My parents control my every movement at 19 am I wrong for wanting basic autonomy? (long post, need honest opinions)
Salaam everyone.
I'm a 19 year old Muslim male, employed, don't drink/smoke/do drugs,
pray all five prayers without exception (sometimes delayed but never
missed). I live with my parents in Europe. I need honest perspectives
because I genuinely don't know if I'm the problem.
This morning after Fajr I tried to leave the house to go work at a
café. My mother blocked me and said if I leave without telling her
exactly where I'm going, I should leave my keys and take my clothes.
Last night she was crying and apologizing to me. This morning same
threats resumed.
This is a monthly pattern. There is no month without major conflict.
\- Parents demand a significant monthly financial contribution even
though both work and have income
\- I had a government study grant years ago that was deposited into
their account I never received it
\- During Ramadan last year I was not allowed to eat suhoor or iftar
at home I had to eat hidden after the adhans
\- On Eid I ate breakfast alone at a café after prayer because the
home environment was too tense my father called me disrespectful
\- I have a physical condition from childhood I won't detail
it is permanent
Am I islamically wrong for wanting to leave the house without
providing my exact location to my parents at 19?
Is the monthly financial demand islamically valid if both
parents are employed?
Am I ʿāq for wanting to move out and live independently?
I maintain adab. I don't insult them. I keep my deen clean.
But I feel like no matter what I do, I'm always the problem.
Honest answers only please, even if I'm wrong.