I legit just zone out after I hear this 💀💀💀💀💀 like get out of here man.

I am also so upset when I see women leave feminist spaces after dating. Like please please pleaseeeeee stick to your morals. Feminism isn’t a fashion statement, it’s a movement to protect our rights !!!!!!

Do you guys have stories of women becoming bigots after dating men ? One of my past friends said to my face that she hopes I lose my job to AI lmfao.

Idk.

I thought that I was ugly/ unconventional because I got harassed by men and women and nobody found me sexually attractive.

I guess the definition has changed to dating men and having sex and that somehow still makes you ugly ?

This is a genuine question by the way. I mean, if this isn’t appropriate for the sub then feel free to remove it but …. Ngl …. TUW feels like new wave FGSJ.

Why is this happening ??? Will I get more hours & shifts the longer that I stay or no ???? Why did they lie to me about full time ????? Is it even worth staying ? These are my second roll of shifts after my first payroll, and they all add up to 13.5 hours with provincial minimum wage.

What do you want the ultra virgin to tell you???????? Oh wow so cool your sex must’ve been so cool and awesome wow pregnancy scare wow what do YOU WANT ME TO SAY IF SEX doesn’t APPARENTLY DOESN’T FUCKING MATTER

Every single fucking day with this shit. I’ll see a girl that’s like

“oh well I’d had sex and it wasn’t even good anyways so you guys need to calm down!!”

Like, shut up ?????? Do you know where you are ??????????? Sex is a completely normal thing to want and I’m sick of being told that it’s not a big deal. That’s for ME to decide !

If you have a body count and if you’re pretty enough for hookups, how are you even a femcel ? You’re obviously just average. Knock off with this nonsense lol people need to read the rules more often.

20 F (who grew up in Canada) here !

I’ve recently moved out for school in a different region of the country, there are so many other black people/ ethnic people in general here!!!! People don’t stare at me or try to touch my hair or ask me about my English and I love it!!!!

My parents are first generation, I and my sibling are second generation. We grew up in an EXTREMELY white suburb in Atlantic Canada (LOL). We are 10 years apart in age, but when we attended school, we were the only black (and actually, the only non-white) kids in our elementary and middle schools.

Our high school was a tad different. When I attended, there were about 80 black kids out of 1000 students but it still wasn’t enough. I felt so disconnected from everyone. Kids used to spread so many rumours about me and I ended up doing so much shit in high school alone, nobody asked me out to all of these big dances or to any parties, outcasted pretty much.

Fuck

I’m 99% sure that my parents did this on purpose. My dad would go on about how he haaaates white people and how I’m not allowed to have any white friends but then he raised me in a place where he knew I wouldn’t be accepted for who I truly am.

- He never let me wear my natural hair

- He said it was stupid that I wanted to leave the province for school in order to be around more people like me

- He said that white people will never like me for any reason

I was so alone. He wasn’t poor either, he was an accomplished scientist with a pretty notable degree. He made so much money that he could buy several vehicles & go on vacations. He did this because he wanted I and my sibling to grow up isolated so that way we’d rely on him and my mother.

Does this theory make sense to you guys ?

Does anybody else relate to this ?

Do you guys also have suburb trauma ?

TL;DR : (I think) that my father raised I and my sibling in a suburb in order to further isolate us.

I don’t know, it’s Monday afternoon and I’m bored as fuck. Let’s talk about what you’d like a (potential) partner.

I don’t even mean this in a Disney channel movie type of way, but I find it easy to find pretty much any man attractive. These would be my dealbreakers though

- extremely overweight or underweight (not counting chubby men or twinks)

- no aspirations

- doesn’t work or isn’t looking for work

- doesn’t drive or isn’t attempting to get a license (unless they’re legally not allowed to apply for one)

- no hobbies

- doesn’t like reading proper books or watching films

- bigoted (duhh)

- poor hygiene (duhhhh)

I don’t care about race or height tbh, dating a short guy would be cute because we could be like Jessica rabbit & Rodger rabbit lol.

As for race, another black man would understand the way I navigate through society the most, but race isn’t a big deal to me. It’s just not on my mind whenever I find a man attractive.

As somebdoy who is in engineering : I actually don’t care if somebody isn’t in university, my bare minimum is finishing high school. I truly do believe that not everybody needs to be in higher education. They still need an independent income tho.

Keep in mind that I’m saying all of this as a 20 year old with no goddamn experience lmfao. I’d love to hear your thoughts !

Honestly guys ? As much as I want a boyfriend, I’d appreciate a good network of friends first.

Not that I never want to date or that my friends will replace romantic relationships, but I’m not social at all. I’ve had acquaintances over the course of the 12 grade education system, but not a consistent “best friend”.

We could know each other for years and yet I probably haven’t even visited their houses or even had a sleepover or travel with them. Things that are just so normal for other people.

Even when I think that I’m starting to get closer with somebody, they suddenly get romantically involved and then they ditch me and I hate it.

A theory that I have is that this was my reality because I lived in a majority white suburb in a fairly desolate place in Canada as a second generation dark skinned black immigrant. People would spread so many rumours about me growing up & even when I got fairly close to a person, my parents wouldn’t let me get any closer because “white people are evil” (then why raise me in a white suburb ?).

Even when girls are like “I have no friends!”, they usually have a boyfriend, a good relationship with their parents and or siblings, or they do have friends and they’re lying. Or they’re an “introvert” (aka, they cancel last minute and wonder why people dislike them)

I know that this isn’t a usual topic for the subreddit, but I’ve been so socially starved for so long that even platonic relationships feel so foreign to me now.

TL;DR : a good balance of friends and a partner is the key to a good psyche

NSFW warning out of respect :

Come one month, it will have been 1 year since I attended my senior prom (our one and only prom) alone. It hurt so much,

- I was already in and out of the psych ward
- failing most of my classes
- got kicked out of my house
- and all I did was go to school, work, and then come home

My friends never bothered to see me, they used that stupid “oh I’m introverted and I bet you’re busy from work” excuse, yet I always had time to drive them places as a free taxi.

I was told that it was no big deal, that I need to learn to enjoy my own company and that men & sex aren’t important. I was told that prom is will be fun, even if I go alone !

So I went alone, and it was atrocious.

I ate dinner with my (abusive) family, did a grand march, went to prom for 30 minutes, and then drove home.

No grandiose sleepover
No getting wasted with friends
No guy who was obsessed with how “beautiful“ I was that night

Nothing. I wish I worked another shift or just smoked weed at home.

When I went to work, I lied and I said that I did things with friends even though I didn’t. I marched alone during grand march for 1 hour.

My 2 closest “friends” (who knew how lonely I was)

-one of them went with a sophomore
-and the other went with a girl from a different school who had their prom on a different day anyways.

I still feel really ugly. When I first got to uni, people really loved talking about HS (fair enough) but I had no beautiful and fun photos to share of myself.

However !!!…….

maybe I’m just coping like the bitter ugly black chick I am but, I’m starting to rationalize my feelings I guess.

I hope I can find a new therapist soon so that way I can forward my journey but, I’m realizing that HS is very lame.

Boys (in high school anyways) only date girls who they know are socially acceptable to date, and vice versa with girls dating boys.

If parents don’t like your partner, they can end it with zero questions asked. Therefore, queer & interracial relationships are automatically forbidden in most cases.

So many of my friends (more like previous friends now lmfao) have clung onto their lame vapid HS boyfriends because they think that they need to stay with the first person who gave them attention/ had sex with them. Most people don’t even have a proper career path at 16/17/18/19.

And a high school diploma is given out to everyone. My average was probably a 55% and then these kids with 95% averages got the same participation award as I did.

I’m trying to embrace my natural hair. I understand that black women are seen as the least attractive or whatever but I can’t change being black so why fight it. My HS was 50 black kids vs 1000 (and it was still the most diverse schools in the area lmfao) non-black kids. In my elementary/ middle school, I was the only ethnic child, everybody else was white.

I want to be an engineer. I want to graduate with a masters degree someday. I hope that I can find a guy obsessed with me and that I can earn the graduation I was robbed of at 18 yrs old.

I want all of us to find this motivation within us. So many outcasts like us had garbage teen years and they still managed to enjoy life.

I love walking around town, I see so many unconventional women and or men together with families. I definitely agree that men are vapid as fuck, but a TRUE man will love you and not give a fuck about what his friends think.

TL;DR : teen love is vapid and not worth it because they only date who they know is socially acceptable to date. Please stop hyping it up, lmfao.

I remember being friends with a chick (we ain’t friends anymore lmfaooooo) ANYWAYS. She told me about how dating “ won’t solve all my issues “ and how “ sex isn’t all that “

Then guess what

She’d tell me about all of the sex and pregnancy scares and what not that she had with her boyfriend

All while saying that it wasn’t that good and that it didn’t matter

What was I supposed to say ??? I had no experience so idk what she expected me to add . Bragging I guess, we aren’t friends anymore but it’s still picking at me because I’m a graduate and I’m still a KHHV >:(

Honestly bruh, people won’t like me saying this but dating would solve so many issues for myself . My self esteem would be RAISEDD !!!!!! I’d still need to finish university, get my money right, make REAL friends, but at least I’d know that I’m not unlovable.

Will a man ever love a monoracial black woman ? Who knows

Honestly, the older I get, and the more friends stop talking to me because of boyfriends (ew!) I get more time to myself whether I like it or not.

I love

- reading
- drawing
- video games
- masturbation
- films & tv
- browsing 4chan and Tumblr
- long YouTube videos
- listening to albums
- coding & fiddling with technology
- cars
- sewing

I channel my time into these things because I’ve given up on men ( and I’ve been unemployed because I was a victim of mass layoffs and I can’t find work 💔💔💔💔💔 ) but I still want to manage to be happy to SOME degree. I want to leave behind a legacy even if it won’t be with children :(((

I hate how women give up this shit once they started dating. I was friends with a girl for years and then she started dating a m*n and then she started supporting AI, made fun of me for not supporting AI, and then stopped acknowledging my birthday. All that for a guy who treated her like shit. We need to pride ourselves on the fact that we can find enjoyment away from men, and even if we do end up dating, we can never let these wonderful things go!!!!

Please tell me if you share any of my hobbbjes, or even if you don’t, just tell me about a hobby you love !!!! Even a leisure activity that isn’t a skill !!!

I hate sex-havers so much. I’m almost 20, of course I’m horny, I’m not poisoned by the patriarchy or being pressured or some bullshit, I just want to have SAVE SEX !!!!

I have to explain SAFE because HOOKUPS are NOT SAFE !!!!! …………. Not even for men, you don’t know that person well enough . They could assault you or have an STD or do anything else, I am not that desperate/ stupid .

Wanting to have sex isn’t hypersexual . Prostitutes, rapists, OnlyFans creators, people who masturbate in public, etc etc ARE hypersexual . I am just touch starved and I don’t want to hear your shit about how “ sex doesn’t matter “ .

Sex matters so damn much, a relationship can’t fix everything but it sure as fuck will fix certain issues in my life . Getting a bone put in a cast won’t solve your cavity but you have one problem solved now…..