u/chillbutcrazy

I hear it all the time in crime cases. Ex: Susan Phillips was stabbed 10 times but coroner says she was still alive for 20 minutes after that, or Michael Richardson fell off a cliff to his death but coroner says he was alive at the bottom for another hour before he died.

How do they know these things?

Recently, me and my partner got into it bad because when presented the question of who I loved more between her and my dog (both of which I've known for roughly the same amount of time), I refused to choose, viewing it as two different types of relationships. I love her in a romantic/emotional way that would come with any relationship, and I love my dog as if he were my son, the same way many other people would love their animals.

Since then, she's been giving me the silent treatment and continues to claim that I picked the dog over her.

Being presented that question, even as a joke as she claims, was tense and hurtful for me. I would never put her in that position and now it feels like she doesn't appreciate all of the things I've provided and done for her and makes me feel even worse because now I'm feeling like I've been doing a terrible job at reassuring her and letting her know how much she means to me.

I thought that was the right answer, like when you have another kid and the first one asks if you love them less. I love both my partner and my dog more than I love life itself, but I don't want to compare them because it's like two different contests. She's not being put on the same pedestal, in my eyes, because they're two separate "contests."

She wanted me to have just said yes, but I felt like I would be lying to her and just simply telling her what she wanted to hear, something she'd already told me she doesn't want me doing.

Recently, me and my partner got into it bad because when presented the question of who I loved more between her and my dog (both of which I've known for roughly the same amount of time), I refused to choose, viewing it as two different types of relationships. I love her in a romantic/emotional way that would come with any relationship, and I love my dog as if he were my son, the same way many other people would love their animals.

Since then, she's been giving me the silent treatment and continues to claim that I picked the dog over her.

Being presented that question, even as a joke as she claims, was tense and hurtful for me. I would never put her in that position and now it feels like she doesn't appreciate all of the things I've provided and done for her and makes me feel even worse because now I'm feeling like I've been doing a terrible job at reassuring her and letting her know how much she means to me.

I thought that was the right answer, like when you have another kid and the first one asks if you love them less. I love both my partner and my dog more than I love life itself, but I don't want to compare them because it's like two different contests. She's not being put on the same pedestal, in my eyes, because they're two separate "contests."

She wanted me to have just said yes, but I felt like I would be lying to her and just simply telling her what she wanted to hear, something she'd already told me she doesn't want me doing.