u/cottagecorebaker

` . ° 🌷 ʚɞ ¡ hii internet people ! 🌷 ʚɞ ° . ´

~ ♡ ~ {○.○} my name is arlowe , my pronouns are she/they (amab) , and i figured to give posting a second shot . perhaps decorating the post will heighten my chances ? i don't know . 😹

ミ★ . ` 🥐 the best description of my personality would be caring and loving , kind , sweet , curious , and smart ! hobbies include writing (fanfiction) , gaming (minecraft mostly) , listening to music (pop / rnb / indie pop / ambient) and watching shows (fantasy + cartoons + sitcoms) . i like chatting about mentally stimulating topics but also goofy stuff . i'd say i'm funny , but don't all bad comedians think the same of themselves? bit of a flirt too , but nothing crazy .

* ➶ ⊹⊱ 🎁 what i'm looking for is a slow bond with a guy . start off friendly then we see where it goes . location isn't a problem for me as long as we work out a way to communicate (i'm south african | gmt+2) . someone who's equally interested in me as i am in them ; it shouldn't feel like an interview on either end . i'm graysexual to say the least (it's hard finding an accurate label) . my picture is on my profile , so i'd like to see a picture early on as well . my preferred age range is 19-26 .

🌱 looking forward to seeing who i meet 🌻

hii y'all!! i'm a queer nonbinary person in search of a romantic connection. i'm open to guys and transmasc people as well. i just didn't know what tag to use for the second one. pronouns are she/they.

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i'm from nelspruit. i'm a creative person who loves to write stories; a lot of fanfiction to be honest. i'm a bit spiritual but not religious. a libra if that's of any importance.

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i'm a pop/rnb listener and i like gaming.

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i'm hopeful to meet someone nice! :)

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Hii everyone! My name's Arlowe and I'm on a friend search again. For the longest time, I couldn't get into the gaming space because of a bad phone but I finally have a tablet to game on. It's no console but it'll do! Oh, my pronouns are she/they, but I do like she/her more.

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I'm a creative person and a bright spirit! Hopefully you can feel the sun radiating through the screen. I like a good laugh and am funny myself. So I've been told. 😅 Anyways I mostly play Among Us and Minecraft but am open to other games. I know it sounds like i'm 8yr old but I promise I'm not!!

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Anyone between 19 and 26 is welcome! I'm looking forward to playing and chatting. We can even play right now!

I (19F) seem to have upset my friend (18F) for setting a clear boundary with her. I'll call her Mary to retain some level of privacy.

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Mary and I were having a conversation on Saturday evening, in which she checked up on me and I did the same. In my response, I sent a 2-minute 40-something second voice note where I talked about my day and asked her about hers. She responded at midnight or so with a 28-minute voice note. I woke up to this and asked her to please shorten it for me because 28 minutes is a long time.

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This was not the first time she'd done this, as I've received 26-minute, 22-minute, and even 31-minute voice notes. She's a talkative person and uses these voice notes to think or ponder on things. Not to say I don't want to listen to her, but I've once told her she can make herself a vocal journal for things like these. I have one too. Then we can talk about our own stuff in our chat.

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She said one time that she's glad she can use me as her diary. That statement did not sit well with me, but I tried to find some positivity out of it that maybe she feels comfortable to tell me her deepest, darkest secrets.

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So, I texted her after seeing the 28-minute voice note to ask if she can shorten it for me. I then said we can set a 15-minute limit for our voice notes. If she has anything longer to say, she can just give me a call. I genuinely would not have had a problem. I communicated that clearly. She then responded saying "Okay, thanks for letting me know. I was just talking about what i got up to in the day and what i did with my friends, and also that I'll respond late to you since I'll be at church for a long time."

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Okay, I asked if she would rather type what she said in the voice note because she deleted it. I noticed that she lied about the last line of the text she responded with because I listened to bits and pieces of the voice note. She ignored my message since Sunday.

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Part of me feels guilty for telling her the truth, but another part of me says to respect myself and my boundaries. I don't want to lose another friend this year, but I honestly can't stick around with someone who gets mad when I draw lines.

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So am I the asshole?

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Edit: Thank you for the replies everyone. Some people brought it to my attention that it's not necessarily a boundary thing when I thought it was. I asked Mary why she ignored me, and she said she just had nothing to say. I then told her I knew she was quiet because of what happened and that she can stay quiet if she wants to. I won't sit and feel guilty for being honest about not wanting to listen to something that long. I feel a bit better about the situation but it sucks that someone would get mad at me for that.

Hii Redditors! My name's Arlowe and I'm 19 (going on 20 this year). I'm nonbinary transfemme, so my pronouns are she/her.

I'm quite a sensitive soul and often radiate joy, but sometimes it's difficult to do so because some people are always gloomy. I try to be as positive as I can be, because the world is a pretty colourful place. It's the people that make it cruel! I'm imaginative too and love anything creative! I write stories, poetry, songs and want to try drawing soon. I'm also quite the nerd!

Connecting with people tends to be hard for me because I overcompensate and get disappointed when I see that others don't value me as much as I do them. This and being an introvert just makes things a million times harder, but I'm willing to try again and again.

My music taste isn't too consistent; I love pop, hip-hop, a bit of rock and some folk. My favourite artists are all women too! Try to guess who. 🤔 😸 I also love cartoons and usually watch Miraculous Ladybug, The Owl House, The Loud House, a bit of Wylde Pak and Craig of The Creek!

A little description of myself: I'm choco-coated as I like to say 😸, super short (5'5"), fairly slim with the cutest belly known to man, and carry a tiny bit of a mustache. The constant shaving brings it back faster so I let it sit there sometimes. 😹 I've also been told I have big and pretty eyes, but that's up for debate with whoever.

As far as what I'm looking for; I want something with a friendly start but can develop into more as time goes by! An age range of 19-23 is ideal! I like people who text in paragraphs because we get to talk about stuff on a deeper level than usual. Those one-line responses aren't my thing! I also don't mind sharing a pic!

Looking forward to seeing who pops up! :)