to be precise.
Gage it to him this morning and man was he happy.
Shook my hand and told me thank you.
In his words”this was a good surprise “.
In all my 19 years l haven’t seen him this happy.
Celebrate your fathers guys .
Happy fathers day to all the dads put here ❤️

Started learning how to code a fee months ago and l am proficient in react,still learning java at the moment.
Recently Elon musk said coding will be dead in 6 months
Should l continue or am l wasting my time ?

I recently bought a new iphone fifteen last Friday .
Yesterday night as l was out l notice a small green line incluned to the left.
I update the soft and it diesel change.
What might be the issue .
It’s frustrating since the phone is a week old
Cause l haven’t dropped it.