u/circasurvivors

When we first started dating a year and a half ago, she didn’t really complain too much, but when she did she would apologize and say she’d stop. I told her there wasn’t anything wrong with venting because I know it feels good to vent/rant. She basically took that and stretched it as much as she could because all she does now is complain. I don’t think she’s gone a whole day without complaining about something.

When I say she complains about everything, I really mean everything. When she’s driving, she complains about literally everyone’s driving that’s in front of her even when they aren’t doing anything wrong. She’s always complaining about her job that she hates, but refuses to get a new one. She complains about her family. She complains when I ask her to do something around the house (I clean all the time and take care of our pets). She complains if I ask her to cook dinner one night (I always cook dinner). She complains if I skip a step while I walk. She complains whenever she asks for advice and I give it to her, but it’s not good enough for her, so she does the opposite and then complains about those results. She complains when the wind is blowing in the direction she doesn’t want it to.

You get the idea. I’m just so mentally drained by it. She is constantly finding new things to complain about and it’s almost nauseating. I can’t even ask her to stop complaining because she just gets mad and complains more. I’ve told her she really needs to give therapy a try and she doesn’t want to. Honestly, I can’t even see her taking any therapists advice. It’s gotten to the point where whenever she complains, I just ignore it now. I pay no attention to it anymore. I’ll continue just watching something on tv or doing something on my phone while she does it. I just nod my head the whole time. Most of the time I don’t even know what she complains about anymore. As soon as she starts, I just block it out. In one ear, out the other.

Obviously this isn’t healthy for either of us, but I’m losing my mind.

Season 4 in Italy for me. That whole season makes me cringe. The drama Mike (who was unbearable) brought the ENTIRE season, Ron and Sam inevitably getting back together after their terrible blow up in season 3, Pauly and Vinny being total dicks to Deena while Deena still wanted to fuck Pauly, Snooki screaming and crying in the streets looking for Jionni who leaves after being there for less than a day, recreating Karma in the living room, etc. I could go on and on for my dislike of the season. Jenni was probably the only sane person.

Season 6 as well. I might’ve only watched that season once.

EDIT: OG seasons, not Family Vacation.

Kind of a vent. Kind of asking for advice. Kind of complaining.

I’ve been in OPD for 4 years now, mostly as a picker. I dispensed my first 6 months and grew to hate it. My then coach at the time assigned me as a designated picker and that’s all I’ve done since then, even at 2 other stores I’ve worked at. I absolutely love picking. I love working by myself and just staying inside. I don’t even mind the customer interactions. I enjoy staying busy with picking. I’ve always been told that I’m a top picker in the stores I’ve worked at. Always brought in over 600 picks a day with a pick rate over 100. I was always getting positive feedback from team leads and coaches.

I just transferred to a new store and my first day I did the same. Was in the top 5 (even 1st place once or twice) my first week, just blowing everyone out of the water. Then they randomly decided they were going to put me on the board for dispensing instead. It’s been dreadful working with some of the people in the back. I hate the hot weather. I hate working with others. I just want to work alone again. I don’t understand why they put me on dispensing when I’m already a great picker. I feel useless back here most of the time because of how different dispensing is from when I did it a few years ago. I have to learn all over again now. I wouldn’t say they really rotate associates either. A lot of them are designated stagers, pickers and dispensers.

Should I talk to my coach or team leads about it? Or are they just going to tell me to kick rocks?

Hi! I guess I just need a peace of mind. I’ve had my two cats for 2 months now. They’re both 7 months old. My orange boy usually loves to eat, especially his wet food. He gets wet food in the morning and night with dry food to graze during the day and through the night.

Last night I fed him his wet food and gave him a churu not long after and he eventually vomited what looked like some un-chewed dry food with a light brown color. Kind of between liquidy/firm if that makes sense. Almost like mashed potato texture. I went to feed him his wet food this morning and he wouldn’t touch it. He has been eating his dry food so far today though. Still playing with his brother, running around, chirping, meowing and being his crazy self getting into trouble.

Just worried about him not eating his wet food when he normally goes crazy for it in the morning. I’ll try again in a couple of hours, but overall he’s acting normal and hasn’t vomited since.

Is there really anything for me to worry about? Or will he be fine?

My 6 month old boy “L” seems to be having diarrhea the last couple of days. I’m wondering if it’s from a sudden change in cat food I’m giving him?

Recently my other kitten “B” (bonded brother) was diagnosed with having bladder inflammation. The vet gave me a script for B to be on Hill’s prescription urinary diet c/d dry and wet food. She said it was safe for both cats to eat. Both cats before were on Purina Kitten dry food. I started them both on the Hill’s dry food a week ago very suddenly because it’s hard to keep one from eating the other’s dry food when B can’t have Purina dry food anymore. I haven’t mixed in the old food with the new food.

I’ll feed them wet food in the morning and before bed. B gets his Hill’s wet food while L gets Fancy Feast kitten pate. L is still getting Fancy Feast because there’s still a couple cans left. During the day all day and night they have access to the Hill’s dry food.

Is it because of the sudden change in dry food? Or because he’s eating a mix of Hill’s dry food and Fancy Feast pate?

My 6 month old boy “L” seems to be having diarrhea the last couple of days. I’m wondering if it’s from a sudden change in cat food I’m giving him?

Recently my other kitten “B” (bonded brother) was diagnosed with having bladder inflammation. The vet gave me a script for B to be on Hill’s prescription urinary diet c/d dry and wet food. She said it was safe for both cats to eat. Both cats before were on Purina Kitten dry food. I started them both on the Hill’s dry food a week ago very suddenly because it’s hard to keep one from eating the other’s dry food when B can’t have Purina dry food anymore. I haven’t mixed in the old food with the new food.

I’ll feed them wet food in the morning and before bed. B gets his Hill’s wet food while L gets Fancy Feast kitten pate. L is still getting Fancy Feast because there’s still a couple cans left. During the day all day and night they have access to the Hill’s dry food.

Is it because of the sudden change in dry food? Or because he’s eating a mix of Hill’s dry food and Fancy Feast pate?

My two bonded six month old kittens have been meowing early in the morning for the past week. I’ve had them for a month and while they did the same thing when we first got them, they adjusted to a schedule where they’d sleep through the night in their room to where I could let them out at 8:30 the next morning. At most I could hear them playing with each other. Now it’s just constant meowing at 4, 5, 6, 7 in the morning. They’ll meow for 20 or so minutes each hour, sometimes longer.

What else can I do? I mostly ignore them, but it feels like it’s getting worse. I can’t let them out of their room to free roam the apartment unsupervised just yet as they get into everything. They have everything they need in their room. Toys, cat tree, fresh water, food, litter box, windowsill to perch and look outside.

My cat just recently went to the vet ER because of frequent litter box trips with little to no urine coming out. He would just sit in there and strain. They basically said it was bladder inflammation (no blockage) and his urinalysis came back with no infection or bacteria, just red and white blood cells detected. They said it can be from stress since he’s naturally an anxious cat, but could come from certain food/treats we were giving him as well. He’s now on Hill’s prescription urinary care c/d dry and wet food and completed his robenacoxib prescription today.

There’s a good chance we’re moving into a new home soon, and I have a feeling this could trigger another episode with the car ride and new home. I’m of course keeping him on this diet he’s on. Overall he’s back to his normal hyper self and using the litter box normally again.

Is there anything I can do to ensure he doesn’t have another episode?

Any Hill’s urinary care c/d alternatives that you’ve used that work? I love my cat (6 months recently diagnosed inflamed bladder), but I can’t justify spending the outrageous prices of their food. I paid $172 for a 17 pound bag of dry food and 12 5.5 oz cans of wet food today.

So please let me know what’s worked for you and yours cat(s).

Any Hill’s urinary care c/d alternatives that you’ve used that work? I love my cat (6 months recently diagnosed inflamed bladder), but I can’t justify spending the outrageous prices of their food. $66 for a 24 pack of 3 oz canned wet food and $40 for a 3.5 pound of dry food is insane and beyond out of budget.

So please let me know what’s worked for you and yours cat(s).

My 6 month old boy has urinary inflammation (inflamed bladder) and was prescribed this wet food by the ER vet last night. He ate a small amount this morning, then ate more a couple hours later after I heated it up. It seems that he just wants dry food now, which I can’t give him at all. I tried giving him more of his wet food and he has zero interest now. I want to pull my hair out. Especially because I need to start giving him his anti inflammatory pill starting tomorrow which I’m sure he won’t take on his own without it being crushed up and put in his food. I don’t know what to do now.

My 6 month old boy had to go to the ER late last night to find out he has an inflamed bladder. He was constantly going in and out of the litter box with little to no urine coming out. The doctor gave me this prescription wet food to feed him 3 times a day along with starting his antibiotic pill I’ll likely have to crush up and put in his food. The problem is I work 11am-8pm shifts. I don’t know if I should wake up extra early to feed him and then try and feed him again before I leave the house? Then feed him once I get home. I can’t go home during my lunch break unfortunately.

Had to bring in one of my 6 month old boys to the ER last night because he was constantly going in and out of the litter box every minute with little to no urine coming out. It was late, so I had to bring him to an ER. Tried bringing his bonded brother with him for comfort, but we couldn’t get him into a carrier. Girlfriend stayed home with him to keep him occupied.

We were there for about 2 and a half hours. Doctor told me he thankfully doesn’t have a urine blockage, but possibly just an inflamed bladder potentially caused by him being an anxious cat or the type of food or treats we’re giving him. They got some urine from him and are going to send it out for testing. They had to give him maropitant, onsior injectable, buprenorphine injection, SQ fluid therapy, and I’ll have to give him robenacoxib tablets starting tomorrow likely crushed up in his food every 24 hours, as well as 4 cans of Hill’s prescription diet urinary care wet food with a prescription to get more. Almost $700 later… 🫠 I’ve only had him and his brother for a month, so I hadn’t gotten pet insurance yet. A nurse recommended Trupanion (let me know if any of you have that for pet insurance and if it’s any good).

He was a bit loopy when I brought him home at 1 this morning. I just let him go in his room with his brother to reunite. His brother has been a jerk growling and hissing at him this morning though. I’m sure it’s because he smells different. He’s been trying to play with him running around him, but he still hasn’t been very playful at all since I brought him home. He ate a little bit of his wet food this morning, so I’ll have to try and give him more in a little while. Don’t know how I’m going to feed him 3 times a day if my girlfriend and I both work the same shifts.

I haven’t been this stressed in a long time. Words of encouragement or advice would be so greatly appreciated 🫶🏻

Update: Both boys almost never let us pet them unless they’re sleeping. My boy I brought into the ER last night just rubbed his head on my hand for the first time while being awake and I’m almost overwhelmed with emotion 🥲 Not sure if it’s because he knew I took care of him bringing him to get the help he needed or what. It feels so good though.

My girlfriend and I recently adopted two bonded brothers (six months old) about a month ago. They’re super active and still skittish/wary of us. Surprisingly very independent too. All we can really do is play with them as they still aren’t affectionate towards us at all (not even allowed to pet them unless they’re asleep or extremely tired), but we still love them regardless.

Everyday I can’t help but feel guilty leaving them home in their room while we go to work. We both work the same hours. They’re by themselves for about 9 to 9 and a half hours a day. We have to keep them in their room because they can be a little destructive if we’re not paying attention, never mind if we leave them by themselves unattended. It’s a big room for them though. There’s a big cat tree, cat bed, futon, food, water, litter box, PLENTY of toys, a windowsill for them to look out of, white noise machine, etc. They also play with each other a lot too wrestling each other.

I think about them all day while we’re working. When we come home they usually hide from us under the futon for a little while. On our days off we play with them all day and let them roam the house as much as they want.

I just hope that us being at work during a majority of the day doesn’t ruin the bond we’re trying to create with them.

My girlfriend and I adopted two 6 month old bonded brothers who were originally found feral at 3 months old. Both have been fixed and vaccinated prior to adopting. We’ve had them for 3 weeks now and they’re still very skittish of us (naturally). They’ve gotten better with time, but they still bolt when we walk near them and don’t allow us to pet them when they’re awake. The only time we really can is when they’re sleeping or when they’re very tired lying down. They will purr and one even starts drooling while I pet and scratch their chin/neck lol. They haven’t been hiding as much as they used to. Recently they’ve been laying on the end of our bed, but they don’t stay for very long. We always play with them when we’re not working and hand feed them treats, whether it’s churu or dry treats. We want them to be affectionate and cuddly with us so badly, but we know it probably won’t happen for a while.

How long did it take for your cats to be affectionate? When can we expect it to happen?

We just adopted these two bonded kittens (six month old brothers fixed and vaccinated) a few weeks ago and they still run from us when we get close to them. If I remember correctly they were found stray back in April or May. They’re very playful and we try to play with them when we’re not working. The only time we can really pet them is when they’re sleeping and they purr every time. When they’re awake it’s nearly impossible to pet them, and we so badly want them to be affectionate towards us.

How long did it take for your cats to be affectionate?

Yes, I’ve posted here recently. Yes, I’ve taken advice I was given, but Im looking for more or different advice.

My girlfriend and I adopted two bonded five month old kittens (neutered and vaccinated) a week ago. We’ve been talking about wanting a pair for the past year now. The opportunity came when a cat cafe nearby us had this bonded pair. When we visited them they were both skittish and shy. They would only play a little with us, but were mostly just wanting to be independent and on their own. When they were found, they were stray kittens. We brought them home a week later and they’ve been absolute menaces since. Every day they are progressively getting worse. I’ve had cats before, but I guess I’ve forgotten just how bad they can be in this rebellious kitten phase.

They like sleeping during the day, sometimes even awake during a lot of the day, and they party all night. We’ve tried e v e r y t h i n g. Maybe except for catnip, but I feel like that would just make the situation worse. Wand play multiple times a day when they’re awake and before bed, calming treats with melatonin, white noise machine, keeping them in their own room with plenty of toys and open blinds so they can sit on the windowsill and look outside. I’ve even tried taking the toys away at night, but I think that made it worse because of boredom (they act out). They will have zoomies for hours. We’ve been getting awful sleep since then because of how noisy they are. No, we can’t ignore it. Yes, I know this is kitten behavior. Their favorite thing to do is to jump off the top of their cat tree straight to the floor and meowing their heads off. They are constantly chirping at each other to communicate too. I’m pretty sure our downstairs neighbors can hear them because they’ll start retaliating by making a bunch of noise too, and it’s only a matter of time before we get a noise complaint because of them.

I’ve been awake with them for hours now trying to get them to chill out, but of course I can’t get them to do anything. Any other words of advice would be greatly appreciated, because I’m going insane. I really don’t want to bring them back, but I feel this has done more harm than good for us, and this is coming from someone who absolutely loves cats and has been a cat person their whole life.

Please help.