u/cinephileonpurpose

3 years since we met but now no longer together

So before meeting on our first date, there was a 2 month talking stage because she was in another state. In those two months, we opened up a lot about each other — our interests, hobbies, everything. Subconsciously, we became part of each other’s routine.

One day in the middle of a conversation, I casually mentioned that I liked vintage sunglasses and said, “One day I’ll buy them for myself, right now I don’t have money for them.”

Cut to a few weeks later when we finally met for our first date.

I didn’t take flowers for her because of some past experiences. I was deeply hurt from a previous relationship and honestly carried a lot of bitterness towards women as a whole back then. I had decided I would never buy flowers for anyone again.

We met, shook hands, sat opposite each other, and just kept smiling because after months of talking, we were finally seeing each other in person.

Then casually, she put her hand inside her bag, took out a pair of sunglasses, and kept them in front of me.

Not even in my wildest dreams did I think someone would remember such a small detail about me, let alone gift it to me. It was something I casually mentioned once in the middle of a random conversation, and she remembered it.

Till date, that remains one of the sweetest gestures anyone has ever done for me.

Ventane first thing I did was, the place we went to had this small tree nearby with flowers on it. I plucked a few flowers from there and gave them to her. She found it really cute. Then I took her picture in my Polaroid, moved closer and sat beside her, and we spent the whole evening/night just talking.

One of the best and most unforgettable days of my life.

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 16 hours ago

Instagram RabitHole

I went back to my Instagram after a week because I had an itch. Man, every time I activate it after deactivating for some time, it pulls me in. There’s this slight pain that starts happening at the back of my head. Suddenly all I see is aesthetically pleasing stuff, beautiful women, men with ribbed and fit bodies, glow ups, people going on trips, luxurious lifestyles, and many more such fancy things.

I also come across a few people doing what they like outside their interests, more like they have an amazing social life. All this collectively fucks my brain and instantly starts drawing comparisons. Then I fall into this “wish I could” hole. I’m someone with taste and an admirer of art, beauty, and stuff, so I instantly start feeling, wish I could have such aesthetics, wish I had such a beautiful girl, wish I had that fit body which is aesthetically pleasing, when will I have a glow up so I can embrace my fashion taste and feel confident about myself and start posting pictures of myself.

Fuck, people are living more outside the internet. They have such perfect social lives, going on trips, meeting new people, while here I am rotting in bed with a minimum wage salary, wanting a luxurious free-will life. Most importantly, when will I have the privilege to do what I like?

All this comparison hell I go through is so emotionally and physically tiring. I never felt this in the past two years because I was in love with someone and I was completely occupied with that relationship and my life. Now since I’m single and I have no purpose or anything in life, I know it sounds absurd that I have myself, which is a greater purpose to life, but I don’t know.

These are stupid privileged problems. I know there are a lot of other important things in life and there are people facing far worse kinds of problems while here I am crying over materialistic things. But I don’t know, I felt this. I’m tired of all this bullshit. Felt like ranting!

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 3 days ago
▲ 121 r/hyderabad

When did Hyderabad turn out this damnn hot

i have been a resident of Hyderabad since i was born. it’s been 24 years, but this is the hottest summer i have ever experienced. nadisthe chematalu ostunai, em pani cheyakunda kurchunte chematalu ostunai, fan kinda kurchuna chematalu ostunai. even while travelling in the metro, i’m sweating; the metro’s AC sucks big time, but that’s another topic which i already ranted about before. ila choosthe andaru ac lu konukovali andariki antha sthomatha undakapovachu intlo aa enda barinchaleka office ki ostuna ac lo aina undachu ani, hitting the low! inka modi annatu wfh isthe dead ey..!! kastho kustho privilege unna manake ila unte rekkula illu unna valaki, huts lo unde vallaki, asalu ille leni vallaki entha ghoramaina situation ee heat valla. i feel so bad for them!

i was never even a sweaty person, so what the fuck is this heat? are we really getting doomed?

i recently visited Sainikpuri for my pinni’s house. we all know how beautiful that place is, filled with trees everywhere, yet even there it felt unbearably hot. in all these years, i’ve never felt this frustrated about the heat. and on top of that, this Congress government wants to cut trees. if this continues, hyd will become a terrible place to live.

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 4 days ago
▲ 106 r/tollywood

ochesaru..

veelu antha athi na kodukulu rendu telugu rashtralalo ekkada ethikina dorakaru enduko telidhu chala fake vibes aa punjabi odi reaction channel untadi ga these two are telugu version of him!

u/cinephileonpurpose — 4 days ago
▲ 129 r/tollywood

This is the reason i hate court movie

POCSO is a very sensitive topic. Sexual offences against children have been happening for ages, and to prevent such cruel acts they came up with strict laws. There wasn’t a single popular movie before “Court” that took POCSO as its central theme, so for most audiences this was probably their first exposure to what the law actually is and why such strictness exists in the first place.

But instead of first establishing why the law is necessary and the kind of trauma children go through, the film directly jumps into the “misuse” angle of the law. Even while giving context, instead of showing how fragile and legally complicated consensual intimacy between minors can be because of their age, the director stages it through “bommala pelli aata.” He should have made it clearer that even consensual intimacy between minors still falls under a legal issue because they are minors.

Now look at the Bandi Bhageerath case. So many influencers, already armed with pre-written narratives, started comparing it to “Court” and pushing the idea that the victim’s side is misusing the law for money. See the kind of damage a film like this can do to public understanding? Victims who come forward after surviving trauma and gathering immense courage are instead met with slut shaming, victim blaming, and accusations that it’s a “false case,” just like in the movie. That is bizarre and honestly dangerous.

A film dealing with such a sensitive law should have been far more responsible before centering the misuse narrative. I genuinely don’t understand how this got made with people like Nani and Darshi involved, considering they usually associate with films that carry sensitivity and good intentions.

Screw y’all.

u/cinephileonpurpose — 5 days ago
▲ 197 r/hyderabad

This is the reason i hate court movie

POCSO is a very sensitive topic. Sexual offences against children have been happening for ages, and to prevent such cruel acts they came up with strict laws. There wasn’t a single popular movie before “Court” that took POCSO as its central theme, so for most audiences this was probably their first exposure to what the law actually is and why such strictness exists in the first place.

But instead of first establishing why the law is necessary and the kind of trauma children go through, the film directly jumps into the “misuse” angle of the law. Even while giving context, instead of showing how fragile and legally complicated consensual intimacy between minors can be because of their age, the director stages it through “bommala pelli aata.” He should have made it clearer that even consensual intimacy between minors still falls under a legal issue because they are minors.

Now look at the Bandi Bhageerath case. So many influencers, already armed with pre-written narratives, started comparing it to “Court” and pushing the idea that the victim’s side is misusing the law for money. See the kind of damage a film like this can do to public understanding? Victims who come forward after surviving trauma and gathering immense courage are instead met with slut shaming, victim blaming, and accusations that it’s a “false case,” just like in the movie. That is bizarre and honestly dangerous.

A film dealing with such a sensitive law should have been far more responsible before centering the misuse narrative. I genuinely don’t understand how this got made with people like Nani and Darshi involved, considering they usually associate with films that carry sensitivity and good intentions.

Screw y’all.

u/cinephileonpurpose — 5 days ago

Small request: Can we all wish luck to someone special giving her upsc this week.

someone very special to me is giving her upsc exam this week and i genuinely want all the good energy possible to reach her.

she’s one of the most hardworking people i’ve ever come across. balancing studies while battling mental health and still continuing to chase her dream takes an insane amount of strength. i personally know her journey, so seeing her still hold on and keep moving forward means needs a lots of courage and passion.

can we all collectively wish her luck and hope that everything good happens for her in this exam? just sending some positive karma, strength, and warmth her way 🤍

PS: Wish her luck, not all the best. She doesn't like "all the best" for some reason! PLEASE!!!

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 5 days ago
▲ 65 r/hyderabad_telugu+1 crossposts

Rant

Midnight power cut lu, Sayantram aithe road la meeda street lights on avvavu, Free bus bullshit, Metro's being overcrowded with less ac in this peak summer making us suffocating to death w all the sweat of people and no air, SIT for POCSO, Hydra kulchivethalu, Cutting trees/Destroying green lungs for their businesses and fooling people in the name of urbanisation. UFFFFF !!!!!

Are we dooming day by day?

u/cinephileonpurpose — 6 days ago
▲ 277 r/HyderabadFilmClub+1 crossposts

Decoding this iconic scene.

athadu should honestly be studied in books on how to make a commercial film with so much depth, nuance, and a perfect understanding of character arc. it’s filled with amazing scenes, but let’s deep dive into this particular one because it acts as the key shift, or in writing terms, the catalyst, for the entire narrative to change.

this entire sequence is so goddamn well written and staged. rajeev kanakala feels exactly like that overly friendly co-passenger or stranger almost all of us would have come across at least once in life. he casually mentions his hometown, “basaralapudi,” and mahesh’s eyes immediately fall on the missing poster carrying the same village name. the placement of the poster between them is such a brilliant staging choice because it naturally initiates the conversation about the missing boy, who is rajeev himself, instead of making the discussion feel random or forced. that visual placement alone gives the scene so much more impact.

mahesh initially stays in disbelief, thinking rajeev might just be casually talking nonsense. then rajeev pulls out his childhood photo as proof and starts opening up about his family, how he has been away from them for 12 years, and how he’s finally going back home. suddenly, the photo flies away because of the wind from the moving train. this is such an important detail. that one photo becomes a major plot device because rajeev dies in the very next sequence. if the photo had still been in his purse, the police could have easily identified that rajeev was the real pardhu and mahesh was only impersonating him. the entire suspense game would have collapsed right there.

so trivikram smartly writes the scene in a way where rajeev loses the photo while trying to prove his identity to a complete stranger. even the art department deserves appreciation here because the missing poster looks slightly torn, dusty, and old from the sides, making it believable that it has been there for a while instead of looking freshly pasted just for narrative convenience.

rajeev unknowingly feeds mahesh every bit of information about his family and past, which eventually leads him to that house and allows him to use it as a safe space for some time. even though prakash raj reaches basaralapudi through the ticket name “pardhu,” he still lacks concrete proof because the photo is gone. that’s how much detailed writing went into this setup.

love trivikram for giving us athadu.

u/cinephileonpurpose — 6 days ago
▲ 139 r/hyderabad

Change in Hyderabad Biryani

hyderabad biryani lost its iconic taste. previously it used to be full of flavours, now every goddamn biryani, even in popular restaurants, is loaded with double masala and somehow being called biryani. since when did “double masala” become part of biryani culture? biryani was never meant to be overly spicy or drowning in masala. it was supposed to be aromatic, flavourful, balanced, with every layer properly sunk in.

if i’m not wrong, hyderabadi muslim cooks used to make biryani in the majority of these eateries back then. now many of them have been replaced by north indian or other state chefs/cooks who barely understand the culture and the richness of its taste. and i genuinely hate this andhra-ification of biryani. it completely destroyed the whole point of it.

all these “andhra biryani” outlets suck big time. they could simply call it pulao, but no.

ugh… sad biryani lover noises

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 6 days ago

Death of intimacy post breakup

after my 2 and half years relationship ended, i noticed something very strange. as someone whose love language was emotional and physical intimacy, post breakup i feel like my sexual attraction completely died. i attached intimacy only with that person, and for me intimacy comes with the love and connection i have with someone. even if i think about hoeing around, i just wouldn’t fully get mentally or physically connected with anyone. those thoughts occur during lonely times, but my mind and body don’t allow me to act on them, and i don’t force myself either. i could literally feel the death of my intimacy, especially physical intimacy.

is it just me (i’m a guy btw) or has anyone else felt the same? did y’all go through this too? asking this respectfully only to understand how others felt or how they overcame it, not for sex talk or to slide into anyone’s dms. it’ll really help if you share what you feel, thank you!

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 7 days ago

My favourite Telugu directors of all time, yours?

yes. like every other they had their worst films too but i feel they are best with their artistic values and unique voice. love them!

u/cinephileonpurpose — 9 days ago

men being not expressive, patriarchy and gender wars.

the point about men being non-expressive is patriarchally conditioned. they’re taught to take everything irrespective of how hard it gets. it’s been wired into them for generations, and it was very tough for men like me to break that and express what we feel. but the problem is, when we express openly, it gets used against us to put us down(intentionally or unintentionally).

i’ve seen huge campaigns by women about how men should open up and freely talk about their feelings, but when they actually do, it reaches a point where vulnerability almost starts feeling like weakness because we are putting our emotions out there, and people begin to see us differently. and women, for fuck’s sake, often don’t know how to treat or deal with a man who is vulnerable.

men are taught since childhood how to treat women in certain ways, but women are rarely taught how to emotionally handle or support a vulnerable man. this is also a problem that comes from patriarchy because women, for generations, were only expected to provide sex, take care of the household, and bow down to whatever the man said. patriarchy equally fucked up both men and women.

instead of fighting the bigger problem, we keep fighting each other as revenge for the acts committed by people of the same gender. but you can only tackle the problem by uniting, understanding each other, and being empathetic towards one another.

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u/cinephileonpurpose — 9 days ago

YouTubers with spine.

I completed watching these two videos by Thulasi Chandu and Kranthi Vlogger about the gruesome acts allegedly committed by Bandi Sanjay Kumar’s son against a minor. What she must have gone through, man… so heartbreaking. These videos highlight the classic victim-blaming that keeps happening, and the double standards of YouTubers like Aye Jude, who seem to run their narratives only to elevate the orange party.

It’s genuinely powerful to watch people speak out. I’m happy that even common people are getting exposed to such sensitive and important issues and are raising their voices against these atrocities. I hope this continues, I hope the Constitution prevails, and I truly hope the girl gets justice, recovers well, and goes on to do great things in life.

Fuck these scumbags. They deserve to rot in hell.

u/cinephileonpurpose — 10 days ago

Life has to go on..

I recently went back to a place that once felt like home to me.

It’s just a simple house opposite a small eatery where we used to eat during the early days of our relationship. Before I even met her, I used to sit there with my chicken wrap, looking at that house for no reason other than how peaceful it felt. It was simple, filled with flowers and greenery, and somewhere deep down I always thought, “I’d love to live in a place like this someday.”

When we started dating, I took her there too. She loved it the same way I did. We’d eat pani puri at the small stall opposite the house, tease each other, talk for hours, and somehow that entire street felt warm and alive.

For almost two years, that place carried a kind of comfort I can’t really explain.

After the breakup, I visited it again recently.

Nothing felt the same anymore. The warmth was gone. Even the street looked different to me. And strangely, I started drawing a parallel between that place and myself. After the relationship ended, I lost a lot of who I was too. A part of me quietly died somewhere along the way.

But maybe that’s life.

Places change. People leave. Feelings fade. The warmth you once felt in a person or a place may never stay forever.

But at the end of it all, you still have yourself.

And no matter what changes around you, you shouldn’t lose your own glory. Life has to go on.

u/cinephileonpurpose — 10 days ago