u/confessionsofa_YA

Hey guys, really need a sanity check on this situation because I feel like ???

My ex 19M and I 21F got back together (begged me btw on all my phones) after he moved back to his country. Things seemed fine, so we went ahead and booked flights for me to go visit him. Then literally a month later, HE drops that he "lost feelings" and can't do long distance.His concerns is I’m going to leave him again and be heartbroken.But instead of just ending it, he suggests I still fly out and come visit as "just friends." We lived together for about a year BTW before he left

Where it gets weird:
On Tuesday, he randomly flips his stance and tells me I shouldn't come because I'm "going to be sad or uncomfortable." He kept having this narrative.When I stayed cool and he wanted to give me half the amount.
So I decided I'm still going to go and enjoy my vacation. I accepted the "friends" dynamic, booked my own tours, and casually mentioned I was going to meet up with another friend in his city for a night.

The shift:
The SECOND I mentioned having other plans and meeting a friend, he was just being a little controlling with the ???….

And he asks ‚but u have to tell me when u are going to see your friend so we can plan for that‘

What plan 😭😭

We’re both young, so I’m trying to figure out what is actually going on here. Is this just pure stress or is he trying to keep tabs on me while keeping his options open? How would you guys handle staying at his place with him acting like this? I think his idea of being friends would not work out

For context: we broke up recently and I decided to deactivate then reactivate my social media because I needed to contact a friend. He just so happened to be the 2nd person in my DMs and I happened to see something.

stage 1: non-chalant and freedom.

Breaking up with you sounds so robotic and almost like they did not spend part of their life with you. Simply seeming like they do not care.

stage 2:

- going to the Club (the next day, maybe coincidence)

-for the first time ever in his entire life, he updates his instagram profile picture. He is not a media person but he decides to poses a selfie with his new hair cut (another coincidence...??). Can someone tell me I am not crazy but like it is such a foreign concept to me. THIS IS ALL TOO ENTERTAINING TO ME..

stage 3:

want to guess what happens next???

On the other hand, reddit has been helping me to manage my emotions by allowing me to hear people`s perspectives and such that I do not feel too much pain or bothered. Just thought I wanted to share something.

For context: we broke up recently and I decided to deactivate then reactivate my social media because I needed to contact a friend. He just so happened to be the 2nd person in my DMs and I happened to see something.

stage 1: non-chalant and freedom.

Breaking up with you sounds so robotic and almost like they did not spend part of their life with you. Simply seeming like they do not care.

stage 2:

- going to the Club (the next day, maybe coincidence)

-for the first time ever in his entire life, he updates his instagram profile picture. He is not a media person but he decides to poses a selfie with his new hair cut (another coincidence...??). Can someone tell me I am not crazy but like it is such a foreign concept to me. THIS IS ALL TOO ENTERTAINING TO ME..

stage 3:

want to guess what happens next???

On the other hand, reddit has been helping me to manage my emotions by allowing me to hear people`s perspectives and such that I do not feel too much pain or bothered. Just thought I wanted to share something.