u/cherrybombpython

Almost 3 years ago, I was assaulted while I was passed out drunk and I just didn’t want to deal with it so I ignored it for 6 months. I opened up about it to my boyfriend, but I was pregnant and I was much more concerned about that so I gave birth and focused on my son for about a year and a half until now.
Last I talked to this guy, he had a girlfriend that dropped out of high-school because she was so scared to see him. It brings into question whether or not he will do it again so I am wondering if I should file a police report for that reason. I’m thinking maybe my case could help someone else’s.
On one side, I am just learning to talk about it out loud and not just over text and I will not be able to testify- I think- if it comes to it. I still don’t sleep. I still have problems during sex. I still am affected by these issues so I feel like I’m not stable enough, not just to testify but also to see him get away with it.
On the other side though, I wished I had someone to back my case so I felt like I could make one. I wasn’t ready at the time and was really annoyed by it because it felt like just another thing I have to deal with.

So what are your guys’s experience with filing a police report?

How is trial?

Please tell me everything you can, I just want to be able to make an informed decision

So I’m going to add a lot of detail but I’m going to put them in bullet points me I like those better. I am also autistic.

What I am looking for out of a friend:

\- Little
\- Requires an enclosure
\- Can go with me for gas station runs or to the stores
\- Does not scare my cats
\- Can be apart of my daily routine
\- Personality
\- Does not mind me being at work for 6 hours

Reasons why I say this is because I want to if there are any huge cons that conflict with what I am looking for, now I’m going to list things that I like about budgies;

\- their diet weirdly, I’m stressed about how many things they shouldn’t have but I think it’s very interesting how their diet works
\- They fly
\- They sing, talk, try to mimic
\- Their feathers don’t feel bad
\- Cuddly but not super
\- Personality!!!!
\- Requires a enclosure
\- Very little
\- Would not scare my cats
\- Can eat some foods I eat ! I like the idea of sharing occasionally

I just hear different things about being able to take budgies to the store or in the car. From what I understand, it takes practice and even then it may not be possible for them. Also I don’t know if they’ll be okay while I’m at work, I’m worried they won’t do well and will rip their feathers out from stress.

Now we go into possible cons:

\- expensive
\- Sensitive
\- Poop? But if it’s not usually runny or wet, it shouldn’t be too big of a deal? I used to have bunnies so I would just vacuum that shit up
\- I may be too loud? I get so excited I scream sometimes, I try not to because I live in a half house. If I can I go into a separate room
\- No candles 🥺 I don’t like smelling anything neutral so I have scented things literally everywhere, so I will have to give those up

Plans I have so this goes smoothly;
\- separate room from cats (maybe a large walkin closet if you guys think that’s okay)
\- Getting bird insurance
\- Setting up stations with news paper under their sitting stations
\- Getting 2 babies

Please tell me all about your budgies (with pictures preferably) and tell me if I’m not a good fit/ not being realistic about budgies

I have a lot of questions about having a beagle, I’m not getting a little baby for another year but I’ve already decided that I want a girl and I named her ginger. Now I will ask my questions:

How are they with cats?
- are they respectful about their space?
- how do I train her to be nice to my cats?

What are must haves for beagles?
I have chew toys, treats, slow feeders, a crate, a few beds, stuffed animals, dog puzzles, collar, harness, squeaky toys, dog blankets, different leashes, baby gates, child locks for cabinets, and a crate cover in a list on Amazon

How are they with babies? My son is about a year and a half

Do your beagles walk slow?

How are your guys in cars?

And lastly, any tips on training her to not be a reactive dog. Thank you so much ! I’m worried she’s going to be an anxious dog or she’s going to be mean to my cats which may be unrealistic however I just want to be the most prepared I can for her