Feeling defeated, trim time again
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Feeling defeated, trim time again

Every time I try to dedicate growing out my hair, it gets damaged beyond my shoulders. I baby it. I sleep in bonnets and silk pillowcases. I take iron supplements. I try to eat healthy, get enough sleep. But every time without fail I end up having to cut all my progress off.

I do have trichotillomania and I play with the ends a lot, rarely pulling, but I am touching my hair a lot. Could this be why?

Help me feel better about this 😭 I already made a cut appt for 2 weeks from now to probably take at least 4".

u/cornyhawkins — 5 days ago

I don't hate you. I just remembered who you showed me you were. And I believe you.

I heard this really powerful quote today and it altered my brain chemistry a bit.

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I've been NC with my Mom since Christmas and my Dad since February. I've written countless letters to them over the last decade hoping they'd have an aha moment. Countless family therapy sessions. After all of it, my parents showed me they never actually wanted to know me as an individual person, but rather an extension of themselves. They couldn't remember things about me that I'd shared with them, didn't care to keep track of important things they had of mine, and repeatedly showed me who they were.

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At 32, I am finally free and it feels so good to feel strong and powerful in this decision. I no longer need to feel disappointed. I have surrounded myself with friends that genuinely care about me.

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It hurts to know that they will never change. I grieve the parents I wish I had. I wonder how much more of a person I could have been, sooner.

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u/cornyhawkins — 22 days ago