u/chinesecarololine94

I dont want to go into too much detail, but I've dated a lot of non-asian men in the past, and now that i've reached a certain age, I regret it, especially when I think about how I treated this one asian friend who was one of the best guys to enter my life, looking back now I shouldve listened to him and dated him instead, but I know if i told him my secrets he'd end up getting hurt. I know fore sure I cant message him now without things ending up a toxic mess. The only men who seem interested in me now are those twice my age. And especially asian men are put off when I mention my dating history.

Someone even jokingly called me a bananarang in my face, and i didnt even know what it was until I looked it up. I know it's my fault for dating out and excluding asian men when i was younger, but I also consumed alot of western media and had alot of non asian friends. I was also raised by a single mother who remarried and had a son, so i never felt like i belonged even in my own family. My dad left when I was 4, and I remember how my mother cried alone because of it, i know generelizing is bad but this did put me off from dating asian men.

Are there any asian women my age with a similar story? how do you handle this pressure and treatment from society. Do you ever feel guilt towards your background?

I've never been but def want to visit. Growing up Japan was the pinnacle of asian culture. But lately ive seen some creepy stuff regarding female citizens and tourists. Just now there was this bumping man thing? And gropers etc.

I've read that even China has become safer for women compared to japan, is that true? I know south korea is now on top regarding safety (excluding the hidden cam stuff).

But would it be safe for a woman to walk at 3 am in japan?

Ik heb recentlijk interesse gekregen over paspoorten etc. en iemand die ervaring heeft met immigratie, naturalisatie etc, heeft mij verteld dat het als surinamer moeilijker is om de nederlandse paspoort te krijgen dan als een Turk nederlandse nationaliteit wilt krijgen.

Dit vind ik super vreemd, want surinamers zijn vloeiend in nederlands en ik zou zeggen qua cultuur veel dichterbij nederland dan Turken. Ik weet dat het makkelijker is voor studie etc, maar voor werk en naturalisatie blijkbaar niet.

Ik weet weinig over nederland eerlijk gezegd dit is obv een nederlander die vroeger surinamer was. Hij heeft mij ook verteld dat er vaak ernstige geweldadig gevallen zijn omtrend Turken, maar Surinamers vrij nil.

Ik ken ook heel weinig negatieve politieke gebeurtenissen tussen NL en SR besides the decembermoorden maar dat was in de jaren 80.

Worden surinamers neergekeken ofzo? want de nederlanders die hier komen worden best goed verwelkomt.

This was posted on a Chinese sub, but the majority of commenters were non asian sexist men. Maybe like 20% agreed with me. But the post got a lot of traction and still got removed.

I am a Chinese female diaspora and have been fetishized my whole life, I now see a trend of foreign men obsessed with learning the language and especially the culture just because they want a chinese wife.

I think its sick and these men always have this weird mindset and idealogy. My culture is not your mask.

I also notice they want a Chinese wife so bad, but criticize chinese culture daily as if they are a part of it and as if they own the culture.

We should not be reduced to this level. I have dated foreign men before and i can assure you they are very weird inside and put on this fake persona. One of my exes has literally been convicted as a pedophile recently and that was my turning point.

I also recently saw this youtuber in my feed. some white south african dude who visited china, hes so anti china its weird, and guess what, he has a chinese wife, like what the actual F?!

China should vet these sickos before letting them in. Im so glad they passed the execution law for pedophiles. that was a good decision on China's part.

Is there a way we can petition this? there are literally billions of us, we can bring awareness to this no?

I already have security cameras in every perimeter, some give a warning after they motion sense.

I have a baseball bat right by the front door. Pepper spray, some pocket knives. I have a gun but i dont want to use that.

What else can i add to not only deter robbers but if one where to enter my home.

I am a Chinese female diaspora and have been fetishized my whole life, I now see a trend of foreign men obsessed with learning the language and especially the culture just because they want a chinese wife.

I think its sick and these men always have this weird mindset and idealogy. My culture is not your mask.

I also notice they want a Chinese wife so bad, but criticize chinese culture daily as if they are a part of it and as if they own the culture.

We should not be reduced to this level. I have dated foreign men before and i can assure you they are very weird inside and put on this fake persona. One of my exes has literally been convicted as a pedophile recently and that was my turning point.

I also recently saw this youtuber in my feed. some white south african dude who visited china, hes so anti china its weird, and guess what, he has a chinese wife, like what the actual F?!

China should vet these sickos before letting them in. Im so glad they passed the execution law for pedophiles. that was a good decision on China's part.

Is there a way we can petition this? there are literally billions of us, we can bring awareness to this no?