My parents control my every movement at 19 am I wrong for wanting basic autonomy? (long post, need honest opinions)

Salaam everyone.

I'm a 19 year old Muslim male, employed, don't drink/smoke/do drugs,

pray all five prayers without exception (sometimes delayed but never

missed). I live with my parents in Europe. I need honest perspectives

because I genuinely don't know if I'm the problem.

This morning after Fajr I tried to leave the house to go work at a

café. My mother blocked me and said if I leave without telling her

exactly where I'm going, I should leave my keys and take my clothes.

Last night she was crying and apologizing to me. This morning same

threats resumed.

This is a monthly pattern. There is no month without major conflict.

\- Parents demand a significant monthly financial contribution even

though both work and have income

\- I had a government study grant years ago that was deposited into

their account I never received it

\- During Ramadan last year I was not allowed to eat suhoor or iftar

at home I had to eat hidden after the adhans

\- On Eid I ate breakfast alone at a café after prayer because the

home environment was too tense my father called me disrespectful

\- I have a physical condition from childhood I won't detail

it is permanent

  1. Am I islamically wrong for wanting to leave the house without

    providing my exact location to my parents at 19?

  2. Is the monthly financial demand islamically valid if both

    parents are employed?

  3. Am I ʿāq for wanting to move out and live independently?

I maintain adab. I don't insult them. I keep my deen clean.

But I feel like no matter what I do, I'm always the problem.

Honest answers only please, even if I'm wrong.

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u/coffynz — 6 days ago

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u/coffynz — 2 months ago

Vinted & Hacienda

Bueno a lo que vengo y a lo que le interesa a la mayoría de la gente que empieza o ya se encuentra centrada en la reventa en vinted u otras plataformas.

Pienso empezar a vender artículos nuevos en Vinted, compro artículos en persona pago en efectivo entonces para Hacienda y deducciones creo que no es posible porque el REBU aplica únicamente a productos de segunda mano y que tengas facturas etc...

La cosa es que pues pienso publicar quizás como máximo 3 artículos semanales, cada uno digamos de valor como máximo 200€ a lo extremo digamos.

Pienso únicamente abrirme autónomo si todo va bien y tal hasta que me pidan el DAC7. Todo lo que se venderia no es ni falso ni replica, todo original lo único es que es exento de facturas y tal para justificar las compras.

Alguien que tenga experiencia con reventa en general y vinted si es posible. La pregunta cuestión etc es como estructurarlo todo debidamente para minimizar ambos impuestos cuando toque etc. Espero que también sirva de ayuda a otros.

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u/coffynz — 2 months ago

Wusla gauging interest in a Muslim professional network. Would you use this?

Salaam everyone.

Quick question for the community do you actually feel connected to other Muslim professionals in your field? Or does it feel like we're all scattered across LinkedIn, random Telegram groups, and masjid WhatsApps with no real structure?

I'm exploring building Wusla Arabic for "connection" a professional home for Muslims at every stage. Whether you're at a FAANG company, freelancing, building a startup, or just quietly exploring your options while visa-dependent.

Nothing is built yet. I'm talking to real people first before writing a single line of code.

If you have 2 minutes, I'd love your honest input link in comments. Your answers literally shape what this becomes.

Fill the form : https://tally.so/r/44YK8Y

u/coffynz — 2 months ago

¿Os han colado costes ocultos en el banco?

A mí me da mucha rabia cuando vas al banco, te explican el tipo de interés y luego resulta que el seguro obligatorio, la comisión de apertura y el resto te suben lo que pagas un huevo.

¿A vosotros os ha pasado algo así? Hipoteca, préstamo, cuenta corriente, lo que sea. ¿Alguna vez habéis calculado lo que realmente pagáis vs lo que os vendieron?

Pregunto porque estoy intentando entender si esto le pasa a mucha gente o solo a los que no leen la letra pequeña (que tampoco está tan clara la mayoría de veces).

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u/coffynz — 3 months ago

Shopify ate $340 of my revenue and I only found out by accident

Was going through Stripe last week and noticed a bunch of failed payments I never knew about.

Shopify sent one generic email and that was it. Manually messaged a few customers on Instagram and recovered about half.

Is there literally no way to automate this or is everyone just eating these losses?

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago

Shopify ate $340 of my revenue and I only found out by accident

Was going through Stripe last week and noticed a bunch of failed payments I never knew about.

Shopify sent one generic email and that was it. Manually messaged a few customers on Instagram and recovered about half.

Is there literally no way to automate this or is everyone just eating these losses?

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago
▲ 13 r/SaaSAcquire+1 crossposts

Got $1k, want to buy a small SaaS

Budget is under $1k, no niche preference I just want something real, not an idea on a napkin.

I'm a builder, not a suit. I code fast (AI-assisted, full-stack, can pick up whatever mess you left behind).

I speak Arabic, Spanish, English, and French, so if your thing has customers or growth potential in MENA, I can actually talk to them.

What I need: some paying users already, even if it's just $50-200/month. Not zero. Simple enough that I can run it alone after a handover call.

Skip it if you need me to keep you on payroll or it's five people's worth of tech debt.

Drop what you've got below or DM me. I move fast when the deal makes sense.

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago

¿Por qué hay tantos pisos vacíos en España mientras todo el mundo se queja de no encontrar alquiler?

Llevo días dándole vueltas a esto. Según el INE hay 3,8 millones de viviendas vacías en España, un 14% del parque total. Y al mismo tiempo media España está desesperada buscando piso. Algo no cuadra.

He preguntado a gente que conozco con pisos vacíos y la respuesta casi siempre es la misma: no es que no quieran el dinero, es que les da palo. Miedo a que no paguen, miedo a okupas, papeleo, o simplemente el piso lo heredaron y ahí sigue, cogiendo polvo.

¿Tenéis piso vacío o conocéis a alguien? Me interesa de verdad: ¿qué es lo que más os frena a alquilarlo? ¿El miedo a que se líe, no tener tiempo, otra cosa?

Lo pregunto porque estoy montando algo para quitar esa fricción y antes de seguir quiero entender bien por qué pasa esto.

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago
▲ 7 r/OSINT

anyone here actually pay for osint tools or nah

anyone actually pay for stuff that checks if ur info got exposed somewhere or nah.

what makes u trust one enough to pull out a card/wallet for it

also most of u checking ur own exposed stuff or digging on other ppl?

genuinely curious how this sub uses these tools vs just hoarding bookmarks lol

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago

El Mercado Laboral esta tan mal?

Hola a todos, hoy vengo con un pequeño "debate" respecto al mercado laboral en españa. He vivido y me he criado aqui toda mi vida he cursado desde la primaria hasta el grado superior donde sigo actualmente. Estoy en busca literalmente de trabajo ya como varios meses y no doy ni una. No es que busque trabajo para gente altamente cualificada sino que ni para trabajar en el campo o fregar platos encuentro. No es que el salario sea decente o no, es que ni hay osea me postulo entrego curriculums hago literalmente todo estoy en todas las ETTs recientemente me he apuntado al inaem aver si surge algo pero sigo sin encontrar nada. Soy de Aragon, Zaragoza y honestamente no se como veis actualmente el mercado. La gente se queja de que los jovenes no queremos trabajar, cuando muchos estamos en busca de empleos que ni miran el curriculum. Entre broma y broma les ofreci a unos colegas de si me encontraban trabajo les pagaba una porcion % por "enchufarme"..... a dia de hoy sigo sin nada jajaja. Que sugerís?

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u/coffynz — 4 months ago